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Welcome to Divorce Happens, the podcast where we inspire, educate, and support you through divorce and beyond so that you can start fresh on the next phase of your journey. Produced by Fresh Starts Registry, the only divorce registry platform for everything you need to begin again, including home items, hype team, and everything in between. Remember, divorce happens...and then, we start fresh. We're here to support you before, during, and after divorce. Hosted by Olivia Dreizen Howell, the co-founder and CEO of Fresh Starts Registry.
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- Sexual Coercion in Marriage: The Signs, the Power Dynamic, and the Way Out with Divorce Coach Lisa Happ · 15 min · Säsong 1 Avsnitt 284She says yes so he'll stop. So he'll be kinder to the kids tonight. So the house will be quiet for a few days. And then she lies awake wondering if this is just what marriage is…
- Hey Olivia, how do I let go of the shame and begin trusting myself again to rebuild from scratch after a long marriage? · 5 min · Säsong 1 Avsnitt 283“From the outside, I had everything. On the inside, I was disappearing.” This week's Hey Olivia letter comes from someone who walked away from a long marriage and a life that…
- Hey Olivia, my husband is leaving after an affair and I'm terrified of my future. What do I do? · 5 min · Säsong 1 Avsnitt 282“I don't want to have to be here, but I don't know where else to turn.” That's how this week's Hey Olivia letter begins, and if you've been blindsided by divorce, you may know…
- Hey Olivia, how do I make a divorce registry when I've never asked for help? · 6 min · Säsong 1 Avsnitt 281“I rarely asked anyone for help in my life, and I think that's what scares me the most.” That line from this week's Hey Olivia letter stopped me. The listener who wrote in hasn't…
- Hey Olivia, is it normal to feel like your whole social circle shifted overnight? · 6 min · Säsong 1 Avsnitt 280“I looked around at a dinner with 'my people' recently, the friend group I'd had for over a decade, and realized none of them were actually there for me during my divorce.” It’s…
- Hey Olivia, how do I stop keeping score of who picked his side? · 6 min · Säsong 1 Avsnitt 282"Some of our mutual friends have clearly chosen his side since the divorce, still inviting him to game nights, tagging him in photos I wasn't asked to. I've caught myself…
- Hey Olivia, how do I make peace with people not being who I thought they were? · 6 min · Säsong 1 Avsnitt 283"I always assumed my college best friends, the four of us who swore we'd be there for each other no matter what, would be in my corner no matter what happened in my marriage…
- Hey Olivia, how do I ask for space without hurting the person who actually showed up for me? · 6 min · Säsong 1 Avsnitt 281"My sister has been showing up for me nonstop since my divorce, texting every morning and every night, asking if I'm okay a hundred times a week until the question itself starts…
- Hey Olivia, how do I let people actually show up for me during my divorce? · 6 min · Säsong 1 Avsnitt 279"Every time someone checks in on me since my divorce, I feel guilty for needing it. I keep saying 'I'm fine' even when I'm sitting on my kitchen floor crying five minutes…
- Hey Olivia, do I reach out one more time to my best friend who went quiet, or let it go? · 6 min · Säsong 1 Avsnitt 278"My best friend of 15 years went quiet on me the second she found out I was getting divorced. No fight, no falling out, she just stopped texting back." In this Hey Olivia…
- Hey Olivia, how do I explain to my divorce lawyer that I've been doing everything? · 6 min · Säsong 1 Avsnitt 292"Does it matter that I've been doing everything? Or am I going to sound like I'm just complaining?" That's the question at the heart of this week's Hey Olivia letter, and I know…
- Hey Olivia, our daughter was stillborn and we're separating. What do we do with her nursery, and who decides? · 6 min · Säsong 1 Avsnitt 291"I can't lose any more of her. What do we do, and who decides?" This week's Hey Olivia letter is a really tender one, and I read it slowly. It comes from a parent whose daughter…
- The Paperwork After the Paperwork: What No One Tells You About Divorce Finances · 10 min · Säsong 1 Avsnitt 290Your divorce decree is signed, and you assume the money part is done. Then the loose threads start showing up: the beneficiary you never changed, the deed still in both names…
- You're Not Meant to Do Divorce Alone: How to Build Community When You Need It Most with Monique Alexander · 19 min · Säsong 1 Avsnitt 289Monique Alexander has never believed we can exist in this world without community. Not the most famous people, not the most successful, and not anyone going through a divorce…
- A Divorce Without Court? How Family Law Arbitration Works with SOLAGREE Founder Amanda Mason · 13 min · Säsong 1 Avsnitt 288After more than 20 years as a divorce attorney, Amanda Mason calls herself a "recovering divorce attorney." She spent those years watching families get "absolutely tortured by…
- What Is a High Conflict Divorce, and How Do You Avoid One? With Family Law Attorney Christina White · 14 min · Säsong 1 Avsnitt 287One parent wants to keep the Social Security cards at their house. The other says no. And suddenly a question that will matter a handful of times in a child's life is a legal…
- The Divorce Is Final, So Why Don't You Feel Better? Divorce Recovery with Leah Marie Mazur · 16 min · Säsong 1 Avsnitt 286The papers are signed. The ink is dry. And somehow you still don't feel better. Olivia Howell remembers that moment exactly: standing in her marital house, thinking she had made…
- Will Divorce Ruin My Kids? How to Rewrite the Stories You Tell Yourself with Divorce Coach Lyerly Spongberg · 19 min · Säsong 1 Avsnitt 285"I'm not strong enough to be a single mom." That was the story Olivia Howell told herself when her marriage was ending, and it felt like a fact. Most people going through divorce…
- How to Find Joy During Divorce (Even When You're Angry, Scared, and Exhausted) with Divorce Coach Lisa Lisser · 21 min · Säsong 1 Avsnitt 284There is a particular kind of grief that comes from sitting in a school auditorium, watching your child on stage, and realizing you are not really there. Your body is in the…
- Hey Olivia, how do I feel the joy for my rainbow baby at the same time I'm planning to end my marriage? · 6 min · Säsong 1 Avsnitt 283This week's letter is a tender one. A listener wrote in after a pregnancy loss, holding the rainbow baby they prayed for and quietly planning to end their marriage. Everyone…
- From Full-Time Mom to Co-Parent: How to Let Go Without Losing Yourself After Divorce · 16 min · Säsong 1 Avsnitt 282There is a particular kind of grief that comes with realizing you are not going to be with your children every day anymore. For so many moms going through divorce, especially…
- Who Files FAFSA After Divorce? What Divorced Parents Need to Know About College Financial Aid · 20 min · Säsong 1 Avsnitt 281College can feel impossibly far away when your children are young and you’re in the middle of a divorce. And then, somehow, senior year arrives—and suddenly you’re staring at…
- Divorce Is Not Failure: Why We Need to Retire the Phrase “Failed Marriage” · 6 min · Säsong 1 Avsnitt 280It’s time to retire the phrase “failed marriage.” A marriage can last twenty years, contain children and homes and illnesses and inside jokes and terrible fights and beautiful…
- You Do Not Have to Know Yet: How to Know If You Should Get Divorced · 7 min · Säsong 1 Avsnitt 279You do not have to know yet. You do not have to wake up tomorrow morning certain that you are getting divorced, certain that you are staying married, certain that the…
- What Is a Parenting Plan? How to Build a Child-Centered Divorce Agreement with Mediator David Fein · 15 min · Säsong 1 Avsnitt 278When you’re getting divorced with children, there are some decisions that look deceptively simple on paper: Where will the kids sleep? Who takes them to soccer? What happens on…
- Hey Olivia, how do I figure out what I actually deserve when I've spent years talking myself out of wanting anything at all? · 6 min · Säsong 1 Avsnitt 277"I started believing that the criticism, the feeling small, the walking on eggshells, was just what marriage was. I've caught myself telling friends 'it's not that bad' about…
- A Divorce Lawyer's 3 Unexpected Tips for Getting Through Divorce · 13 min · Säsong 1 Avsnitt 278Sometimes, when your life is falling apart, the thing that helps you hold yourself together is something as ordinary as getting dressed. Not because a great outfit can solve your…
- How to Survive Shared Custody: 5 Ways to Stay Connected to Your Kids After Divorce · 7 min · Säsong 1 Avsnitt 278One of the most heartbreaking parts of divorce can happen after the agreements are signed and the custody calendar becomes real: suddenly, you may no longer see your children…
- Think You’re Divorcing a Narcissist? What to Do Before You Tell Them · 17 min · Säsong 1 Avsnitt 278There is a very specific kind of fear that comes with thinking about divorce when you have no idea how your spouse is going to react. Maybe every difficult conversation somehow…
- Shifting Perspectives: Why Are We So Afraid of Divorce? · 14 min · Säsong 1 Avsnitt 278Sometimes the hardest part of divorce isn’t only ending the marriage. It’s realizing how many beliefs you’ve inherited about what ending a marriage is supposed to say about you…
- Hey Olivia, how do I let myself question the plan of staying together for the kids? · 6 min · Säsong 1 Avsnitt 279"I've said 'we're staying together for the kids' so many times it's basically become my personality. But my daughter asked me last week why I always look sad when he's talking…
- Hey Olivia, how do I stop building a timeline of everything I should have known? · 6 min · Säsong 1 Avsnitt 281"Everyone keeps saying 'you must have known,' and honestly? I didn't. Now I'm replaying every conversation, every weird silence, every time something felt off and I told myself I…
- Hey Olivia, how do I know the difference between giving up too soon and finally admitting effort isn't the problem? · 6 min · Säsong 1 Avsnitt 278"I've read the books. I've gone to therapy, solo, since he won't come. Every time something doesn't work, my first thought isn't 'this isn't working,' it's 'I must not be trying…
- Hey Olivia, I posted something on TikTok during an angry divorce spiral and now I regret it. Do I delete it? · 6 min · Säsong 1 Avsnitt 274"I posted something on TikTok during an angry divorce spiral last night, mid-rant, feeling completely justified in the moment. This morning I woke up and read it back and felt…
- Hey Olivia, how do I stop sleeping with my spouse now that we're separated? · 6 min · Säsong 1 Avsnitt 273"Since my husband and I separated, we keep ending up back in bed together. It's not planned. It just happens." In this Hey Olivia listener letter episode, Olivia answers one of…
- Hey Olivia, I haven't told anyone I'm thinking about divorce. Does that mean I'm not serious about it? · 6 min · Säsong 1 Avsnitt 272"I've been thinking about divorce for months, but I haven't told a single person. Does that mean I'm not actually serious about it?" In this Hey Olivia listener letter episode…
- Hey Olivia, how do I know if this is over, or just a rough patch? · 5 min · Säsong 1 Avsnitt 271"How do I actually know if what I'm feeling is 'this is over,' or just a rough patch?" In this Hey Olivia listener letter episode, Olivia answers one of the most common quiet…
- You Don't Owe Anyone a Reason For Your Decision Yet · 6 min · Säsong 1 Avsnitt 270Do you feel like you need an airtight, defensible reason before you're even allowed to think about divorce? In this solo episode, Olivia pushes back on that pressure and hands…
- Why Your Body Shakes The First Time You Say Divorce Out Loud · 7 min · Säsong 1 Avsnitt 269Why does your heart race, your hands shake, or your throat tighten the moment you finally say "I'm getting divorced" out loud? In this solo episode, Olivia breaks down the…
- You Signed Your Divorce Decree — But Do You Actually Know What's In It? Molly Rosenblum, Esq. explains! · 18 min · Säsong 1 Avsnitt 268There's a piece of paper that ends your marriage and quietly runs your life for years afterward — and almost nobody reads the whole thing. In this episode of Divorce Happens…
- Hey Olivia, why am I the villain for leaving an abusive marriage? · 7 min · Säsong 1 Avsnitt 267There's a particular kind of injustice that so many survivors know intimately: you're the one who finally said enough, and somehow you've become the villain of the story. In this…
- Hey Olivia, how do I prepare for mediation with an ex who fights me on everything? · 7 min · Säsong 1 Avsnitt 266Mediation is hard enough when both people are negotiating in good faith. It's a different animal entirely when you're walking into the room across from someone who seems to…
- Hey Olivia, how do I survive watching my spouse date again while cohabitating? · 7 min · Säsong 1 Avsnitt 265There's a specific kind of heartbreak that doesn't have a name yet — the one where you're still doing his laundry in the same house while he giggles at his phone on the couch. In…
- The Mediation Series, Part 4: Life After Divorce Mediation · 12 min · Säsong 1 Avsnitt 264You don’t walk out of a mediation session into a blank space — and yet almost nobody talks about what actually comes next. That’s the gap this episode of the divorce mediation…
- The Mediation Series, Part 3: What It’s Actually Like to Be in Divorce Mediation · 16 min · Säsong 1 Avsnitt 263For most people, the inside of a mediation session is a total mystery — a closed door they’re about to walk through with no idea what’s on the other side. That’s exactly the gap…
- The Mediation Series, Part 2: How to Prepare for Divorce Mediation · 14 min · Säsong 1 Avsnitt 262A mediator is not a magician. That single line, dropped early in this episode of Divorce Happens, sets the tone for one of the most genuinely useful conversations in the show’s…
- The Mediation Series, Part 1: What Is Divorce Mediation, Really? · 13 min · Säsong 1 Avsnitt 261Most people going through a divorce have heard the word “mediation” — and almost none of them know what it actually means. That gap is exactly where this episode of Divorce…
- Hey Olivia, I filed for divorce and now I'm drowning in grief—did I make a mistake?! · 6 min · Säsong 1 Avsnitt 260She planned it for months — saved up, found an apartment, rehearsed the speech. She was sure. And three weeks after filing, she’s crying in a Target parking lot, smelling her…
- Hey Olivia, is it safe to talk about my divorce on social media while it's happening? · 6 min · Säsong 1 Avsnitt 259There’s a question sitting in almost every divorced person’s notes app at 1 a.m.: is it okay to post about this? For the listener who wrote in this week, the pull to share is…
- She Lost Everything in Her Divorce. Now She's a State Senator Fighting to Change the Law. · 21 min · Säsong 1 Avsnitt 258There's a particular kind of exhaustion that comes from fighting a legal system that was never built to protect you — and North Carolina State Senator Woodson Bradley knows that…
