After the Affair
de Luke Shillings
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214. Sliding Doors: Two Paths After Betrayal
214. Sliding Doors: Two Paths After Betrayal
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The ‘After the affair’ podcast with Luke Shillings is here to help you process, decide, and move forward on purpose following infidelity. Let’s explore what’s required to rebuild trust not only in yourself, but also with others. Whether you stay or leave, I can help! and no matter what your story, there will be something here for you.
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- 214. Sliding Doors: Two Paths After Betrayal · 25 min · Temporada 2026 Episódio 214Imagine two versions of yourself, both starting at exactly the same moment. The same affair. The same pain. The same uncertainty about what happens next. But two very different…
- 213. Am I Defined By Betrayal? · 17 min · Temporada 2026 Episódio 213You were betrayed. That's something that happened to you. But has it become who you are? After discovering an affair, it's natural to want answers. You read the books, listen to…
- 212. Was Staying The Right Decision? · 14 min · Temporada 2026 Episódio 212You decided to stay after the affair. At first, things seemed to be improving. You were communicating better, rebuilding trust, and perhaps even beginning to feel hopeful about…
- 211. Why Does a Good Day Feel So Dangerous? · 10 min · Temporada 2026 Episódio 211You have a good day together. You laugh. You feel close. Maybe for a few hours, you barely think about the affair at all. And then comes the thought: Am I letting them off too…
- 210. I'm Not Ready To Choose · 10 min · Temporada 2026 Episódio 210“I’m not ready.” It sounds reasonable. And sometimes it is. But when you're facing a difficult decision after betrayal, waiting can easily feel like the safe option. You don't…
- 209. The Halo Effect After Betrayal · 15 min · Temporada 2026 Episódio 209After discovering an affair, have you found yourself looking back at your relationship and wondering whether everything meant something different? The late nights at work. The…
- 208. Why Does Betrayal Physically Hurt So Much? · 12 min · Temporada 2026 Episódio 208Betrayal is emotional. So why can it make you feel physically awful? The tight chest. The sick feeling in your stomach. The exhaustion. The tension. The racing heart. Being…
- 207. Am I Paranoid - Or Trusting My Gut? The Algorithm After Betrayal · 25 min · Temporada 2026 Episódio 207"What if I'm ignoring the signs again?" After betrayal, that question can be incredibly difficult to shake. You trusted before. You believed what you were being told. And…
- 206. The Decision You Can't Optimise: Staying or Leaving After Betrayal · 21 min · Temporada 2026 Episódio 206Stay or leave? After betrayal, it can feel as though there must be a right answer. So you do what you've probably done successfully with countless other important decisions. You…
- 205. Why Falling Apart Feels So Confusing When You're Usually in Control · 17 min · Temporada 2026 Episódio 205You're usually the person who handles things. The calm one. The problem-solver. The person others rely on when something goes wrong. And then betrayal happens. Suddenly, you…
- 204. Why Smart People Struggle More After Betrayal (Not Less) Pt 1 · 9 min · Temporada 2026 Episódio 204If you're usually good at solving problems, betrayal can be uniquely frustrating. You're used to something going wrong, gathering the information, understanding what happened and…
- 203. Why You Regret What You Said - Or What You Didn't Say After Betrayal · 15 min · Temporada 2026 Episódio 203Have you ever walked away from a conversation after betrayal and immediately thought, "Why did I say that?" Maybe anger took over. You said something cutting, threatened to…
- 202. Stressed! Why You Can’t Think Straight Right Now · 23 min · Episódio 202Have you ever walked into a room and forgotten why you went there? Read the same email three times? Snapped at someone you love over something insignificant and wondered, "Where…
- 201. The Truth About Closure · 15 min · Temporada 2026 Episódio 201"If I just knew one more thing..." It's one of the most common thoughts after betrayal. One more conversation. One more answer. One more piece of the puzzle. Because surely, once…
- 200. After 200 Episodes, Here's What I Know About Affair Recovery · 24 min · Temporada 2026 Episódio 200Two hundred episodes. Hundreds of thousands of downloads. Thousands of messages. Hundreds of coaching conversations. And after everything I've learned from walking alongside…
- 199. Why Do I Feel Worse At Night? - Affair Recovery · 25 min · Temporada 2026 Episódio 199Why Do I Feel Worse At Night? You make it through the day. You go to work. You answer messages. You keep the family moving. You even catch yourself thinking, "Maybe I'm doing a…
- 198. Why Am I So Scared of Making the Wrong Decision? · 22 min · Temporada 2026 Episódio 198"Just trust your gut." "Only you know what's right." "Take your time." They're all well-intentioned pieces of advice. But none of them answer the question that's really keeping…
- 197. The Affair Is Over... So Why Can't I Let Go? · 20 min · Temporada 2026 Episódio 197"You just need to let it go." It's one of the most common pieces of advice people receive after betrayal. And one of the least helpful. Because if letting go were simply a…
- 196. What If They Never Change? · 15 min · Temporada 2026 Episódio 196Episode Summary / Show notes: One of the most frightening questions a betrayed partner can ask isn't: "Why did they do it?" Or even: "Can I trust them again?" It's this: What if…
- 195. Why Do I Keep Checking? · 25 min · Temporada 2026 Episódio 195You check their phone. Their location. Their social media. Their messages. Their tone of voice. The time they arrived home. The way they answered a question. The hesitation…
