The Mental Load
by Katlynn Pyatt and Angie Cantrell
Feeling judged and the mental load
About this podcast
Two millennial moms explore the mental load. Here’s the deal, we’re the first generation of women who saw both of our parents work outside the home. And, because kids are oblivious to how much work it takes to actually raise them, we naturally assumed that our parents split everything else it took to run our households. Then we grew up, got married and were like what the f***? You know this conversation. You probably have it with your mom friends all the time. It’s your never ending to-do list. The perception that you’re the household manager and keeper of all the stuff and the things. The mental load is so much more complex than delegating out chores and duties or telling women to practice “self care” or “take a day off”. We don’t want a day off, we want husbands who are more “switched on” throughout the day. How do we have this conversation in our household? What systems keep the mental load in place? Why does the mental load even exist? We’re here to explore all of these topics and really dig into the small and large changes that need to happen in order to better support women and therefore, families in America.
And we’re here to bring this conversation to the forefront and help break a generational cycle so that as we raise girls AND boys, they know what it means to truly have an equal household.
Episodes
The newest 20 of 43 episodes
- Feeling judged and the mental load · 16 min · Season 4 Episode 7When men judge women for the mental load and how we choose to handle it. In this hot take, Katlynn discusses why sometimes as mothers, we might feel judged by our partners for…
- Kids Chores and the Mental Load · 1 h 6 min · Season 4 Episode 6How do kids' chores impact the mental load for women? In this full-length episode, we discuss various ways that getting kids to pitch in and do chores around the house, when…
- Why Re-Delegating Chores to Kids Creates Mental Load · 9 min · Season 4 Episode 5When husbands pass chores off to their kids it creates more mental load for women. In today's hot take, Katlynn discusses why passing the buck on chores might seem helpful and…
- No Excuses - The Mental Load of Daily Chores · 12 min · Season 4 Episode 4The mental load of daily responsibilities outweighs occasional maintenance chores. In this week's hot take, Katlynn discusses how, when men and women are raised differently, it…
- The Sound of Silence - I Need Help! · 13 min · Season 4 Episode 3How to immediately lighten the mental load In this week's hot take, Katlynn discusses how to identify when you're overwhelmed by the mental load and how to immediately get…
- Just Lower Your Standards · 41 min · Season 4 Episode 2Why men have the perception that women have standards that are "too high" and how it contributes to the mental load. We've all been in the situation before where we ask our…
- Medical Mental Load · 1 h 2 min · Season 4 Episode 1Why women still carry the mental load when it comes to our children's healthcare. In this episode, we break down why women still carry a majority of the mental load when it comes…
- Showing Support for the Mental Load · 13 min · Season 3 Episode 13We don't want to ask for help with the mental load. Something about saying "can you help me with..." or "thanks for helping me with..." just grates on me. Most likely because it…
- The mental load in LGBTQ+ households · 1 h 19 min · Season 3 Episode 12What is the mental load like in LGBTQ+ households? Today, Dr. Jazmin Richter joins us to talk through their experience redistributing the mental load as a queer couple in…
- Are you a nag? Or is he just inconsistent? · 7 min · Season 3 Episode 11"Just ask for help" when it comes to the mental load. Don't be a nag - why women are held to a double standard in the household. In this hot take, Katlynn discusses why women…
- Advice from a Marriage Therapist (Rerun) · 54 min · Season 3 Episode 10Advice on how to change the mental load from a marriage therapist. The effect the mental load has on marriages and how to have the conversation with your spouse. It's (one) of…
- Weaponized Incompetence - Hot Take · 11 min · Season 3 Episode 9The mental load and weaponized incompetence. In this hot take, Katlynn discusses what weaponized incompetence looks like after women have been gone for a short or extended period…
- The Audacity - Moms Week Debrief · 1 h 1 min · Season 3 Episode 8Why do millennial moms expect so much more from their husbands when it comes balancing the mental load? This week Angie and Katlynn debrief their episode with their boomer moms…
- A Fast Way to Lighten the Mental Load · 12 min · Season 3 Episode 7One fast way to lighten the mental load The affect of mommy influencers on our mental load There's no shame in the mommy influencer game. At all. It's a respectable way to make a…
- A Generational Take on the Mental Load · 1 h 28 min · Season 3 Episode 6Join two millennial moms and their boomer mothers to discuss the mental load. This week Katlynn and Angie host their moms and mother-in-laws to discuss the mental load and get…
- Seeking a Clone Machine · 13 min · Season 3 Episode 5The Mental Load and Prepping to go out of Town This week's hot take is about the mental load and prepping to go out of town. Those who carry the mental load can't simply pack…
- What Makes Moms Badass · 1 h 5 min · Season 3 Episode 4What transferrable skills does managing the mental load give moms? Today we’re discussing some of the valuable skill sets you get as a mom from balancing the mental load. I think…
- F*ck Dem Trees - Your Sanity and the Mental Load at Dinner · 3 min · Season 3 Episode 3Sacrificing your sanity and being overwhelmed by the mental load at dinner isn't required. Be earth conscious, but don't feel guilty when you have to use paper plates to lighten…
- Identity Theft: How the Mental Load takes Over Women's Lives · 45 min · Season 3 Episode 2How the mental load takes over women's lives How not to lose yourself in motherhood "I resent the fact that you (dads) get to maintain your individuality, while I do not." The…
- PSA: Mother's Day & The Mental Load · 10 min · Season 3 Episode 1The mental load and mother's day For men: Why moms care so much about Mother's Day Join Katlynn from the Mental Load Podcast in this Mother's Day hot take. Attention dads!…







