Calm Parenting Podcast
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10 Concrete Ways to Stop Kids From Making Excuses, Blaming Others, &…
10 Concrete Ways to Stop Kids From Making Excuses, Blaming Others, &…
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Have a strong-willed child who doesn't respond to consequences, argues like an attorney, and refuses to do things your way? Good! You're in the right place. Celebrate Calm Founder Kirk Martin has given over 1,000,000 parents and teachers around the world practical, life-changing parenting strategies to stop power struggles, yelling, and defiance NOW. Based on work with 1,500 challenging kids (many with AD/HD, OCD, ODD, ASD, etc.) in his home, and years spent in classrooms, Kirk's approach is refreshingly practical, honest, and laugh-out-loud funny! Questions? Visit us at www.CelebrateCalm.com or email us directly at [email protected]
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- 10 Concrete Ways to Stop Kids From Making Excuses, Blaming Others, & Giving Up On Themselves #655 · 23 minIt can break your heart (and cause you immense anxiety!) to see your child with so much potential give up on themselves before they even start. So how can you spark that internal…
- 5 Ways to Stay In Control…When Kids Are Out of Control & Push Your Buttons #654 · 24 minDo tantrums, backtalk, sibling fights, messes, noise and kids stalling or procrastinating stress you and make you want to snap?! Of course! But reacting fuels the very power…
- How To Turn An Angry Child…Into A Resilient Child Who Can Hear, “No.” #653 · 25 min"I hate you!" "You're too strict!" Whether it’s a tantrumy toddler hitting over jealousy of a new sibling, an anxious child slamming doors over a simple request, or a teen/tween…
- "You Can’t Make Me!" 5 Scripts When Kids Choose Harsh Consequences Over Cooperation & Reflexively Say No #652 · 25 minIf your child's default reaction to simple requests is immediate pushback, even if that results in a harsh consequence—or if they're actively rejecting your family’s values…
- The 2-Step Discipline Reset That Stops Kids From Lying & You From Reacting #651 · 21 minWe are kicking off our Black Friday Sale with a game-changing idea you can practice tonight! Your child messes up—again. When an upset parent or teacher calls to report the…
- You’ll Hate Me For Saying This: You Must Ignore Your Child’s Initial Bluster! #650 · 26 min"This is dumb." "You can't make me." "I'm not doing that!" When your strong-willed child spits out immediate pushback, your natural instinct is to correct their attitude and nip…
- How to Pick Your Battles & Parent With Flexibility, Not Force #649 · 23 minIt’s so hard raising a strong-willed child! Traditional parenting truths like being consistent don’t work with this child. You’re clear with expectations, your child pushes back…
- When Kids Reject Your Help & Refuse To Listen to You #648 · 22 minYour child is visibly struggling with something they care about. You step in to help make it easier, and instead of saying "thank you," they explode. Suddenly, you're locked in a…
- Script When An Angry, Frustrated, Anxious Child Is In Your Face & Feels Helpless #647 · 24 minDo you ever feel helpless when your child is melting down? Of course. Your child likely feels helpless as well. In this very personal and powerful episode, I give you the exact…
- Get Help For Your Child At School: Listen to Zero Reject From Understood.org · 32 minGetting your child the support they need at school shouldn’t feel like a fight. But for millions of families, it does. In Zero Reject, an investigative podcast from…
- Do This When There Are Power Struggles Over EVERYTHING & Kids Choose A Harsher Consequence #646 · 22 min“If you would simply do what I ask you to do, you would be done in 7 minutes. But you would rather argue with me for 7 hours or days or weeks or years and lose everything you…
- 7 Quick Ideas To Reset, Change Negative Momentum & Get Your Kids Back on Track #645 · 23 minIf you feel overwhelmed with the stress and demands of school, extracurriculars, and a challenging child, you are not alone. So let’s make 7 stress-free shifts to calm the chaos…
- 10 Ways to Get Kids to Care About School & Spark Internal Motivation #644 · 23 minYou have tried everything to get your kids to care about school—and nothing has worked. These are kids who cannot be externally motivated. How can you internally motivate…
- DO NOT Fight, Stress, and Destroy Your Child’s Confidence Over This #643 · 23 minI have watched countless families ripped apart, spending 18 years fighting with their kids over something that doesn’t matter. It destroys both your child’s confidence and your…
- The Secret to A More Adaptable, Flexible, Resilient Child #642 · 21 minDo you have a child who struggles when plans change, who becomes rigid and digs in, or who completely melts down and can’t recover? I want to show you how to teach kids of all…
- How To Use Strategic Silence: You Talk Less, Your Kids Listen More. #641 · 24 minWant your kids to exhibit self-control and actually be responsible for their own emotions? Then you must learn the power of strategic silence. Whether you’re dealing with a…
- How to Change Situations Quickly: Toddler Screaming, Teen Refusing, Child Losing It At Bedtime. #640 · 26 minYour kids ARE going to misbehave, not listen, refuse to help, scream when you say no, have meltdown at the worst times like bedtime. They may not live up to their potential so…
- A Back-Talking Kid, A Dad Who Feels Disrespected & A Mom Caught In The Crossfire. BIG NEW IDEA! #639 · 21 minYou have a strong-willed child who triggers you by talking back, blurting out, dawdling, having a messy room, doing things the hard way. Moms and Dads have different triggers…
- Messy Bedrooms, Messy Behavior: Get Kids to Be Responsible For Their Rooms & Relationships #638 · 24 minYou want your kids to clean up their rooms. You also want them to handle the inevitable frustration and disappointment of life's biggest messes—without throwing tantrums…
- Why Does Putting On Shoes Take 45 Minutes?! 10 Ways to Get Dawdlers Moving Faster! #637 · 22 minIf getting your kids out the door, into bed, or to school feels like preparing for combat, this episode is your rescue mission. Whether your child is naturally a dawdler…
- Why You Do NOT Want Kids to Be Immediately Obedient: Raising Fearless Leaders, Not Fearful Robots. #636 · 23 minDo you ever feel like you are doing something wrong because your strong-willed child doesn’t readily comply? Do you ever feel caught in the middle playing peacekeeper between a…
- Why “Name It To Tame It” & Punching Pillows Don’t Work For Intense Kids #635 · 22 minDeep breathing, punching pillows and “naming the emotion” sound great on paper—until you try them with an intense child. These traditional calming tools can actually…
- There Is Hope For Your ADHD Neurodivergent Child Who Can’t Focus (& 10 Ways to Stop Homework Battles) #634 · 22 minDo you have a child who would rather argue for 2 hours over homework rather than complete it in 20 minutes?! Those of us with ADHD or neurodivergent brains learn in different…
- Q&A With Casey: How Do You Repair Feeling Like “The Bad Kid”? #633 · 29 minCasey shares his first memory of feeling strong-willed and getting judged for it in school…and why it sticks with him to this day. He gives in-depth insight into how to repair…
- Why Kids Choose the Harder Path & Procrastinate: 10 Secrets to Stop Power Struggles #632 · 23 minIt would be so much easier if your kids would simply do things your way, but they won’t. They will procrastinate and create unnecessary stress. They will purposefully choose the…
- Disciplining & Loving Kids When They REALLY Mess Up : A Guide to Tough Talks & Tough Love #631 · 24 minYou and I have impulsive, emotional kids who are prone to sneaking screens or food at night and experimenting with porn, drinking, vaping, and drugs. They may steal your credit…
- Child Goes From 0-60 Emotionally? Lies When Confronted? 10 Quick Phrases to Calm Any Situation. #630 · 22 minIt’s easy to escalate situations. I want to make it easy to diffuse tense situations with intense kids. Even when they argue like attorneys, try to push your buttons, are…
- Why More Rigid Child Can’t Lose Games, Can Boss Siblings, Must Prove Their Point? #629 · 25 minWhy does losing a game trigger a massive meltdown? The same reason your kids boss siblings, obsess over fairness and have to prove their point, wear the same clothes and eat the…
- Scripts to Set Effective Boundaries With Critical Parents & In-Laws #628 · 24 minYour primary responsibility is to the family you created, not the family you came from. But standing your ground can feel scary with an intimidating, critical, or manipulative…
- “Your Boots Are Dumb & My Friend’s Mom is Better!” Turning Ugly Moments into Bonding Memories #627 · 23 min"Your boots are dumb and I don’t even like them!" "My friend’s Mom buys her better things." Ouch. Is this really what you envisioned when you decided to have kids? Whether your…
- Why Natural Consequences Backfire With Strong-Willed Children (And What Works) #626 · 23 minOur kids often see your boundaries and consequences as a challenge to overcome, not as something to avoid! They won’t give in…and neither should you. But this can lead to…
- Expect Big Battles From Morning to Midnight: Here’s Your 5-Step Game Plan #625 · 27 minMorning grumbling. After-school complaints. Grocery store meltdowns over cookies. Sibling fights while you’re trying to cook dinner, all while your spouse gets increasingly…
- Why Do I Have to Do This?" How to Motivate the Child Who Questions Everything #624 · 26 minDo you have a child who pushes your buttons, avoids hard tasks, and always asks "Why?" instead of just doing what you ask? It’s exhausting! It's easy to label them as lazy or…
- Q&A With Casey #1: Mistaking Intensity for Unhappiness, Feeling Like A Bad Kid & More #623 · 29 minWhat is it like to grow up as an intense, strong-willed child—and how does that intensity follow you into adulthood and marriage? In this special Q&A episode with my son, Casey…
- Let's Make Discipline Easy Without Being Authoritarian or Permissive #622 · 23 minWhat works with most kids backfires with our kids! So how can we discipline without being authoritarian or permissive? How can we go beyond consequences that don't work to…
- Adoption #2: Kids Who Never Seem Full or Happy, Unhealthy Attachments, Separation & Sleep Issues #621 · 24 minIn this special episode, I address these specific issues from parents of adopted kids: Our son will attach himself to anyone who gives him positive or negative attention. Our…
- Dreading Calls from School? The Ultimate Back-to-School Behavior Guide #620 · 22 minThere is nothing worse than the pit in your stomach when you see the school's number on your phone. If your child struggles with following directions, transitions, impulse…
- "I'm Not Going!" 5 Ways to Overcome School Refusal & Separation Anxiety #619 · 22 minYou know those morning meltdowns and battles are coming! What specific words and actions work when you have a child who struggles with separation anxiety, doesn’t like and…
- Do Adopted Kids Struggle More? Part #1 #618 · 34 minParents often believe if you adopt a child from birth and provide a loving home, that will mitigate most issues. It doesn’t usually work that way. There is no judgment here. Just…
- The Meltdown That Changed Me Forever (And 2 Phrases You Must Use To Teach Instead of Punish). #617 · 27 minThis is the day I realized I was so consumed with how my son’s attitude made me feel, that I wasn’t actually helping him. I needed him to behave... so I could behave. In this…
- Stop the Stand-Offs: Real-Life Fixes for Your 5, 10, or 15-Year-Old #616 · 20 minEver find yourself locked in a screaming match with your strong-willed child and suddenly realize, "Wait... I’m arguing with a five-year-old?" Whether you're dealing with a…
- Questions Parents Are Afraid to Ask Out Loud: Do You Agree or Disagree With My Answers? #615 · 23 minWhat do you do when your child defies you at every turn, refuses to let go of clutter, or prefers their grandmother over you? In this jam-packed episode, Kirk tackles some of the…
- 5 Options to Get Kids To Do What You Ask (Chores, S’Mores & More) #614 · 23 minI want to give you options so you don’t have to choose between being a tyrant and a pushover in daily life. How can you use the tough approach without feeling guilty? When do you…
- Sibling Scripts: Your Summer Guide to Turn Provoking Into Peace #613 · 22 minUsually there’s a provoking child and the more compliant one who gets picked on and has a hard time speaking up. How can you get your strong-willed child to stop provoking…
- Parenting A Take-Charge Child Without Butting Heads Or Giving In #612 · 22 minIt’s easy to lock horns with a demanding, strong-willed child who barges into a room and declares what they are going to do…without asking your permission! Does your child ever…
- Social Skills Playbook: 10 Scripts For Kids Who Struggle With Friendships #611 · 22 minDo you have children who struggle to connect with kids their own age, miss social cues or act silly in class? Who dominate conversations, get bossy during play dates or with…
- Special Q&A With My Son, Casey? What Do You Want to Know? · 2 minI have two very important things to share with you that will take less than two minutes! If you could ask Casey anything about his experience as a strong-willed child, what would…
- Child Who Touches Hot Stove, Does Bare Minimum, Appears Self-Centered? #610 · 25 minDo you have a child who resists what you want first, refuses to do chores or anything the easy way, and insists on touching that hot stove? Who is not immediately obedient…
- Why Is EVERYTHING So Hard With This Child? A Guide to Make It Easier. #609 · 25 minWhat other parents take for granted can be a huge struggle for your child—and for you. Because you are likely that exhausted caregiver just trying to get through the day. Listen…
- Surviving Summer Vacation With Bored, Complaining Kids & Judgmental Relatives #608 · 25 minI am going to hit a lot of hot buttons in this episode with scripts and action steps. What exactly do you say when kids are bored or complain? How can you get grandparents and…
