Why She Stayed
by Grace Stuart
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Ep. 104: He Sounded Overly Honest & Vulnerable
Ep. 104: He Sounded Overly Honest & Vulnerable
About this podcast
A podcast where we dive deep into what really goes on inside of domestic violence relationships that makes it so hard to simply "just leave". Through stories of survivors, and practical conversations with guests, I am going to put the microscope back on what the abuser is doing that causes us to become so trapped in the first place, and how each survivor was eventually freed. We will discuss what abusive relationships look like, sound like, and feel like for the purpose of educating and relating to one another in a much needed way. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Episodes
The newest 20 of 95 episodes
- Ep. 104: He Sounded Overly Honest & Vulnerable · 59 minIn this episode, I sit down with author and licensed therapist Chelsey Brooke Cole to discuss her experiences navigating abusive relationships, even while working as a therapist…
- Ep. 103: (Re-Release) Twist, Blame, Repeat · 1 h 37 minIn this episode that originally aired on February 10th, Kelly shares her experience of being in a relationship where reality was constantly twisted. Her abuser was skilled at…
- Ep. 102: He Says You're Free, But Are You Really? · 39 min · Season 1 Episode 102How do we read between the lines when our abuser has gotten really good at coloring within the lines? Deploying control often looks like mastering their craft and becoming “less…
- Ep. 101: The Power in Seeing the Cycle Unfold Close Together · 1 h 5 min · Season 1 Episode 101In this episode, Hannah shares her story of what happens when coercive control slowly changes who you are. One of the things that ultimately helped Hannah leave was seeing the…
- Ep. 100: Could the Word "Narcissist" Be Setting Us Back? · 44 min · Season 1 Episode 100In this episode, I’m sharing my honest thoughts on whether the word “narcissist” may actually be setting us back when it comes to understanding abuse and coercive control. We…
- 99: "“You Always Leave Right When I’m About to Turn a Corner” · 1 h 8 min · Season 1 Episode 99In this episode, Helen shares her story of the subtle ways coercive control made her believe that she was the problem. She shares how he repeatedly blamed her for leaving “right…
- 98: What Change Does Not Look Like & How to Test Them · 48 min · Season 1 Episode 98How do you know when an abuser’s “change” is actually just another form of control? In this episode, I break down the clear signs that an abusive person is not truly changing…
- 97: The #1 Thing You Must Know About Abuse For a Lasting Breakthrough · 33 min · Season 1 Episode 97If you never read another book, listen to another podcast, or consume another piece of content about abuse, there is one thing I want you to understand: If you continue looking…
- 96: "You’re Making an Elephant Out of a Mosquito" · 1 h 25 minIn this episode, I sit down with Wednesday to talk about how the nervous system can become attached to predictability—even when that predictability is harmful—and how an abuser…
- 95: I Had to Become Ruthless to Stay Gone: For the Person Who Keeps Leaving and Going Back · 1 h 32 min · Season 1 Episode 95Ali shares the brutal reality of trying to leave an abusive relationship and how, after leaving and returning over and over again, she began to lose trust in her own ability to…
- 94: Aubree's Story | PART 2 · 1 h 30 min · Season 1 Episode 94Everyone asks what happened the day Aubree’s husband shot her twice, murdered their nearly six-month-old son, Kymani, and then took his own life. But the deeper question is: What…
- Ep. 93: In Honor of Kymani: Aubree's Story | PART 1 · 1 h 6 min · Season 1 Episode 93Everyone asks what happened the day Aubree’s husband shot her twice, murdered their nearly six-month-old son, Kymani, and then took his own life. But the deeper question is: What…
- Ep 92 Abusers Don't Lose Control- They Deploy It: with Lindsay Stoker creator of The Control Code · 1 h 10 min · Season 1 Episode 92I sit down with Lindsay Stoker creator of The Control Code to unpack the most misunderstood aspects of coercive control and psychological abuse. One of the most powerful shifts…
- Ep. 91: What Every Woman Needs to Know About Coercive Control · 1 h 11 min · Season 1 Episode 91If I could sit across from the woman I was back then, these are the 20 things I would tell her. In this episode of Why She Stayed, I reflect on my own experience of coercive…
- Ep. 90: What if I'm Wrong About Everything?: Why AI Helps Survivors Feel Sane: Aimee Says · 48 min · Season 1 Episode 90What if you’re wrong about everything? It’s one of the most haunting questions survivors of coercive control ask themselves after years of psychological manipulation. In this…
- Ep.89: The Damage of Chronic Deception · 1 h 11 min · Season 1 Episode 89Brand new episode! This is a never-before-heard conversation. I’m joined by author Cora Leyderman, author of Meet Me at the Well, as she shares the story of her previous…
- Ep. 87: (Re-Release) Lundy Bancroft Interview: Why Does He Do That? · 59 min · Season 1 Episode 87This episode originally aired on May 13, 2025. Brand new episode will be released on Tuesday, March 24th. Lundy Bancroft is the author of the book "Why Does He Do That? Inside…
- Ep. 86: What If I Ruin His Life?- The Fear, the Grooming, and the People Who Said She'd Destroy Him. · 1 h 21 min · Season 1 Episode 86Lindsey shares the story of how her relationship slowly turned into something she didn’t recognize as abuse. What began as the gradual normalization of cheating became a pattern…
- Ep. 85: Twist, Blame, Repeat · 1 h 37 min · Season 1 Episode 85In this episode, Kelly shares her experience of being in a relationship where reality was constantly twisted. Her abuser was skilled at blame-shifting, making her feel like she…
- Ep. 84: Quiet Control: When Culture Masks Coercion · 1 h 45 min · Season 1 Episode 84In this episode, Kelly shares her story of entering a relationship with a mild-mannered Arab Muslim doctor at a vulnerable point in her life, a time when she felt ungrounded and…
