Outwitting the Manipulator
de Dr. Dennis Becker & Robin Golinski
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How to Spot a Manipulator Before You Hire Them (or Date Them)
How to Spot a Manipulator Before You Hire Them (or Date Them)
Sobre este podcast
Manipulation doesn’t announce itself. It shows up mid-sentence, mid-meeting, mid-argument — and by the time you realize what happened, it’s over.
Dr. Dennis Becker and Robin Golinski — communication experts with 50+ years of combined experience — break down the tactics manipulators use and hand you specific, practical techniques to respond in real time. No therapy-speak. No ”just set boundaries” advice that sounds great on paper and falls apart the second someone pushes back.
Each episode tackles a specific manipulation tactic — gaslighting, shame, trust erosion, reframing, and more — and gives you the language and strategy to hold your ground while it’s happening. Not after. Not in hindsight. Right now, in the moment.
Whether it’s a coworker, a partner, a family member, or someone you can’t walk away from, this show teaches you to recognize the play and change the outcome.
You can’t change the manipulator. You CAN change the outcome.
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- How to Spot a Manipulator Before You Hire Them (or Date Them) · 35 min · Episodio 83A corporate client asked Robin Golinski a smart question: how do I avoid hiring a manipulator? In this episode, Robin and Dr. Dennis Becker share three tests you can use in a job…
- Coach or Therapist? Which Will Stop a Manipulator in Real Time? · 30 min · Episodio 82Therapy looks back and asks what caused the problem. Coaching starts where you are and gives you the words to use right now. Robin Golinski and Dr. Dennis Becker explain the…
- Can a Manipulator Be Helped? A Couples Therapist Pushes Back · 39 min · Episodio 81Is every manipulator a narcissist? Is every narcissist a manipulator? Dr. Dennis Becker puts those questions to Dr. David Helfand, a psychologist who runs intensive retreats for…
- Winning by Breaking You: The Manipulation Playbook Behind 'Debate Bro' Culture · 46 min · Episodio 80What passes for "debate" online is really argument dressed up to dominate, not discover truth. Robin breaks down four manipulation tactics fueling bro culture: weaponized…
- Stop Living Like a Victim: The Mental Housecleaning That Changes Everything · 47 min · Episodio 79After 25 years in a coercively controlling relationship, author Eva Levina had to answer a difficult question: How did a strong, intelligent, capable woman stay for so long—and…
- Contempt Is the First Warning Sign of Abuse: A Divorce Attorney Explains · 52 min · Episodio 78Contempt doesn't start with violence. It starts with a comment about your skin, a look, a tone you're told to ignore. By the time it escalates, most people have spent years…
- Dropping the Bar: How Manipulation Sneaks Into Relationships Before Violence Ever Does · 39 min · Episodio 77In this episode of Outwitting the Manipulator, hosts Dennis Becker and Robin Golinski sit down with Stephanie MacAlister, founder of Virtua Connect Counseling Clinic (a…
- When Caregiving Meets Manipulation: Surviving a Sibling Power Struggle with Nicole Hilgenkamp · 38 min · Episodio 76What happens when you're grieving a parent and the sibling who should be your ally becomes your biggest obstacle? Nicole Hilgenkamp, founder of Your Parent's Keeper…
- The Golden Cage: How Wealth and Status Trap You in a Manipulative Marriage, with Mia J. Hanks · 24 min · Episodio 75What happens when you have everything — the gated home, the charmed life, the husband everyone admires — and none of it is real? Author Mia J. Hanks spent 29 years married to a…
- What Makes Someone a Manipulator? A Debate You Weren't Expecting with Dr. Jeremy Sherman · 51 min · Episodio 74When a researcher who's spent 30 years studying human behavior from the chemical origins of life to modern relationships sits down with two communication coaches, the…
- Protection against Conflation and Dictating Feelings · 32 min · Episodio 73Dr. Dennis Becker and Robin Golinski discuss two manipulative tactics, Conflation, and Dictating Feelings, and how to protect against them in depth. They define conflation as…
- Smiles, Stonewalls & the Gish Gallop: Manipulation Tactics in the Owens–Wilson “Debate" · 60 min · Episodio 72In this special episode, Robin Golinski and Dr. Dennis Becker break down the viral Candace Owens–Andrew Wilson exchange — not for its politics, but as a live case study in…
- Should Anyone Ever Be Manipulative? · 31 min · Episodio 71Dennis and Robin discuss whether it is ever appropriate for regular people to manipulate, and how that differs from the harmful adult manipulation they focus on: communication…
- Navigating Conflict with Civility · 32 min · Episodio 70In this episode Dr. Dennis Becker and Robin Golinski delve into the nuanced world of conflict and manipulation with special guest Michael Lee, director of the Civility Initiative…
- Robin and Dennis Talk Manipulation with Divorce Attorney Evan Schein · 43 min · Episodio 69This episode features Robin and Dennis’s appearance on the Schein On podcast. Host Evan Schein interviews them about their 2021 book, Outwitting the Manipulator: Protecting…
- Grey Rock Is a Technique. Outwitting Is the Strategy. · 32 min · Episodio 68Grey Rock may protect you for a moment—but it won't change the game. Robin Golinski and Dr. Dennis Becker explain why lasting protection comes from understanding manipulation…
- Outwitting the Manipulator: How One Woman Took Back Her Power Without Fighting · 32 min · Episodio 67This episode goes beyond tactics to the deeper work of healing. Michelle shares how her greatest victory wasn't changing her manipulative ex—it was changing herself. By learning…
- The Trust Trap: How Manipulators Win You Over Before They Use You · 29 min · Episodio 66In this episode of Outwitting the Manipulator, Robin Golinski and Dr. Dennis Becker explore one of the most painful costs of manipulation: the erosion of trust — not only in…
- The Shame Trap: How Manipulators Use Your Deepest Insecurities Against You · 38 min · Episodio 65In this powerful episode of the Outwitting the Manipulator podcast, Robin Golinski and Dennis Becker explore how manipulators weaponize shame to control, silence, and destabilize…
- The Hidden Cost of Being Liked · 35 min · Episodio 64This episode reveals how good intentions—like being liked or avoiding conflict—can make you vulnerable to manipulation. While most people act with positive motives, manipulators…
