IMPACT: Parenting with Perspective
by Ben Pugh
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About this podcast
This podcast will help parents of teens keep life's struggles as a teen, and as a parent of a teen, in perspective. Parents will learn real tools to help them help their teens. They will learn how to build a rock solid relationship with their teen so they will have a powerful impact and a positive influence on their teen's life.
Episodes
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- Modeling the Model · 18 min · Episode 336"Ask Ben a Question" Want your teen to manage his thoughts, feelings, and actions better? Start by managing your own. As parents, it's easy to see what our teens are doing wrong…
- How Your Thoughts Shape Your Parenting · 21 min · Episode 335"Ask Ben a Question" Have you ever thought, "If my teenager would just listen, I wouldn't get so upset"? Or maybe, "If he would just make better choices, I wouldn't worry so…
- Giving Your Teen More Freedom (And When to Step In) · 26 min · Episode 334"Ask Ben a Question" When should you put your foot down with your teenager? And when should you step back and let him make his own choices? It's a tough question. You want to…
- When You've Tried Everything With Your Teen: Theresa's Story · 51 min · Episode 333"Ask Ben a Question" Have you tried everything to help your teen, but nothing seems to work? Maybe you're tired of the fighting, yelling, and constant worry. Maybe you're scared…
- Reverse Procrastination: How to Turn Your Teen's Worst Habit Into a Strength · 32 min · Episode 332"Ask Ben a Question" Does your teen put off homework until the last minute, then somehow get it all done in a rush? Maybe you're tired of reminding him, checking his grades, and…
- What to Do When Your Teen Is Struggling but Refuses Help · 29 min · Episode 331"Ask Ben a Question" What do you do when your teen is struggling, but he doesn’t want help? Maybe he won’t talk to you. Maybe he refuses therapy or coaching. Maybe he doesn’t…
- Your Teen Doesn’t Need More Rules · 27 min · Episode 330"Ask Ben a Question" Your teen probably doesn’t need more rules. And he probably doesn’t need harsher consequences either. What he may need is better leadership. In this episode…
- What Better Boundaries With Your Teen Actually Look Like · 36 min · Episode 329"Ask Ben a Question" What do better boundaries with your teen actually look like? A lot of parents think better boundaries mean more rules, bigger consequences, or finally…
- Stop Trying to Break Your Strong-Willed Teen · 31 min · Episode 328"Ask Ben a Question" Does your teen question everything, push back, argue, or seem determined to do things his own way? That strong will can be exhausting. But it might also…
- Why Knowing What to Do With Your Teen Isn't Enough · 27 min · Episode 327"Ask Ben a Question" You know what to do. Stay calm. Don’t take it personally. Get curious. Hold the boundary. But then your teen pushes back, rolls his eyes, ignores you, or…
- Giving Your Teen a Voice Doesn’t Mean Giving Him the Final Say · 32 min · Episode 326"Ask Ben a Question" One of the biggest fears parents have about giving their teen more of a voice is this: “What if he thinks he’s in charge?” Maybe you’ve tried to compromise…
- Why Boundaries Are the Best Place to Start With Your Teen · 31 min · Episode 325"Ask Ben a Question" If everything feels like a fight with your teen, it can be hard to know where to start. Phones. Video games. Chores. Grades. Bedtime. Disrespect…
- Why Every Boundary Turns Into a Fight With Your Teen · 21 min · Episode 324"Ask Ben a Question" Have you ever set a simple boundary with your teen… and somehow ended up in a 45-minute argument? The boundary might not be the real problem. In this…
- 3 Back-to-School Rules Parents of Teens Should Break · 28 min · Episode 323"Ask Ben a Question" Back-to-school season can make parents feel like they need to manage everything. Grades. Homework. Bedtime. Phones. Missing assignments. Attitude. But what…
- You’re Practicing the Future You Fear · 18 min · Episode 322"Ask Ben a Question" Worrying about your teen may feel like part of being a good parent. But worry doesn’t protect your teen. It doesn’t predict the future. And it rarely helps…
- The Parenting Shift That Changed Everything With My Teen Son · 43 min · Episode 321"Ask Ben a Question" Have you ever felt like you're trying so hard to connect with your teen... but nothing seems to work? In this episode, I sit down with a former coaching…
- Stop Waiting for the “Better Version” of Your Teen · 24 min · Episode 320"Ask Ben a Question" What if your teen still wants to connect with you, just not in the way you expect? A lot of parents think, “My teen wants nothing to do with me.” He stays in…
- Stop Trying to Control Your Teen. Start Leading Instead. · 28 min · Episode 319"Ask Ben a Question" If you feel like you're always reminding, arguing, or trying to get your teen to make better choices, this episode is for you. Many parents think they need…
- Why Most Parenting Advice Makes Teen Problems Worse · 23 min · Episode 318"Ask Ben a Question" Most parenting advice sounds good. Be more consistent. Set better rules. Use better consequences. Say the right words. Stay calm. But what if the real…
- How This Teen Rebuilt Trust With His Parents · 45 min · Episode 317"Ask Ben a Question" What do you do when your teen wants more freedom, but the trust is broken? In this episode, I talk with Brayden, a teen I’ve coached who went from almost no…
- How to Stop Reacting and Start Enjoying Your Teen Again · 27 min · Episode 316"Ask Ben a Question" Do you feel like you are always reacting to your teen? You ask a question. They push back. You get frustrated. They shut down. Then you feel guilty. In this…
- How to Give Your Teen a Voice Without Letting Him Run the House · 28 min · Episode 315"Ask Ben a Question" Giving your teen a voice can feel risky. You want him to learn responsibility, but you also do not want him running the house. You want less pushback, but…
- When Your Teen Says “Later,” Ask This One Question · 25 min · Episode 314"Ask Ben a Question" When your teen says, “I’ll do it later,” it can feel like they are ignoring you, avoiding responsibility, or trying to start a fight. But “later” does not…
- 7 Ways To Overcome Mom Fatigue With Your Teen · 24 min · Episode 313"Ask Ben a Question" Summer with your teen should not feel like a full-time job. But if you are always reminding, chasing, checking, nagging, and managing everything, it is no…
- Why Your Boundaries Keep Turning Into Battles · 28 min · Episode 312"Ask Ben a Question" Do your boundaries with your teen always turn into fights? You ask him to get off the game, do his chores, go to bed, or follow a summer rule… and suddenly…
- The Real Reason You and Your Teen Keep Having the Same Fight · 22 min · Episode 311"Ask Ben a Question" Do you and your teen keep having the same fight over and over again? Maybe it’s about chores, screen time, sleep, attitude, or video games. And with summer…
- How to Raise a More Resilient Teen · 30 min · Episode 310"Ask Ben a Question" Is your teen struggling right now? Maybe he is stressed, frustrated, disappointed, or ready to give up. And as a parent, you may want to jump in and fix it…
- The Real Reason Your Teen Won’t Go to Bed · 30 min · Episode 309"Ask Ben a Question" Is your teen staying up too late, sleeping through alarms, and walking around tired all day? You might think your teen has a sleep problem. But what if sleep…
- Your Teen Isn’t the Problem… You Are (Here’s Why) · 30 min · Episode 308"Ask Ben a Question" If your teen keeps breaking the same rules… and nothing you try is working… this episode is for you. Most parents think they have a behavior problem. But…
- Your Teen Isn’t Lazy… You’re Just Looking at It Wrong · 34 min · Episode 307"Ask Ben a Question" Is your teen lazy… or are you just looking at it the wrong way? In this episode, we break down why your teen might not be motivated—and why it’s not what you…
- Why Your Teen Wants Independence But Avoids Responsibility · 36 min · Episode 306"Ask Ben a Question" In this episode, Ben and Nola Gephart talk about why teens want freedom but often avoid responsibility—and what parents can do about it. You’ll learn how to…
- Stop Repeating Yourself: Boundaries That Actually Work · 29 min · Episode 305"Ask Ben a Question" If you feel like you’re repeating yourself every day—and your teen still doesn’t listen—this episode is for you. “Be home on time.” “Do your homework.” “Get…
- This Book Wasn’t Written for Parents… But It Might Fix Your Relationship With Your Teen · 27 min · Episode 304"Ask Ben a Question" What if your teen isn’t the problem? Most parenting advice tells you to fix their behavior. Get them to listen. Change their attitude. But what if that’s…
- Why Saying “I’m Sorry” Isn’t Enough With Your Teen · 32 min · Episode 303"Ask Ben a Question" You said “I’m sorry”… But your teen is still upset. Now what? Most parents think an apology should fix things. But with teens, it often doesn’t—and that’s…
- Why Your Teen Feels Disconnected From You (And How to Fix It) · 28 min · Episode 302"Ask Ben a Question" Do you feel like your teen is pulling away? They don’t talk. They stay in their room. And nothing seems to work. Most parents think the problem is their…
- How to Build a Relationship Your Teen Always Comes Back To (Let Go of Control) · 19 min · Episode 301"Ask Ben a Question" Does it feel like your teen is pulling away from you? Most parents respond by trying to control things. They give more advice, fix problems, and try to guide…
- The Emotional Awareness Skill That Makes Parenting Easier · 28 min · Episode 300"Ask Ben a Question" When your teen melts down emotionally, most parents react the wrong way. But what if the most powerful parenting skill isn’t fixing your teen’s emotions? In…
- Stop Mirroring Your Teen’s Bad Behavior (Do This Instead) · 24 min · Episode 299"Ask Ben a Question" Do you ever find yourself reacting just like your teen? They get angry… and you get angry. They panic… and you panic. They shut down… and you shut down. Most…
- 5 Myths About Teen Resilience (And What Builds It) · 25 min · Episode 298"Ask Ben a Question" Are teens today really less resilient? Or have we misunderstood what resilience actually is? In this episode, I break down 5 common myths about teen…
- The Emotional Skill Every Parent Thinks They Have · 25 min · Episode 297"Ask Ben a Question" Most parents believe they’re emotionally intelligent — but parenting teens reveals the truth fast. In this episode of IMPACT! Parenting with Perspective, we…
- When Your Teen Won’t Change… Start Here Instead · 25 min · Episode 296"Ask Ben a Question" What do you do when your teen won’t listen, won’t change, or won’t accept help? Maybe they refuse coaching, therapy, or even a simple conversation. In this…
- Are Phones and Social Media Really Driving Teen Suicide? · 32 min · Episode 295"Ask Ben a Question" Many parents today are scared. Everywhere you look, there are headlines saying phones, social media, AI, and screen time are driving teen suicide. It can…
- Feeling Exhausted? Here's How to Feel Better Fast · 26 min · Episode 294"Ask Ben a Question" Parenting a teen can feel draining. You might feel tired, frustrated, or stuck in stress mode. If that’s you, this episode is here to help. In this…
- Blowups. Overreactions. Now What Do I Do? · 29 min · Episode 293"Ask Ben a Question" Blowups. Overreactions. Now What Do I Do? Every parent has a moment they wish they could take back. You raise your voice. You overreact. You walk away…
- The Hidden Cost of Controlling Your Teen · 23 min · Episode 292"Ask Ben a Question" Do you ever feel like the harder you push, the more your teen pulls away? You’re trying to help—but it keeps turning into lectures, power struggles, or…
- Why Your New Year’s Goals Fail Every Time · 21 min · Episode 291"Ask Ben a Question" Every January, parents set big goals. And every February, most of those goals are gone. In this episode, Ben explains why New Year’s goals fail every…
- What A Christmas Carol Teaches About Parenting Teens · 27 min · Episode 290"Ask Ben a Question" What if your teen isn’t the problem? In this Christmas episode, Ben shares a powerful lesson from A Christmas Carol. Scrooge wasn’t a bad man—he was a…
- Let Go of Holiday Chaos by Building Better Traditions · 28 min · Episode 289"Ask Ben a Question" The holidays can feel busy, loud, and stressful — especially when you’re parenting teens. Many parents try to fix this by setting big goals or New Year’s…
- Your Teen Can Hate You… and You Can Still Have a Great Relationship · 27 min · Episode 288"Ask Ben a Question" Your teen might hate you sometimes… and you can still have a great relationship with them. Most parents think their relationship with their teen is something…
- The Parenting Update You Didn’t Know You Needed — Until Now · 44 min · Episode 287"Ask Ben a Question" Your teen’s attitude, your frustration, and the same old fights aren’t the real problem — your programming is. In this episode, Ben and Cortni break down why…
