Modern Love
by The New York Times
Latest episode
Turns Out My Supermodel Boyfriend Was in a Cult
Turns Out My Supermodel Boyfriend Was in a Cult
About this podcast
For more than 20 years, the Modern Love column has given New York Times readers a glimpse into the complicated love lives of real people. Since its start, the column has evolved into a TV show, three books and a podcast.
Each week, host Anna Martin brings you stories and conversations about love in all its glorious permutations, dumb pitfalls and life-changing moments. New episodes every Wednesday.
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Episodes
The newest 50 of 468 episodes
- Turns Out My Supermodel Boyfriend Was in a Cult · 48 min · Episode 471Donna Flagg didn’t expect to fall in love with a supermodel, but her connection with Hoyt Richards was undeniable. The two would talk to each other for hours, effortlessly, over…
- Being a Sex Worker Made Me Trust Men More · 56 min · Episode 470When Paloma Karr took a job at Sheri’s Ranch, a legal brothel in Nevada, she thought of men as paychecks. Back home in New York City, Karr had just gone through an intense…
- How Unthinkable Loss Led Me to the Top of Mount Everest · 42 min · Episode 469After tremendous loss and heartbreak, Jim Morrison didn’t feel he had anything left to lose. Then he went for a walk. Next, a hike. Soon, he was running. He found challenging…
- On Our Third Date, I Asked for a Joint Bank Account (Encore) · 46 min · Episode 468Janene Lin loathed the moment when the dinner bill would hit the table. When her date would pay, she felt like her love was for sale. Splitting the bill felt like no one had…
- Does My Son Like His Stepmother More Than Me? · 48 min · Episode 467One thing that comforted Denise Ryan after her divorce was that she and her ex-husband still talked every day. Even though they lived apart, they were still co-parenting their…
- How Alan Cumming Escaped His Father and Became Himself · 47 min · Episode 466The actor Alan Cumming is not the man his father wanted him to be. Growing up, Cumming says, his father had specific ideas about how he should look and what he should do with his…
- I’m Black, Even if You Don’t See it · 55 min · Episode 465For most of her life, Kelly McWilliams has felt as though people aren’t seeing her clearly. Kelly is biracial, and she was raised to be proud of her identity: she grew up…
- I Left My Fiancé, My Church and My Shame · 35 min · Episode 464At the age of 25, the comedian Taylor Tomlinson was sure she had life and love figured out. She’d left behind a religious faith that felt too restrictive. She was engaged to a…
- I Was That Cliché Divorced Guy, and I Knew It · 51 min · Episode 463Joe Swanberg married the first person he ever seriously dated. When that marriage ended, his romantic life got complicated. Messy, even. He started dating younger women, ended up…
- How to Feed Your Feelings After Divorce · 49 min · Episode 462Carla Lalli is well known as a chef and a cookbook author. But after many years in food media, working at places like Bon Appétit, she started to lose her personal connection to…
- In 24 Hours, My Whole Life Changed · 38 min · Episode 461Blake Martin was in his car waiting to pick up pizza when a notification from his doctor hit his phone. As he read it, his stomach dropped and his mind started racing. It was the…
- Hosting an Orgy Is About More Than Just Sex · 38 min · Episode 460Jess Zakira Wise knew she wanted to experiment with group sex, but as she got into the scene she struggled to find a sex party where she felt comfortable. She kept finding spaces…
- I Don’t Trust A.I. But I Told it Everything · 40 min · Episode 459The tech writer and podcaster Bridget Todd was sure she’d never get attached to A.I. chatbots. She was suspicious of the companies behind them, and when she saw articles popping…
- Am I Too Anxious for Love? · 50 min · Episode 458Jenny Singer thought she had a lung fungus. That would explain the shortness of breath that she was experiencing. The doctor’s other explanation was anxiety, which seemed…
- Where Did All My Male Friendships Go? (Encore) · 1 h 1 min · Episode 457Sam Graham-Felsen never imagined being lonely. Throughout his childhood and as a young man his life revolved around his friends. But when Sam got married and then had kids, going…
- Is Polyamory Right for You? · 48 min · Episode 456Elisabeth “Eli” Sheff is a polyamory expert. When she first heard about polyamorous relationships, back in the early ’90s, hardly anyone was talking about this stuff. But Sheff…
- My Disability Makes My Sex Life Even Hotter · 56 min · Episode 455At the age of 15, the filmmaker and actor Kyla Harris had an accident that forever changed what her body could do, and what it couldn’t. From then on, she needed someone with her…
- 'The Interview': Robby Hoffman Will Always Feel Poor, No Matter How Rich She Gets · 52 min · Episode 454The comedian and actor says class and the way she grew up inform everything about the way she lives now.
- Ask Me About My Dead Son · 51 min · Episode 453In 2019, Susie Shaw’s 9-year-old son, William, died in a skiing accident. We talk about grief a lot on this show, but a parent grieving the death of a child is a loss so…
- Eddie Huang Drops the Tough Guy Act · 51 min · Episode 452When the chef, writer and filmmaker Eddie Huang joined the “Modern Love” podcast to discuss his new novel, “Come Undone,” our host Anna Martin asked him to start by reading a few…
- Friends for 16 Years. Lovers for One Night. (Encore) · 40 min · Episode 451Elizabeth and Jeff were best friends. They did everything together, from early-morning runs to late-night karaoke sessions. They came up with secret code names for each other and…
- How Getting Stoned With My Dad Helped Us Heal · 44 min · Episode 450Growing up, Julian Brave NoiseCat’s father, Ed Archie NoiseCat, wasn’t around much. Other than the occasional ride to hockey practice from his dad, Julian mostly remembers the…
- Laverne Cox Is Ready to Tell the Truth. Even if It’s Messy. · 56 min · Episode 449Laverne Cox never fit in as a child in Mobile, Ala. But she really didn’t want to. From an early age, she knew she was going to be a star, and she was right. Decades later, Cox…
- I Tried to Have a Kid With My Best Friend. It Got Complicated. · 46 min · Episode 448Joseph Osmundson spent years joking about having a baby with his best friend. But one day, she told Joe she was serious about it. Joe was elated. Growing up, he had always wanted…
- Is Codependency Good? · 42 min · Episode 447Mark Duplass and Katie Aselton’s lives are completely intertwined. They’ve been married for almost 20 years while collaborating on films, raising children and spending as much…
- I Tried Everything to Escape My Heartbreak. Only This Worked. · 44 min · Episode 446Lauren Bans was seven months pregnant when she realized she needed a divorce. Suddenly, she found herself heartbroken, terrified, and completely unable to make decisions or think…
- Love Lessons From Ramy Youssef’s Dog · 38 min · Episode 445When people stop Ramy Youssef on the street, it's usually not because they're mega-fans of his comedy. Instead, they mostly just want to pet his dog. It's not until they walk…
- Isabel Allende and Her Mother Told Each Other (Almost) Everything · 46 min · Episode 444Isabel Allende began writing daily letters to her mother when she was a teenager. Over the next several decades, they exchanged over 24,000 of them. Allende credits their letter…
- My Mom Had a Secret Daughter. I Finally Found Her. · 50 min · Episode 443Tracy Clark-Flory was 16 when she learned something that would change her world forever: She had a half sister she’d never met. Tracy's mother, Deborah, had gotten pregnant as a…
- No, I Won't Be Your Bridesmaid · 52 min · Episode 442Ruhama Wolle loves weddings, but after being a bridesmaid three times in a little more than a year, she reached a breaking point. The financial and emotional burden was too much…
- Elizabeth Banks Married Her College Sweetheart. They’re Still in Love. · 45 min · Episode 441On her first day of college, Elizabeth Banks met a cute guy at a party. This was long before her roles in “Pitch Perfect” and “30 Rock.” A lot has changed, but 33 years later…
- My Husband’s Breakdown Was My Breakthrough · 54 min · Episode 440It was Stefanie and Jonathan’s worst nightmare: Jonathan’s depression had become so severe he was begging to be taken to the hospital. Stefanie took him to the hospital and then…
- Zendaya and Robert Pattinson on Marriage and Secrets · 33 min · Episode 439In their buzzy new film, “The Drama,” Zendaya and Robert Pattinson play an engaged couple whose relationship is imploding. With their wedding just a week away, Emma (Zendaya)…
- He’s Gay. She’s Straight. They’re Newlyweds. (Encore) · 38 min · Episode 438Jacob Hoff and Samantha Greenstone call their unlikely love “a soul connection.”
- A Widow's Guide to Sex · 54 min · Episode 437When Joan Price's husband died, her grief left her feeling alienated from her body. She was numb. She couldn’t have orgasms. Her sex drive disappeared. Joan understood better…
- Jessie Buckley Became a Mother for 'Hamnet.' Then She Became a Real One. (Encore) · 36 min · Episode 436The Oscar-nominated actress talks about the primal love and grief of motherhood.
- Lindy West Thought She Couldn’t Handle Polyamory. She Was Wrong. · 51 min · Episode 435When she was growing up, the writer Lindy West was bombarded with negative messages about being fat. The whole world seemed to think she didn’t deserve love unless she lost…
- I Didn’t Want to Have Kids. My Husband Did. Could Our Marriage Survive? · 53 min · Episode 434Helena de Groot thought she had decided not to become a mother. But, she found, she had to make that decision over and over again.
- What Happened When My Dad and I Came Out to Each Other · 38 min · Episode 433Julia Stoller loved her dad. But she never wanted to be him. He was a rule follower, he was so serious, and he was so straight. Then, when Julia was in her 20s, she got a phone…
- The Secret to True Romance · 39 min · Episode 432What we learned when you sent in stories of your most romantic moments. Plus, the king and queen of valentines.
- The Real Story Behind Jennette McCurdy’s Novel “Half His Age.” · 44 min · Episode 431Please note: this episode contains explicit descriptions of sex. Jennette McCurdy pretty much grew up in front of an audience. In her role on the Nickelodeon show “iCarly,” she…
- I Was the Fun Dad. It Almost Destroyed My Marriage. · 43 min · Episode 430When Jordan Carlos looks back on the role he was playing in his family a few years ago, he does not like what he sees. He was bringing home a good salary as a comedian, but doing…
- I Tried to Toughen Up My Son. He Had Other Ideas. · 56 min · Episode 429Sam Graham-Felsen was not a tough child. He feared violence and didn’t feel that he could stand up for himself when he was bullied. His fear ate away at his confidence; he was…
- Was I Married To A Stranger? · 55 min · Episode 428Belle Burden was living the kind of life most can only dream of. Born into a wealthy New York family, she married a dashing attorney who had swept her off her feet. The couple…
- Want to have better sex this year? Here’s how. · 41 min · Episode 427Do you think you could be having better sex? Are you confident you know what really turns you on? What makes your body feel good? How do you communicate about it? Nicole…
- Andrew Garfield Wants to Crack Open Your Heart (Encore) · 49 min · Episode 426The actor knows life is fleeting, but he wants to hold onto every moment.
- I Cashed Out My 401(k) to Build a Women’s Only Retirement Community · 28 min · Episode 425When it came time to retire, Robyn Yerian didn’t feel like she had enough money saved. She didn’t want to depend on her children or end up in a nursing home, so she cashed out…
- Jessie Buckley Became a Mother for ‘Hamnet.’ Then She Became One for Real. · 36 min · Episode 424The actor Jessie Buckley says she wasn’t surprised that she got pregnant right after she finished shooting “Hamnet.” The film — starring Paul Mescal as William Shakespeare and…
- Finding the Magic, Just in Time (Encore) · 41 min · Episode 423Clare Cory was 59 years old and had been single almost her whole life. She thought her love story was over. Then everything changed.
- A Therapist’s Emotional Tool Kit for a Better Holiday Season · 44 min · Episode 422The holiday season is upon us. It’s a wonderful time, but if we’re being honest, it’s also a little stressful. Whether you’re worried about hosting a big family gathering…
