Multiamory: Rethinking Modern Relationships
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About this podcast
Multiamory offers support and advice for modern relationships. Whether you are monogamous, polyamorous, swinging, casually dating, or if you just do relationships differently, we see you and we’re here for you.
Multiamory is a proud member of Pleasure Podcasts. For network details, contact [email protected].
Episodes
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- 603 - Is My Autonomy the Problem? Listener Q&A · 35 min · Season 1 Episode 603On this episode of the Multiamory Podcast, we're answering a listener who has been polyamorous for almost two decades, is upfront with every partner that he is non-hierarchical…
- 602 - Why You Miss Someone Who Hurt You · 1 h 2 min · Season 1 Episode 602Today we're talking about missing past relationships and partners, even if they hurt you or weren't good experiences. Most advice just says to get over it, but we're going to…
- 601 - Polyamory as a Political Movement with Dr. Kim TallBear · 52 min · Season 1 Episode 601This week we're excited to welcome back Kim Tallbear to the show to talk about polyamory as a political movement. Kim TallBear (Sisseton-Wahpeton Oyate citizen) is Professor of…
- 600 - So Your Hinge Sucks at Hinge-ing · 54 min · Season 1 Episode 600We're discussing hinge partners this episode, specifically what to do when a hinge partner is struggling at being a good hinge. We've got some updated research to go over since…
- 599 - What Do I Do When Both My Partners Want Marriage? Listener Q&A · 32 min · Season 1 Episode 599We're tackling another listener question this episode, this time about marriage. What happens when multiple people want to marry you? If you want one of your questions answered…
- 598 - Over-Functioning in Relationships: Why Taking On More Makes It Worse · 59 min · Season 1 Episode 598This week we're diving into over-functioning in relationships and how it can actually work against us. We'll be discussing some of the research available about group projects…
- 597 - What are Asexuality and Aromanticism (with Patrick Bex)? · 53 min · Season 1 Episode 597We're excited to welcome Patrick Bex to the show this week to talk about asexuality and aromanticism! Patrick is an aroace advocate, content creator, and author best known for…
- 596 - Relationship OCD and Non-monogamy (with Sheva Rajaee MFT) · 56 min · Season 1 Episode 596Today we're diving into the world of OCD, specifically relationship OCD, with Sheva Rajaee. Sheva is a licensed marriage and family therapist, director of The Center for Anxiety…
- 595 - Does My Metamour Owe Me Their STI Results? - Listener Q&A · 47 min · Season 1 Episode 595We've got another Q&A episode this week, and this time we're answering two listener questions about sexual health and STI protocol among non-monogamous partners! Generally…
- 594 - Open Up Your Relationship in X Easy Steps · 51 min · Season 1 Episode 594Today we're diving into the internet's favorite genre of relationship advice: open up your relationship in X easy steps! We spent time gathering advice and tips from journalists…
- Summer Break · 2 min · Season 1Hey everyone, we’re taking this week off! Here's where you can find us (or a version of us) while we're away: Hang out in our private Discord community → multiamory.com/join Join…
- 593 - The Lost Science of Flirting · 1 h 7 min · Season 1 Episode 593Today we're diving into the science of flirting! Nowadays, flirting feels harder than it used to be, and we're going to be bringing some of the research to light about why that…
- 592 - Intimacy When Sex Is Off the Table - Listener Q&A · 51 min · Season 1 Episode 592Today we're tackling another listener question about intimacy that doesn't involve sex. Whether it's a physical reason or just a desire to be intimate without having sex, we all…
- 591 - Shift Anxious Attachment with Your Body, Not Your Brain (with Orit Krug) · 1 h 4 min · Season 1 Episode 591We're excited to welcome Orit Krug back to the show to talk about anxious attachment from a somatic perspective! We'll be discussing relationship anxiety, the research there is…
- 590 - Is Non-Monogamy Worth the Struggle? · 37 min · Season 1 Episode 590This week we're hearing from some of our listeners. We recently polled listeners and asked you all to tell us what the hardest, complicated, messy parts of non-monogamy are, as…
- 589 - This Too Shall Pass: The Science of Acceptance · 53 min · Season 1 Episode 589Join our community and get the companion PDF Everything ends, from relationships to feelings to situations, to eventually, lives. We often frame this idea as something bad…
- 588 - Bridging Financial Gaps in Polyamory · 1 h 0 min · Season 1 Episode 588We're talking about money this week, specifically financial gaps in non-monogamous relationships. Money is one of the most fraught topics in any relationship, and in polyamory…
- 587 - Discomfort Around Sex: Listener Q&A · 33 min · Season 1 Episode 587We're tackling another listener question this week and talking about discomfort and guilt around sex in non-monogamy. Even those of us who have been non-monogamous for a very…
- 586 - How to Support Your Partner Through a Breakup · 53 min · Season 1 Episode 586Today we're revisiting a topic we've covered before...supporting a partner through a breakup. We're going to focus on managing your own emotions and feelings during a loss you're…
- 585 - The First Study on Relationship Anarchy with Dr. Nicole Thompson · 1 h 0 min · Season 1 Episode 585We're excited to welcome Dr. Nicole Thompson onto the show to talk about her research on relationship anarchy! Dr. Nicole Thompson (she/her) is a queer Sex and Relationship…
- 584 - Buddhist Perspective on Compersion with Dr. Marie Thouin · 46 min · Season 1 Episode 584We're excited to share a discussion between Dedeker and Marie Thouin about compersion from a Buddhist perspective. Dr. Marie Thouin is a leading expert and scholar on compersion…
- 583 - Is It a "Me" Problem or a "We" Problem? How to Know What to Bring to Your Partner · 34 min · Season 1 Episode 583Today we're tackling another listener question from one of our Supercast subscribers! How do you discern what's a "you" problem versus a problem you should bring up with a…
- 582 - Long Distance Relationships: Are They Worth It? · 1 h 4 min · Season 1 Episode 582Today we're diving into the topic of long distance relationships! Are they worth having? What does the research say? We'll be discussing all of this and sharing some ways to…
- 581 - Humor and Attraction with Dr. Paul Eastwick · 59 min · Season 1 Episode 581Today we're excited to be joined by Dr. Paul Eastwick to talk about humor and the part it plays in attraction. Paul Eastwick is a Professor of Psychology at UC Davis and the…
- 580 - Actually, You Should Be Testing Your Partner · 1 h 0 min · Season 1 Episode 580Have you ever tested a partner? Found yourself engineering a situation, dropping a hint, waiting for them to text first, all so you can see if they're as committed to you as you…
- 579 - Polysaturation vs. New Poly Energy: Listener Q&A · 31 min · Season 1 Episode 579This week we're sharing another Q&A episode! We'll be discussing a listener question from one of our Supercast subscribers. Today we're chatting about how to know when you're…
- 578 - Getting Back Together with an Ex: Great Idea or Terrible Idea? · 54 min · Season 1 Episode 578We're back and refreshed after a week off, and for this week's episode, we're talking about getting back together with an ex. We'll be discussing some personal stories and…
- 577 - Should You Push Through the “Ick”? · 59 min · Season 1 Episode 577Have you ever felt the "Ick"? Maybe you were in the beginning stages of a relationship and still evaluating if you're attracted to someone, getting to know them, and maybe, just…
- 576 - In Praise of Indirect Communication: Is Directness Actually Superior? · 58 min · Season 1 Episode 576Today we're going back to our roots and discussing communication again! We're diving into direct and indirect communication during this episode, and talking about high context…
- 575 - I’ll Never Be Their First Priority: Listener Q&A · 34 min · Season 1 Episode 575This week we're answering a question from a listener in another Q&A episode. We're going to be diving into feeling like you're never a priority for your partner, and what to do…
- 574 - How to Make Calendaring Not Suck · 1 h 7 min · Season 1 Episode 574Today we're covering a topic that causes a lot of friction in a lot of relationships: scheduling. Sometimes, coordinating time with people we love - whether it's family…
- 573 - Is the Non-Monogamy in Vicky Cristina Barcelona Realistic? Film Critique with Love Factually · 1 h 26 min · Season 1 Episode 573Today we're excited to be sharing an episode with Eli Finkel and Paul Eastwick of the Love Factually podcast! We're critiquing Vicky Cristina Barcelona's portrayal of…
- 572 - Building Commitment Off the Relationship Escalator · 58 min · Season 1 Episode 572Today we're talking about milestones in relationships, and how to build commitment when you're actively trying not to stay on the relationship escalator. We'll be discussing…
- 571 - They're Unwinding from Monogamy. Should I Wait Around? Listener Q&A · 44 min · Season 1 Episode 571Today we're diving into a question from one of our listeners about partners who recently left monogamy and are still adjusting to stepping off of the relationship escalator. If…
- 570 - Play as Resistance: featuring Gary Ware from Breakthrough Play and Normalizing Non-Monogamy · 1 h 15 min · Season 1 Episode 570This week we're featuring an episode from our friends Emma and Fin at Normalizing Non-Monogamy with guests Gary Ware and our own Jase Lindgren! Emma, Fin, Gary, and Jase talk…
- 569 - Why is Everyone So Tired of Dating? · 1 h 10 min · Season 1 Episode 569Today we're tackling a concept that's on a lot of people's minds lately: burnout. Specifically, we'll be discussing dating burnout and fatigue, which seem to be rife on social…
- 568 - When You Want More Time But Your Partner Won’t Give It · 1 h 5 min · Season 1 Episode 568Today we're talking about time, both quality and quantity of it, and what to do if you and your partner end up clashing over it. We're going to discuss some research about shared…
- 567 - Is Toxic Individualism a Real Problem? · 47 min · Season 1 Episode 567Today we're answering a question about toxic individuality, inspired by a post about not being able to share certain things with a partner. We'll touch on the idea of how much is…
- 566 - More Than a Numbers Game: Dating Truths from Feeld's Data Team · 1 h 13 min · Season 1 Episode 566Today we're diving into one of our favorite things - data! We're excited to welcome Sy Dusk and Alexandra Kilpatrick from Feeld. Sy is a data analyst and Alexandra is the head of…
- 565 - Results Are In: The Largest Non-Monogamy Study · 1 h 1 min · Season 1 Episode 565Today we're excited to be joined by Brett Chamberlin and Dr. Amy Moors to discuss the recent results of the largest non-monogamy survey done to date. Brett Chamberlin (he/him)…
- 564 - Help! My partner's dates are difficult to endure! Listener Q&A · 36 min · Season 1 Episode 564Today we're tackling a listener question from one of our Supercast supporters. We'll be discussing in depth how to help regulate yourself when your partner goes on dates, even if…
- 563 - The Episode to Share with Your Parents: Remastered · 52 min · Season 1 Episode 563This week, we're sharing a remastered version of an episode that aired back in 2023. This is the episode to share with parents, family, or other loved ones when you've come out…
- 562 - Polyamory in a Red State with Stacey McLarty · 52 min · Season 1 Episode 562We're excited to invite Stacey McLarty to the show as our guest today! Stacey is a Texas attorney who supports individuals and chosen families through affirming, wholistic legal…
- 561 - Level Up Your Polyamory: Common Newbie Mistakes (and How to Fix Them) · 46 min · Season 1 Episode 561Happy New Year to you all! For our first episode of the new year, we bring you our hot new take with much wizer eyes on an older episode from back in 2016 about five mistakes…
- 560 - I'm Solo Poly, But I Want More: Listener Q&A · 47 min · Season 1 Episode 560Today we're tackling two listener questions about being solo polyamorous and wanting a more entangled or anchored relationships, either with existing partners or while seeking…
- 559 - The Struggle of Loneliness · 1 h 8 min · Season 1 Episode 559We're covering the topic of loneliness in today's episode. In 2023, the U.S. Surgeon General declared loneliness a public health crisis, and the physical health risks associated…
- 558 - This Is Your Brain on (Jealousy) Drugs · 1 h 11 min · Season 1 Episode 558Today we're bringing back a remastered episode from way back in the day. We're going to be revisiting our first episode about jealousy, diving into the science behind it, why we…
- 557 - Is Sexual Rejection Hurting Your Relationships? · 48 min · Season 1 Episode 557Today we're exploring rejection, specifically sexual rejection, and how it can affect our relationships. We'll first get into rejection itself and bids for connection, then…
- 556 - How Much is Too Much Information About My Other Relationships? Listener Q&A · 44 min · Season 1 Episode 556Today we're tackling a listener question about sharing information within polyamorous relationships. We'll be talking about how much information is okay to share in relationships…
- Let's Have Some Fun For a Change! See You On The Foosball Court - Relationship Recess 2026 · 4 min · Season 1Get your tickets now before prices go up at the end of January!Tickets and details here: multiamory.link/recess2026Join our amazing community of listeners at…
