Stethoscopes and Strollers
by La Toya Luces-Sampson MD
143. My Hairy Cooch and a Lesson in Personal Responsibility
About this podcast
Welcome to Stethoscopes & Strollers.
I’m Dr. Toya, OB/GYN, coach, entrepreneur, wife, and mom of two.
This is the podcast about what happens when the woman underneath the white coat starts asking what she actually wants.
Because becoming a physician can teach you a lot about achievement, responsibility, and taking care of other people. Becoming a mother can add an entirely new set of expectations about who you’re supposed to be and how much you’re supposed to give.
And somewhere in there, you still have a life to live.
On Stethoscopes & Strollers, we talk about all of it.
Motherhood. Medicine. Money. Marriage. Mental health. Career changes. Entrepreneurship. Childcare. Sex. Burnout. Asking for help. Building community. And figuring out what to do when the life that looked perfectly good on paper doesn’t actually work for you anymore.
Some episodes are practical. Some are personal. Some are conversations with people I think you should know. And sometimes I’m going to tell you about something happening in my own life or business because I learned a lesson the hard way and you might as well benefit from it.
What you will not hear is advice about becoming better at doing everything.
Absolutely not.
Sometimes you need more support. Sometimes you need a better strategy. Sometimes you need to have the uncomfortable conversation, negotiate the contract, learn where your money is, leave the toxic job, hire the help, start the business, or admit that something you worked very hard for no longer fits.
And sometimes you need to drop the ball.
This podcast is about building a life where your career, motherhood, relationships, ambition, and wellbeing can exist in alignment without requiring you to disappear in the process.
You’ll hear my perspective as a Black woman, physician mom, immigrant, entrepreneur, and someone who has made more than a few unconventional decisions about what work and family are “supposed” to look like.
I won’t pretend to have all the answers. I will talk about the things we were never taught to discuss honestly.
So, hey Doc. Welcome.
Let’s talk about it.
Stethoscopes & Strollers is for education, conversation, and connection. Nothing shared on this podcast constitutes medical advice.
Episodes
The newest 20 of 151 episodes
- 143. My Hairy Cooch and a Lesson in Personal Responsibility · 27 min · Season 1 Episode 143Hey Doc! I spent a whole lot of money on laser hair removal, ignored multiple red flags, and now I'm back at European Wax Center getting my Brazilian waxes. And I'm taking full…
- 142. You Can't Meditate Your Way Out of an Unsupported Life · 13 min · Season 1 Episode 142Hey Doc! I remember when I first started learning about mindfulness and meditation. I couldn't get my mind to shut up long enough to meditate, and instead of feeling relaxed and…
- 141. Dr. You Incorporated: Why Every Physician Needs a Personal Brand · 13 min · Season 1 Episode 141Hey Doc! Before you tell me you don't need a personal brand because you're not trying to become a social media doctor, hear me out. You already have a personal brand. Whether…
- 140. Talk Your Shit, Doc. Your Career Depends on It. · 11 min · Season 1 Episode 140Hey Doc! I'm going to need you to start talking your shit. Seriously. Because all that excellent work you're doing? The patients who love you, the charts you close, the problems…
- 139. Mom Privilege Is Real. Are You Using Yours? · 9 min · Season 1 Episode 139Hey Doc We spend plenty of time talking about what motherhood costs us. The mental load. Childcare. Career complications. The never-ending question of what these people are going…
- 138. Pregnancy as Disability: A Medical Reframe · 14 min · Season 1 Episode 138Hey Doc, I spent most of my career as an OB/GYN saying, “Pregnancy is not a disability.” I believed it. Then I had my second baby. That pregnancy gave me a very different…
- 137. You Worked Hard for This. You’re Still Allowed to Let It Go · 18 min · Season 1 Episode 137Hey Doc, “You worked so hard for this.” I still hear some version of that when people find out I stepped away from clinical medicine. And yes. I did. I worked hard to become an…
- 136. Doc, You Can Stop Breastfeeding · 13 min · Season 1 Episode 136Hey Doc, You can stop breastfeeding. You can stop pumping. You can know all of the benefits, have enough milk, have a baby who breastfeeds well, and still decide: I don’t want to…
- 135. The One Thing I Don’t Want You to Outsource: Your Money · 28 min · Season 1 Episode 135Hey Doc I love outsourcing. Cleaning. Childcare. Grocery delivery. The random tasks that somehow require 47 emails and a phone call during business hours. Please. Take them. But…
- 134. Please Take Care of Yourself, Doc · 14 min · Season 1 Episode 134Hey Doc, This episode is a plea. Please take care of yourself. There has been a lot of loss in the physician community lately, and it has made me take a harder look at the care…
- 133. These Children Will Have You Thinking You're a Bad Mother · 6 min · Season 1 Episode 133Hey Doc, These children will really have you questioning your entire motherhood résumé. This summer, I left my kids in Trinidad with their grandparents while my husband and I…
- 132. Travel and The Lies We Tell · 28 min · Season 1 Episode 132Hey, Doc I'm sharing part of an interview I did on my friend Dr. Weili Gray's podcast, *The Dare to Dream Physician Travel Podcast*. At the time, she had just pivoted her show to…
- 131. Use Your Physician Privilege · 6 min · Season 1 Episode 131Hey Doc You worked incredibly hard to become a physician. Four years of undergrad. Four years of medical school. Years of residency and fellowship. Endless sacrifices. So why are…
- 130. The Good Mom Myth Is Burning Out Physician Moms · 22 min · Season 1 Episode 130Hey Doc, I’m back with another episode where I was dropping gems on another podcast. I joined Dr. Diane Shannon on Vital Signs: Thriving as a Woman in Medicine to talk about…
- 129. NO Is Just the Beginning: A Physician's Guide to Asking · 23 min · Season 1 Episode 129One conversation can change your career. But first, you have to be willing to ask. In this episode, I'm joined by my friend Dr. Kristine Goins on The Physician's Guide to…
- 128. Why I Left Clinical Medicine to Coach Physician Moms · 6 min · Season 1 Episode 128Hey Doc— One of the questions I've been asked the most over the past few months is, "Why did you leave medicine?" The short answer is: I didn't leave medicine to do something…
- 127. Part 2: How Physician Moms Can Thrive Without Self-Sacrifice · 18 min · Season 1 Episode 127Hey Doc— Welcome back to Part 2 of this conversation. In Part 1, we talked about why so many physician moms end up exhausted, overwhelmed, and questioning whether this is simply…
- 126. Part 1: How Physician Moms Can Thrive Without Self-Sacrifice · 23 min · Season 1 Episode 126Hey Doc— This summer I'm re-releasing some of my favorite conversations from podcasts where I was the guest because the topics are just as relevant today as they were when we…
- 125. The One-Minute Reset I Use During the Worst Days · 21 min · Season 1 Episode 125Hey Doc, This episode is a little different. First, a content warning. I talk about miscarriage and describe one of the most difficult calls I've had as an OB/GYN, so if that's…
- 124. When He Changes After the Baby: Understanding Paternal Postpartum Depression · 11 min · Season 1 Episode 124Hey Doc, Father's Day has me thinking about something we don't talk about nearly enough. Men can experience postpartum depression too. In this episode, I'm diving into paternal…







