The Regulated Parent
by Afshan Tafler
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About this podcast
If you're raising a hypersensitive, high-needs child — including Autism, PDA, OCD, ODD, ADHD, or anxiety — this podcast is for you. I'm Afshan Tafler, a Nervous System Resilience Coach for parents like you. Here, we talk about what most people don’t: how it really feels, how your nervous system responds, and how to find your way back to calm, courage, and connection — even on the hardest days. You're not alone, and you were never meant to do this without support.
Free parent burnout training, The Perfect Storm: illuminateu.ca/parent-burnout-training-podcast
Episodes
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- Ep. 61 When You Feel Like You're Failing Your PDA, Autistic Child: Changing the Standard You Measure Yourself By · 45 min · Season 1 Episode 61No matter how much you do for your PDA, autistic child, does it never feel like enough? You might be measuring yourself by a standard never made for you. If you're parenting a…
- Ep. 60 How Do I Know If I'm Accommodating My PDA, Autistic Child the Right Way? · 1 h 4 min · Season 1 Episode 60Am I accommodating my PDA, autistic child, or am I giving in? If you swing between the two and can't tell which is right, this episode is for you. Part 4 of a four-part series…
- Ep. 59 Will They Ever Learn to Be Okay Without Me? How to Help Your PDA, Autistic Child Separate From You · 1 h 5 min · Season 1 Episode 59Your PDA, autistic child can't let you out of the room, not even to go to the bathroom. Here's what's actually happening inside them. If you're in the thick of this, start with…
- Ep. 58 The 7 Moves That Make Co-Regulating Your PDA, Autistic Child Who Can't Leave Your Side So Much Easier · 45 min · Season 1 Episode 58You give and give all day, and then you snap, and then you feel horrible about yourself. Here are the 7 moves that break that cycle. If that cycle is your day, start with my…
- Ep. 57 When Your PDA, Autistic Child Can't Separate and You Just Want a Break · 51 min · Season 1 Episode 54Your child can't let you out of their sight — and you're exhausted. Here are the 7 things happening in your nervous system that nobody tells you about. If this episode landed…
- Ep. 56 Shouldn't I Be Teaching My Child That Hitting Is Wrong? (Part 3) · 57 min · Season 1 Episode 56It's the fear so many parents of PDA and autistic kids carry: that today's aggression means something frightening about their child's future. In Part 3 of this series I gently…
- Ep. 55 What to Do When Your PDA or Autistic Child Is Hitting You (Part 2) · 1 h 2 min · Season 1 Episode 55You don't want to be hit — and yet every option feels wrong. You walk away, they follow. You close the door, they punch it. You stand there, and you're the one getting hurt…
- Ep. 54 Why You Can’t Stay Calm When Your PDA or Autistic Child Is Hitting You (Part 1) · 52 min · Season 1 Episode 54You’ve been told to “just stay calm” while your child rages, hits, or destroys things — and then quietly beaten yourself up when you couldn’t. Here’s the truth: you are not…
- Ep. 53 The Movements That Rewired Her Sons' Brains — and Kept Her Alive · 1 h 16 min · Season 1 Episode 53It was 1 a.m., and Alma Galván was in tears. Both of her sons had severe autism, ADHD and sensory differences. Doctors told her to institutionalize her oldest son, and daily…
- The #1 Regulation Tool That Cut My Autistic, PDA Child's Meltdowns by 95% · 28 min · Season 1 Episode 52If I could offer you one tool that took my PDA, autistic son's aggressive behaviors from 5 hours of daily meltdowns and destruction, to less than 30 minutes a few times a week —…
- Ep. 51 Am I Damaging My Child? The 3 Shame Spirals That Keep Parents of PDA, Autistic, ADHD Kids Stuck · 36 min · Season 1 Episode 51"I lost it on my child. I'm damaging them." "My child is still struggling. I must not be doing enough." "We don't fit in anywhere. Something must be fundamentally wrong with us."…
- Ep. 50 Reclaiming Your Joy and Aliveness — Even When Your Autistic Child Is Still Struggling · 51 min · Season 1 Episode 47Have you lost your sense of aliveness? Your ease? Your feeling of well-being — that quiet sense of being at home inside yourself? If you're parenting a PDA, autistic, or…
- Ep. 49 The To-Do List Trap: Why Productivity Keeps Parents of High-Needs Kids Dysregulated · 51 min · Season 1 Episode 49Do you often feel like you spend so much of your time taking care of your PDA, autistic, ADHD, or high-needs child that nothing else gets done? If you're carrying the grief…
- Ep. 48 Why Your PDA, Autistic Child Needs More Flexibility — And Why That Feels So Hard for Your Nervous System · 47 min · Season 1 Episode 48Why does giving your PDA, autistic, ADHD, or hypersensitive child more flexibility sometimes feel so terrifying — even when you intellectually understand they need it? If you…
- Ep. 47 Watching Your Autistic, PDA Child Suffer: The Grief, Guilt, and Helplessness Parents Carry · 47 min · Season 1 Episode 47Watching your PDA, autistic, or high-needs child suffer can feel heartbreaking, helpless, and deeply overwhelming. If you're carrying the grief nobody names, start with my free…
- Ep. 46 How to Accommodate Your PDA, Autistic Child Without Fear, Burnout, or Losing Yourself · 1 h 2 min · Season 1 Episode 46If you’re parenting a hypersensitive, PDA, autistic, or high-needs child, you may already know that accommodating them is what helps. If you're carrying the grief nobody names…
- Ep. 45 When Mother’s Day Feels Hard: How to Feel Seen and Valued While Parenting a PDA, Autistic or High-Needs Child · 46 min · Season 1 Episode 45If you're carrying the grief nobody names, start with my free Meaning guide — and finding your way back to yourself: https://www.illuminateu.ca/meaning-guide-podcast FREE GUIDES…
- Ep. 44 Why 8 Core Childhood Wounds Make Parenting a PDA/Autistic or Hypersensitive Child Feel So Personal · 1 h 3 min · Season 1 Episode 44Why does parenting your hypersensitive, PDA, autistic, or high-needs child feel so personal? If you react even when you know better, start with my free 7 Truths guide — why that…
- Ep. 43 Why “Holding It Together” Is Burning You Out as a Parent of a PDA/Autistic Child · 32 min · Season 1 Episode 43We’re often told that when parenting a PDA, autistic, or high-needs child…we need to hold it together. If you're carrying the grief nobody names, start with my free Meaning…
- Ep. 42 When You Want to Feel Hope With Your PDA, Autistic Child… But Can’t · 30 min · Season 1 Episode 42When you’re parenting a hypersensitive, high-needs, PDA/autistic child, hope can start to feel complicated. If you're carrying the grief nobody names, start with my free Meaning…
