Below The Circle with Dr. Phyllis
by Dr. Phyllis Hayes-Reams
Stop Waiting for Permission: Chose Who You Want to Be Today | 163
About this podcast
Below the Circle™ with Dr. Phyllis
Have you ever stopped in the midst of living your life and wondered, "How did I get here?"
Or looked back over the years and realized that while you've learned how to persevere, keep going, and do what needs to be done, you haven't always taken time to acknowledge how you're feeling or how life's experiences have shaped you?
Welcome to Below the Circle™, a podcast where Dr. Phyllis Hayes-Reams invites you into honest conversations about life, faith, identity, relationships, and the lessons we learn along the way.
As a life coach, physician, ordained minister, and caregiver, Dr. Phyllis shares personal stories, reflections, and insights from her own journey—including what she's still learning about herself and the seasons of life.
These aren't conversations about having all the answers or becoming someone else. They're opportunities to pause, look beneath the surface, and consider what resonates with your own story.
Because sometimes, understanding where we are begins with acknowledging what we've experienced, how we feel, and what matters most to us today.
It's not too late to reconnect with yourself and experience the life you're living. It's not too late to land.
Continue the conversation with Dr. Phyllis at thedrphyllis.com.
Episodes
The newest 20 of 165 episodes
- Stop Waiting for Permission: Chose Who You Want to Be Today | 163 · 28 min · Episode 163Stop Waiting for Permission: Choose Who You Want to Be Today | Episode 163 What are you waiting for before you give yourself permission to experience your life differently? For…
- When Pushing Through Becomes a Way of Life | 162 · 24 min · Episode 162Living With Purpose vs. Living On Purpose: You Don’t Have to Push Through Everything In Episode 162 of Below the Circle, Dr. Phyllis reflects on how years of “pushing through”…
- How Did I Get So Far Into My Life and Lose Myself / 161 · 26 min · Episode 161How Did I Get So Far Into My Life—and Lose Myself? | Below the Circle Ep. 161 Dr. Phyllis explores why so many women look up after years of doing everything “right” and wonder…
- Let Go and Let God / 160 · 24 min · Episode 160What if the thing you are holding onto so tightly is not yours to carry anymore? When you are used to caring for others, solving problems, anticipating needs, and making sure…
- Stillness is Not Failure / 159 · 23 min · Episode 159What if the quiet you’ve been craving is not a sign that you’re tired of your life, but a sign that you need space to finally hear yourself again? When you are used to answering…
- 158. How To Be Present in Your Life Again: The Story Behind Below The Circle · 25 min · Episode 158What if you have become so good at managing your life that you no longer feel fully present in it? There are seasons when caring for others, meeting responsibilities, and simply…
- 157. What If It Isn't Broken · 24 min · Episode 157What if something you have believed about yourself for years is no longer true? Sometimes we carry old beliefs, assumptions, and stories into the present without stopping to ask…
- 156. It's Okay to Regroup · 19 min · Episode 156What if you do not need to start over, but simply need to regroup? Sometimes life moves so quickly that we keep doing what we have always done without stopping to ask whether it…
- 155. Letting Go of What No Longer Fits · 20 min · Episode 155What are you still holding on to from the past that no longer fits the life you are living now? Sometimes we keep things because they carry memories, love, grief, or a connection…
- 154. Why Am I So Tired - Why Rest Doesn't Fix It · 24 min · Episode 154If your life looks good from the outside, but underneath it all you feel worn through, this episode is for you. You can be deeply grateful for your life and still be tired inside…
- 153. The One Everyone Calls · 27 min · Episode 153If you’re the one everyone calls — the one who picks up, who shows up, who holds it together when everyone else is falling apart — this episode is for you. We’re not going to…
- 152. When Doing Replaces Living · 28 min · Episode 152You've got three things open on your screen, a half-written email, a conversation you've been meaning to have for three days, and a phone that keeps buzzing. You're not behind…
- 151. How to Be Present When You Are Present · 21 min · Episode 151She was at the dinner table. Fork in hand. Nodding at the right moments. But inside? She was three days ahead — running the list, managing the room, tracking everyone else's…
- 150. Why Doing Less Feels Like Letting People Down · 24 min · Episode 150You paused. You gave yourself a moment before you answered. And then — almost immediately — guilt showed up like you'd done something wrong. In this episode, Dr. Phyllis…
- 149. When Did Saying No Start to Feel Like Betrayal? · 26 min · Episode 149You said yes because you care. So why are you left feeling tired, frustrated, and far from yourself? In this episode, Dr. Phyllis names the “reactive yes,” the answer that leaves…
- 148. You Do Everything For Them - When Did You Last Just Be With Them? · 24 min · Episode 148You did a hundred things for the people you love today. So why does it feel like you barely saw them? In this episode, Dr. Phyllis names the quiet trade so many big-hearted women…
- 147. What’s Yours to Carry and What Isn’t · 20 min · Episode 147What if the weight wearing you out was never yours to carry? You can carry all of it. You’ve proven that. But in this episode, Dr. Phyllis invites you to pause and ask a deeper…
- 146. What Would Fall Apart If You Stopped Holding It · 20 min · Episode 146What are you afraid would fall apart if you stopped holding it all together? You have been the one who remembers, covers, fixes, plans, and carries what everyone else forgets…
- 145. When Was The Last Time You Felt The Ground? · 32 min · Episode 145Have you been holding everyone else together so long that you fear you’ve missed your own life? You’ve cared deeply, said yes from love, and kept going even when your own heart…
- 144. What Are You Still Holding That He Has Been Asking You to Release · 17 min · Episode 144What weight are you still holding that God has been asking you to release? You’ve been capable, responsible, prepared, and strong for so long that putting something down may feel…







