The Secure Husband
by M. Bruce Abbott, M.A, CPC
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Why Fearful Avoidants Reach In Then Pull Away (FA Podcast Series)
Why Fearful Avoidants Reach In Then Pull Away (FA Podcast Series)
About this podcast
A Secure Husband no longer seeks validation from his wife; he stands strong in self-worth, meets his own emotional needs, and leads with confidence and clarity. I’ve been where you are, and I’m here to help you break free from old patterns, reclaim your strength, and transform your marriage from the inside out.
Episodes
The newest 20 of 201 episodes
- Why Fearful Avoidants Reach In Then Pull Away (FA Podcast Series) · 24 min · Episode 201Why does a fearful avoidant husband reach for affection, sex, or emotional connection, only to pull away when he feels rejected? You want to feel close to your wife. You initiate…
- Critique Feels Like Rejection To The Fearful Avoidant (FA Podcast Series) · 21 min · Episode 200Why does critique from your wife feel like rejection, even when she is simply asking you to change something? For a fearful avoidant husband, a small complaint can trigger a much…
- The Dismissive Avoidant and The Fearful Avoidant Cycle (FA Podcast Series) · 51 min · Episode 199Why does a fearful avoidant husband keep chasing connection while his dismissive avoidant wife keeps pulling away? And why can two people who love each other end up feeling so…
- How Did You Become Fearful Avoidant? (FA Podcast Series) · 26 min · Episode 198How does a man develop fearful avoidant attachment, and why do childhood experiences affect his marriage decades later? In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, Bruce…
- The Fearful Avoidant Husband's Three Options (FA Podcast Series) · 30 min · Episode 197The fearful avoidant husband can feel trapped between two powerful thoughts: “I want to save my marriage” and “I cannot live like this forever.” In this episode of The Secure…
- The Fearful Avoidant Husband (FA Podcast Series) · 32 min · Episode 196About 90% of the men I work with are fearful avoidant. What does that mean? In this first episode of The Fearful Avoidant Husband Podcast Series, Bruce Abbott looks at why some…
- Disapproval Equals Danger (Shame Podcast Series) · 22 min · Episode 195Why does someone being upset with you feel so uncomfortable? For many people with anxious attachment, disapproval can feel like danger. Your wife gets irritated, your boss…
- Dude, I'm Not A Failure As A Husband (Shame Podcast Series) · 14 min · Episode 194I recently received a comment on my podcast about shame. "Dude, I'm not a failure as a Husband. It's her avoidance." What if you know you are a good husband? What if you know you…
- Bringing Shame Out of the Darkness (Shame Podcast Series) · 22 min · Episode 193Shame grows in secrecy. It tells you that if people really knew you, they might reject you, judge you, or stop loving you. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, Bruce…
- I Shouldn’t Have to Ask (Shame Podcast Series) · 22 min · Episode 192“I shouldn’t have to ask.” I shouldn’t have to ask my wife for affection. I shouldn’t have to ask her to initiate sex. I shouldn’t have to ask to feel wanted. Those feelings are…
- The Shame Beneath Anxious Attachment in Marriage (Shame Podcast Series) · 29 min · Episode 191Anxious attachment in marriage is often explained as a fear of abandonment or rejection. But there may be something deeper underneath that fear: shame. A husband with anxious…
- What Does Shame Have To Do With A Sexless Marriage? (Shame Podcast Series) · 21 min · Episode 190What does shame have to do with a sexless marriage? More than most husbands realize. Repeated sexual rejection can slowly change from “My wife does not want sex” into “My wife…
- Shame - The Voice That Says Something Is Wrong With Me (Shame Podcast Series) · 23 min · Episode 189Shame often hides underneath anxious attachment, fear of rejection, people pleasing, anger, defensiveness, and relationship anxiety. You may never think, “I feel shame.” Instead…
- Ending The Marriage Must Be An Option On The Table (The Invisible Marriage Podcast Series) · 24 min · Episode 188How do you know when it is time to stop trying to save your marriage? That is one of the hardest questions a husband can face. In this final episode of The Invisible Marriage…
- Roommates With Wedding Rings (The Invisible Marriage Podcast Series) · 22 min · Episode 187Do you and your wife feel more like roommates than husband and wife? In this episode of The Invisible Marriage Podcast Series, Bruce Abbott talks about what happens when a…
- Secure Communication vs. Fake Confidence and Begging (The Invisible Marriage Podcast Series) · 24 min · Episode 186There is a big difference between saying, "This matters to me," and desperately trying to convince your wife that it should matter to her. In this episode of The Invisible…
- Stop Becoming Small In Your Marriage (The Invisible Marriage Podcast Series) · 24 min · Episode 185Have you stopped speaking up in your marriage? Have you stopped asking for what you want because it feels easier to stay quiet? In this episode of The Invisible Marriage Podcast…
- The Slow Fade (The Invisible Marriage Podcast Series) · 23 min · Episode 184Most marriages do not become distant overnight. They fade slowly. The long talks become short updates. Touch becomes rare. Date nights turn into conversations about kids, bills…
- Married...But Emotionally Alone (The Invisible Marriage Podcast Series) · 19 min · Episode 183PASTE COPY You can share a home, raise children, pay bills, and sleep in the same bed while still feeling completely alone in your marriage. In this first episode of The…
- "I Never Want Sex Again. Deal With It" (Sex and The Dismissive Avoidant Wife Podcast Series) · 21 min · Episode 182What should a husband do when his wife says, “I never want sex again. Deal with it”? This statement can create fear, anger, grief, and deep confusion. It can also force a couple…
