About this podcast
As the manosphere rises and men continue to terrorise us, how will you decide what your own happy ending looks like? Join Chidera Eggerue aka The Slumflower on her debut, much-awaited podcast The Slumflower Hour - the domain for disobedient women who date men! Is he really 'busy' or is he bored of you? Do you have the patience to practise your own boundaries? Should you follow your instincts or should you follow your impulses? Watch and listen to The Slumflower Hour every Friday! WARNING: This podcast might just be your man's worst nightmare, beware...
Episodes
The newest 50 of 176 episodes
- LIVING WITH A MAN? · 40 min · Season 4 Episode 41Do you live with a man? Has he started showing signs of becoming comfortable? Does his existence disgust you? Well in this episode, join Chidera as she discusses ways you can…
- PRICE HIM OUT OF YOUR LIFE · 31 min · Season 4 Episode 40Does money make you feel uncomfortable? Are men taking advantage of your nervousness to ask them for stuff? Is it too daunting to make a man feel like he needs to be materially…
- PASSIVE MEN · 1 h 6 min · Season 4 Episode 39Is that man still loitering even though you rejected him? Does he seem to conflate debating with flirting? Are you getting the vibe he's trying to throw subtle jabs? In this…
- HE'S JEALOUS OF YOU · 29 min · Season 4 Episode 38These men secretly want to be us so bad. Watch out for men who will seek your hand in courtship just to COMPETE with you... In this episode, join The Slumflower as she drags men…
- REALISING YOU WERE TOO GOOD FOR HIM · 44 min · Season 4 Episode 37Why do we always realise we were too good for these men after things end? In this episode, join The Slumflower as she discusses the post-breakup clarity we all need to pick up…
- PUNISH HIM · 26 min · Season 4 Episode 36When was the last time you punished a man and why was it so long ago? What can women do to gain and hold more leverage in their relationships with men? And what can women do to…
- THE UNMARRIABLE WOMAN · 29 min · Season 4 Episode 35There are just some women in this world who are far too complex, untameable and powerful to be confined to the limitations of 'wife'. The power that comes from embracing being a…
- PROTECT YOUR VULNERABILITY · 29 min · Season 4 Episode 34Do you tend to wear your heart on your sleeve? Do you often find yourself giving more than you get from men? Is your vulnerability something that is often rough-handled and…
- GIRL, SLOW DOWN... · 41 min · Season 4 Episode 33Do you have a tendency to rush things with men? Do you find that things tend to start intensely then burn out fast? Does long distance really deserve the bad rep it gets? In…
- THE MALE EGO · 54 min · Season 4 Episode 32In a world that is governed by men's weak egos, what steps are you taking to make the world a tougher place for them? In a world where men select women based on the praise and…
- TRAIN HIM! · 29 min · Season 4 Episode 31Did you know that men are a breed of dog? Did you also know that it's your responsibility to dictate how you deserve to be treated in a world where men already feel entitled to…
- DATING AS A MAN HATER? · 28 min · Season 4 Episode 30Is it possible to hate men and still date them? Yes, just like men are misogynists who still relentlessly chase the comfort, warmth and love of women! Sarcasm aside, in a world…
- THE WOMAN WHO IS WILLING TO WALK · 43 min · Season 4 Episode 29Have you finally had enough? Have you finally developed the backbone to leave these men behind? Does your ability to walk away scare men? This episode is most certainly for YOU!…
- THE PERFORMATIVE MAN · 28 min · Season 4 Episode 28Is that man wearing allyship like a costume? Does he suddenly become a 'feminist' when the bill comes? Is he selective with your empowerment whilst being threatened by you…
- OPTIMISING YOUR DATING EXPERIENCE · 35 min · Season 4 Episode 27Let's talk about making dating work for you in an already terrible dating pool! Are you utilising the men in your life properly? Are you open to the idea of a roster and if so…
- THE ALPHA WOMAN · 43 min · Season 4 Episode 26Do you fear your own power? Do you 'naturally' feel inclined to defer to men? Does the idea of a powerful woman who makes men question themselves entice you or does it make you…
- BECAUSE OF A MAN · 31 min · Season 4 Episode 25The things women do for men...are they even worth it? Of course not but alas, here we are! In this episode, join Chidera as we talk about the sacrifices and leaps women take all…
- YOU ARE IN DENIAL · 33 min · Season 4 Episode 24How long will you keep lying to yourself? Is it finally time to interfere with the story you've been telling yourself? Are there certain delusions keeping you bound to that man?…
- MAINTAINING COMPOSURE · 37 min · Season 4 Episode 23How do you manage when someone puts you on the spot and tries to bully you? Or if you're caught in a situation where you have to stand up for yourself without bursting into…
- FEMALE RAGE · 37 min · Season 4 Episode 22Do you allow yourself to be angry or do you repress it? In a society where women's rage is stifled and suppressed, it's time we have a conversation about allowing ourselves to…
- MEN MAKE YOU SICK! · 1 h 7 min · Season 4 Episode 21*TRIGGER WARNING*: R*pe is discussed in this episode where we talk about why men value leverage over us, how they siphon our souls and health through osmosis, and why it's…
- MAINTAINING THE STANDARD WHEN THINGS ARE GOING WELL · 38 min · Season 4 Episode 20Do you feel inclined to self-sabotage in a healthy relationship? If so, what does that sabotage look like? How about balance? Would you consider yourself a secure skeptic? Or are…
- THE NEXT GIRL · 37 min · Season 4 Episode 19Scared the next girl will get a better version of him? Worried that all your hard work sent building him will be enjoyed by another woman? Paranoid that the next girl will be so…
- BLACK CAT VS GOLDEN RETRIEVER · 45 min · Season 4 Episode 18Is your boyfriend a good boy? Should we train him? Or is it time for him to be handed to the dog home for someone else to take him on as a problem? In this episode, join Chidera…
- SO YOU HAVE A PAST... · 44 min · Season 4 Episode 17Do you feel self-conscious about having a sexual history? Have men tried to make you feel shame for having been 'ran thru'? Should we start judging men for their sexual pasts in…
- THE HOT GIRLFRIEND · 28 min · Season 4 Episode 16Are you the hot girlfriend? Do you find that men try to chip away at your confidence? Has a man ever tried to out-shine you? In this episode, join The Slumflower as she…
- THE PRIDEFUL MAN · 49 min · Season 4 Episode 15Have you been victimised by a prideful man? This episode may be for you! Join Chidera as she recounts her experiences with prideful men - and why we all need to guard and…
- WIFEY MATERIAL? · 55 min · Season 4 Episode 14Does the idea of 'dating to marry' resonate with you? Are men using 'wifey material' as a way to lure you in? What even is 'husband material'? In this episode, join Chidera as…
- REBELLION · 44 min · Season 4 Episode 13How can we explore rebellion in a way that keeps us safe and aligned with our standards? In this episode, join Chidera as she discusses the importance of rebelling against the…
- BREAKING UP WITH HIM · 36 min · Season 4 Episode 12Is it time to step away from him? In this episode, join Chidera as she discusses the cons of breaking up with him - and why frequent breakups might not be the worst thing in the…
- THE CHASE · 57 min · Season 4 Episode 11They say men love the chase but women love being chased too! In this episode, join The Slumflower as she talks about the ways women can leverage the chase - and why we should be…
- SO YOU CRASHED OUT... · 33 min · Season 4 Episode 10So you finally let it rip on him...I guess he deserved it! In this rather validating episode, join Chidera as she talks about why crashouts can sometimes be beneficial for you…
- HIS MUSE · 34 min · Season 4 Episode 9Has a man ever called you his muse? If so, did you know you may be entitled to compensation? In this episode, join Chidera as she discusses the invisible cost of being a man's…
- YOU DON'T NEED TO SAVE HIM · 45 min · Season 4 Episode 8Have you found yourself trapped in his sob story? Has that broke man got you going 50/50 as a way to 'ease his load'? Does your desire to save men come from a place of…
- STAY FOCUSED! · 1 h 1 min · Season 4 Episode 7Does falling in love tend to have you forgetting yourself? In this episode, join Chidera as she discusses the reasons we must always prioritise ourselves as women - no matter…
- HIS PROBATION PERIOD... · 46 min · Season 4 Episode 6Should we bring back the 90 days period of 'waiting'? Should we start making men audition for our affection? Are men better partners when we put them through probation first? In…
- ABOUT BEING A GIRLS GIRL... · 50 min · Season 4 Episode 5Does the 'girls girl' really exist? In this episode, join Chidera as she discusses the complexity of female empowerment, expectations placed on women to like each other within…
- BITTERNESS · 48 min · Season 4 Episode 4Should women be bitter? Is bitterness an emotion we can alchemise? Should we reclaim the word 'bitter'? In this episode, join The Slumflower as she discusses what pushes a woman…
- SO YOU WENT THROUGH HIS PHONE... · 31 minShould you go through a man's phone? Is there a silver lining to catching a man cheating? Are you prepared to walk away or would you prefer to punish him? In this short and…
- SO YOU'RE GOING ON A GIRLS NIGHT OUT... · 1 h 7 min · Season 4 Episode 2Is the club really the place to find love? Should we be charging men to talk to us in the club? How do we keep safe and vigilant in the function? Join Chidera for a funny…
- THE POLITICS OF P*SSY POWER FT. PAMELA BLONDE · 1 h 44 min · Season 4 Episode 1In the first episode of season 4, we are joined by dominatrix, social campaigner and all-round powerful woman: the one and only Pamela Blonde! Join us for a conversation where…
- *SEASON 3 FINALE* WE NEED TO BE MORE MEAN TO MEN! · 1 h 37 min · Season 3 Episode 38In the FINAL episode of season 3, we are joined by a fellow disobedient woman all the way from Australia! @HorribleMeanBadWoman (real name Sarah) is the much-needed radical…
- THE MAN CHILD · 29 min · Season 3 Episode 37Are you harbouring a man child in your home and calling him a husband? Is your mother-in-law the persistent third wheel in your marriage? Does that man seem to forever be…
- TRANSPARENCY? · 1 h 10 min · Season 3 Episode 36Are women conflating oversharing with bonding? Does telling men every single thing strengthen the relationship? Is your husband truly being transparent with you? In this…
- SO YOU'VE BEEN DUMPED! · 41 min · Season 3 Episode 35Has he pulled the rug from under you? Did you see it coming but you tried to tell yourself otherwise? Is it time for you to start being the dumper to see what that power feels…
- TOXIC FEMININITY · 27 min · Season 3 Episode 34Can femininity be considered toxic? Should women have bigger egos? Do women have a victim mentality? In this episode, join Chidera as she discusses the ways that femininity can…
- WHITE FEMINISM... · 1 h 7 min · Season 3 Episode 33Do white women have a different version of feminism? (Yes) Is feminism serving us or holding us back when it comes to dating men? Are white women enablers of patriarchy? In this…
- SO YOU KEEP GIVING HIM CHANCES... · 37 min · Season 3 Episode 32Do you tend to feel bad when a man begs and grovels? Are you against holding grudges? Should we give men more chances? In this episode, join The Slumflower as she reminds you of…
- REJECTION? · 42 min · Season 3 Episode 31Does rejection make you spiral? Should women stop being old-fashioned and just make the first move on a man? Should we reject men before they reject us? In this episode, join…
- IS IT TOO LATE? · 32 min · Season 3 Episode 30Is it too late to find 'the one'? What does it really mean when men call a woman 'expired'? Are men worth longing for? In this episode, join The Slumflower as she reminds you…
