Master Your Marriage
de Sharla and Robert Snow
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Stop Coaching Your Spouse When They're Upset
Stop Coaching Your Spouse When They're Upset
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The average couple waits 6 years to get help in their marriage. That's 6 years of pain, hurt, frustration and lost opportunity.
This podcast is designed to help you NOT become a part of that statistic.
Hosted by Dr. Robert and Sharla Snow — themselves married for 31 years — The Master Your Marriage show is here with straight-talking guidance on how to fill your marriage with fun, friendship and love, without it ever feeling like "hard work."
No matter how long you've been struggling with your marriage, or how long it's been since you've felt that "spark," we promise you, there is hope!
Your MASTERFUL marriage starts here.
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- Stop Coaching Your Spouse When They're Upset · 29 min · Temporada 1 Episódio 183Has your spouse ever come to you hurt, and instead of hearing them out, you corrected how they said it? We're Robert and Sharla, married for over three decades and coaching…
- How to Ask Your Spouse for What You Want (Without Starting a Fight) · 31 min · Temporada 1 Episódio 182Do you know exactly what bugs you about your spouse, but freeze up when it comes to saying what you actually want instead? We're Robert and Sharla, married for over three decades…
- But He Should Already Know: Failing the Test You Didn't Know You Were Taking · 28 min · Temporada 1 Episódio 181Do you wait for your spouse to figure out what you need, and then feel hurt when they don't? Or do you tell yourself it's not worth asking anyway? We're Robert and Sharla…
- Why You Get Defensive When Your Spouse Is Upset · 36 min · Temporada 1 Episódio 180Do you get defensive the second your spouse says they're upset with you? Most of us do. We start correcting the facts, or we go straight to "poor me," and five minutes later…
- How Lifelong Lovers Cherish Each Other Differently · 37 min · Temporada 1 Episódio 179How Lifelong Lovers Cherish Each Other Differently - It is easy to look at someone else’s business, family, house, or marriage and decide ours is not enough. The longer we stay…
- Why the Spark Fades in Marriage, and How to Wake It Back Up · 29 min · Temporada 1 Episódio 178How Lifelong Lovers Keep Wanting Each Other Last week we kept talking about the work of stopping damage. That work matters. If contempt, unbridled expression, or defensiveness…
- Why Your Marriage Collapses Under Pressure · 26 min · Temporada 1 Episódio 177Get the workbook that accompanies this series Last week we talked about borrowing a self. How many of us build a pseudo-self out of attention and approval — reassurance from a…
- Why You Manage Their Mood Instead of Your Own · 26 min · Temporada 1 Episódio 176Last week we talked about anxiety as a response to a real or imagined threat. How we make our partner the threat. How reactivity is the anxiety. This week is the question…
- When Your Partner Feels Like a Threat - Relationship Anxiety Explained · 29 min · Temporada 1 Episódio 175If you don’t think you have anxiety, this episode is probably for you. A lot of us hear “anxiety” and picture someone who worries all day and imagines every disaster. That is not…
- Why “AND” Changes Hard Conversations · 23 min · Temporada 1 Episódio 174One of the smallest words in English can quietly change the emotional climate of a marriage. In this episode, we talk about the difference between “but” and “and.” “But” often…
- Empathy: The Antidote to Contempt · 34 min · Temporada 1 Episódio 173We just spent two episodes looking at contempt—the number one predictor of divorce. One of the clearest takeaways is this: empathy and contempt cannot live in the same room. When…
- How to Build a Contempt-Free Marriage -- Contempt is the #1 predictor of divorce! · 29 min · Temporada 1 Episódio 172Last week we named the problem: contempt is addictive, corrosive, and the #1 predictor of divorce. This week we take up the harder question—how do we actually walk away from it?…
- The Addiction of Contempt · 31 min · Temporada 1 Episódio 171In this episode, we unpack one of the most destructive forces in modern relationships: contempt. Drawing from Arthur Brooks’ book Love Your Enemies, we explore why contempt is…
- Breaking the Silent Treatment: How to End the Silence and Reconnect in Your Marriage · 24 min · Temporada 1 Episódio 170We’ve all heard (or said) those loaded words: “We need to talk.” For most of us, they immediately trigger defensiveness and dread. But what happens when conversations stop…
- Defensiveness Is a Self-Esteem Problem - And How to Fix It · 30 min · Temporada 1 Episódio 169Most of us get defensive without even realizing it — and it’s one of the fastest ways connection breaks down in marriage. In this episode, we explore why defensiveness is…
- Mini Episode: Real Self Esteem, Shame & Grandiosity (Listener Questions) · 5 min · Temporada 1 Episódio 168In this quick mid-week bonus episode, Sharla answers two listener questions from our current series on Real Self Esteem and the distortions of shame and grandiosity. We explore…
- How Adapting to Trauma Wires Us for Shame · 30 min · Temporada 1 Episódio 167This is part two of our shame series. Be sure to listen to last week's episode for an introduction into shame and how it relates to self-esteem. In this episode, we go deeper…
- The Shame Cycle That’s Hurting Your Marriage · 26 min · Temporada 1 Episódio 166Most of us are walking around with a relationship to ourselves that is pretty dysfunctional — and we don’t even realize it. We bounce back and forth between shame and…
- Why Therapy Often Falls Short - Even When It’s Good Therapy · 24 min · Temporada 1 Episódio 165Many people do deep, sincere work in therapy and gain real insight into their patterns — yet they still find themselves repeating the same painful cycles in their relationships…
- Don’t Run From Tension – Stephen Curry’s Marriage Wisdom · 31 min · Temporada 1 Episódio 164What if the secret to a thriving marriage isn’t avoiding conflict… but learning to lean into it? In this episode, Sharla and Robert explore NBA superstar Stephen Curry’s powerful…
