"Girl, I've been thinking"
by Monica Cotolan
Latest episode
The Woman You Become When You’re Trying to Be Loved
The Woman You Become When You’re Trying to Be Loved
About this podcast
Girl, I’ve been thinking…
This podcast is for the woman who feels awake — but restless. Who’s tired of performing healing and ready to be honest instead.
Hosted by Monica Cotolan, Girl, I’ve Been Thinking is an intimate, unfiltered podcast about identity, emotional patterns, self-betrayal, and becoming the person your life is asking for.
No motivation. No fluff.
Just conversations that feel like a mirror.
If you’re ready to stop circling your potential and actually meet yourself, press play.
Episodes
The newest 20 of 42 episodes
- The Woman You Become When You’re Trying to Be Loved · 27 minListen to this before entering a relationship. Or before losing yourself in the one you’re already in. Because sometimes we don’t lose ourselves all at once. We do it slowly. We…
- Your Nervous System Is Addicted to the Old Story · 23 minYou can’t create a new life with a nervous system that’s still loyal to the old one. In this episode, you’ll learn why you keep repeating the same patterns , and how to begin…
- The Toxic Side of ‘Healing’ No One Talks About · 19 minYou think you’re healing. But what if you’re just… performing it? In this episode, I’m calling out the version of “healing” that looks good on the surface like love, light, high…
- How to Move On After a Breakup or Ghosting (When You Didn’t Get Closure) · 26 minYou don’t miss them. You miss what you thought it could be. That’s why you keep going back ,even when it’s over. In this episode, we talk about: •why you feel stuck after a…
- he was cute until he wasn’t · 48 min · Episode 6subtle icks that instantly kill attraction . The ick. I asked women online. They didn’t hold back. It’s always something small. And then it’s over. Follow & connect Instagram…
- What If You’re the Red Flag ?… And You Don’t Know It? · 27 min · Episode 5What if the reason your relationships keep ending the same way… isn’t just them? In this episode, we’re talking about the patterns nobody wants to admit: falling for potential…
- Why Some People Move On So Fast After a Breakup · 26 min · Episode 4Some people move on quickly after a breakup. Others barely survive the silence. In this episode I break down the pattern known as monkey-barring , when someone jumps from one…
- Why Being Replaced Hurts So Much · 29 min · Season 3 Episode 3Being replaced can make you question your entire worth. One moment you’re part of someone’s life … and the next it feels like you’ve been swapped out like you never mattered. And…
- You’re Not Hard to Love. You’re Performing for It. · 25 min · Season 3 Episode 2Have you ever felt like you had to be a certain version of yourself to be loved? In this episode, I’m talking about what it means to perform in relationships , to overgive…
- You’re Not the Same Person Anymore — And That’s the Problem · 21 min · Season 3 Episode 1At some point, growth stops feeling empowering and starts feeling… quieter. In this episode, we talk about what happens after you become self-aware when you can’t unsee patterns…
- Why People Fear Your Reflection (And How to Stay Unshaken) · 15 min · Season 2 Episode 6What if the way people react to you… isn’t really about you? In this raw and reflective episode, I invite you into the truth behind your light: You are a mirror. Some will feel…
- From Gaslight to Glow Up: Reclaiming Your Power After Narcissistic Abuse · 33 min · Season 2 Episode 5Are you tired of second-guessing your reality? Still picking up the pieces after a toxic relationship? This episode is your lifeline. Dive deep into the hidden world of…
- Why Your Emotions Are the Hidden Code They Don’t Want You to Crack (Unlock Your True Self) · 23 min · Season 2 Episode 4Ever feel like your emotions are a tangled mess, steering you off course? In this soul-stirring episode, we dive deep into the truth your heart already knows: Your emotions are…
- Fearless You: Mastering Self-Confidence · 14 min · Season 2 Episode 3🌟 Boost Your Self-Confidence! 🌟 In this episode, we dive deep into the transformative power of self-confidence. Join us as we share personal stories, expert tips, and actionable…
- Navigating the Inner Landscape: Love, Fear, and Happiness with Marius Kapp · 44 min · Season 2 Episode 2In this thought-provoking episode, we dive deep into the realms of self-awareness and emotional balance. Join us as we explore the integration of feminine and masculine energies…
- Falling in love with life again · 18 min · Season 2 Episode 1It’s not uncommon to fall into a rut. Life can be monotonous. Our routines are often the same day-to-day. And if you are out of alignment maybe you don’t live the life that you…
- Dare to detach · 17 min · Episode 26Understand that life has unpredictable plans in store for everyone. You can’t steer it in any direction or control it. So, never worry about factors out of your influence. Focus…
- Breaking the Cycle: Recognizing and Overcoming Toxic Traits · 25 min · Episode 25In order to break the cycle of toxic behavior, it is crucial to first identify and recognize common toxic traits. These traits can manifest in various ways and have a significant…
- Dark feminine energy |how to tap into it&embrace it · 25 min · Episode 24Dark feminine energy is often a misunderstood concept because we tend to think of darkness as something negative. Life is full of contrasts and complexities, and much of our…
- How to become a high value woman | traits to avoid | dating tips | high value from a man POV · 30 min · Episode 23Would you like to know the secrets of how to be a high value woman, and what high value woman traits are?And how to be a high value woman in dating?You’ve come to the right…
