Were You Raised By Wolves?
by Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema
Making Thanksgiving Plans, Pointing Out Strangers’ Tags, Requesting…
About this podcast
Editors’ Notes: “I want to give everybody the tools to solve their own etiquette problems,” says Nick Leighton, cohost and producer of Were You Raised by Wolves?, a weekly podcast in which he and cohost Leah Bonnema look into the many sticky social situations we all face. “With each of the questions that we get, from the bonkers to the ordinary, I always try to take a step back and ask, ‘What are the bigger principles here?’ I'm always looking for topics that help us make a larger point.” In each episode, Leighton, a two-time Emmy Award-winning journalist, and Bonnema, a comic/writer, share practical advice on how to navigate a wide range of situations, from the serious to the whimsical—whether they tackle interrupting excessive talkers, establishing healthy boundaries with coworkers, or the proper way to eat Cheetos.
When they developed the show in 2019, Leighton and Bonnema had one goal in mind: to have empathy for other people. Their informal conversations tackle a mix of personal topics, viewer questions, and the occasional historical fact with warmth and positivity and humor. Leighton views this approach as an antidote to a lot of the negativity he sees in the online world, while Bonnema thinks the show’s premise is a natural fit for her situational style of comedy. “A lot of my comedy is about events where I’m like, ‘What just happened here?’ or where I embarrass myself,” she says. “And, ironically, all of these fall under the guise of etiquette, where you either feel aggrieved or you feel like you committed some sort of social crime. I just loved the topic.”
Leighton and Bonnema credit the show’s ongoing success to their work ethic. They haven’t missed a single week since they launched the show, which recently hit a new milestone: 100 episodes. But what they value the most, above all else, is how they've built a community of listeners from all backgrounds. “We have conservative grandmothers in Tallahassee to nonbinary chefs in Seattle and everybody in between,” he says. “Because who among us has not experienced an etiquette crime? This is universal.”
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Etiquette, manners, and beyond! Join Emmy® Award-winning journalist Nick Leighton and acclaimed comedian Leah Bonnema ("Late Show with Stephen Colbert"), the perfect odd couple, as they try to make the world a nicer, more polite place and offer up practical advice to help you smoothly glide through any situation. Please listen and follow! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)
Episodes
The newest 50 of 377 episodes
- Making Thanksgiving Plans, Pointing Out Strangers’ Tags, Requesting Free Concert Tickets, and More · 27 min · Episode 325Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about making Thanksgiving plans, pointing out strangers' tags, requesting free concert…
- Bringing Iced Coffee to Job Interviews, Pulling Toilet Paper Out of Trees, Throwing Half-Birthday Parties, and More · 44 min · Episode 324Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle bringing iced coffee to job interviews, pulling toilet paper out of trees, throwing half-birthday parties…
- Second Helpings: Hanging Wind Chimes, Questioning People's Choices, Being Overly Competitive, and More · 32 minEtiquette, manners, and beyond! This week, Nick and Leah are enjoying a well-deserved break, but they'll be back next week with an all-new episode. In the meantime, here's one of…
- Second Helpings: Touching Fruit in Italy, Flossing in Public, Answering the Door in a Robe, and More · 40 minEtiquette, manners, and beyond! This week, Nick and Leah are enjoying a well-deserved break, but they'll be back soon with an all-new episode. In the meantime, here's one of…
- Alerting People About Read Receipts, Picking the "Right" Side of Top Sheets, Pruning Trees to Death, and More · 31 min · Episode 323Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about alerting people when they have their read receipts turned on, picking the "right"…
- Shuffling Mahjong Tiles, Snubbing Wedding Officiants, Praising Clean Plates, and More · 47 min · Episode 322Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle playing mahjong, snubbing wedding officiants, saying "good job" to diners, and much more. Please follow us!…
- Tricking Guests Into Catering, Giving Bone-Crushing Handshakes, Guessing American Mealtimes, and More · 34 min · Episode 321Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about tricking guests into catering, giving bone-crushing handshakes, guessing American…
- Banning Wedding Gifts, Lingering Over Menus, Clipping Toenails on Airplanes, and More · 37 min · Episode 320Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle banning wedding gifts, lingering too long over menus, clipping toenails on airplanes, and much more. Please…
- Battling in Cruise Ship Laundry Rooms, Escaping Bad Breath, Duplicating Potluck Dishes, and More · 25 min · Episode 319Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about battling in cruise ship laundry rooms, escaping bad breath, duplicating potluck…
- Second Helpings: Dodging In-Law Requests, Melting Candy Bars in Diapers, Hiding Coffee Truths, and More · 31 minEtiquette, manners, and beyond! This week, Nick and Leah are enjoying a well-deserved break, but they'll be back next week with an all-new episode. In the meantime, here's one of…
- Second Helpings: Spitting Watermelon Seeds, Behaving While Bowling, Throwing Spoons on Airplanes, and More · 51 minEtiquette, manners, and beyond! This week, Nick and Leah are enjoying a well-deserved break, but they'll be back soon with an all-new episode. In the meantime, here's one of…
- Using Knife Rests, Spamming Everyone You Know, Pocketing Hotel Slippers, and More · 40 min · Episode 318Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle using knife rests, spamming everyone you know, pocketing hotel slippers, and much more. Please follow us!…
- Lending Fancy Waffle Makers, Witnessing Coffee Shop Meltdowns, Demanding Raisins From Coworkers, and More · 31 min · Episode 317Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about lending fancy waffle makers, witnessing coffee shop meltdowns, demanding raisins…
- Turning Tables, Finding Lost Wallets, Boxing Up Free Desserts, and More · 42 min · Episode 316Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle the lost art of "turning the table," finding lost wallets, boxing up free birthday desserts, and much more…
- Vetoing Unpleasant Mahjong Players, Excluding Free Alcohol at Birthdays, Getting Caught Without Toilet Paper, and More · 23 min · Episode 315Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about vetoing unpleasant mahjong players, excluding free alcohol at birthdays, getting…
- Spinning Lazy Susans, Saying "Bless You" After Sneezes, Lying to Telemarketers, and More · 33 min · Episode 314Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle spinning lazy Susans, saying "bless you" after sneezes, lying to telemarketers, and much more. Please follow…
- Driving Coworkers Home, Asking About Allergens, Calling Your Husband By Name, and More · 34 min · Episode 313Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about driving coworkers home, asking about allergens, calling your husband by name, and…
- Second Helpings: Loitering Around Toasters, Being Embarrassed by Employees, Picking Strangers' Teeth, and More · 31 minEtiquette, manners, and beyond! This week, Nick and Leah are enjoying a well-deserved break, but they'll be back next week with an all-new episode. In the meantime, here's one of…
- Second Helpings: Sequencing Cream and Jam on Scones, Glancing at Smartwatches, Scowling at Strangers, and More · 32 minEtiquette, manners, and beyond! This week, Nick and Leah are enjoying a well-deserved break, but they'll be back soon with an all-new episode. In the meantime, here's one of…
- Motoring with Manners, Sharing the Sidewalk, Charging Guests for Pizza, and More · 43 min · Episode 312Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle motoring with manners, sharing the sidewalk, charging guests for pizza, and much more. Please follow us!…
- Rescinding Getaway Invitations, Staking Unwanted Yard Signs, Choosing the Right Stationery, and More · 31 min · Episode 311Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about rescinding weekend getaway invitations, staking unwanted yard signs, choosing the…
- Flying the Danish Flag, Ducking Out of Weddings, Roasting in Cocktail Attire, and More · 40 min · Episode 310Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle flying the Danish flag, ducking out of weddings without saying goodbye, roasting in cocktail attire, and…
- Ending Endless Brunches, Dealing with Double Dippers, Greeting Bus Riders, and More · 26 min · Episode 309Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about ending endless brunches, dealing with double dippers, greeting bus riders, and much…
- Asking About Brian, Living With Homeowners Associations, Redirecting a Birthday Gift, and More · 40 min · Episode 308Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle asking "Where is Brian?", living with homeowners associations, redirecting a birthday gift to a different…
- Second Helpings: Sitting on Suitcases, Going on Ghost Tours, Being Disappointed by Mahi-Mahi, and More · 46 minEtiquette, manners, and beyond! This week, Nick and Leah are enjoying a well-deserved break, but they'll be back next week with an all-new episode. In the meantime, here's one of…
- Finding Cat Hair in Food, Picking People's Brains, CCing the Wrong Person, and More · 31 min · Episode 307Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about finding cat hair in food, picking people's brains, CCing the wrong person, and much…
- Receiving Black Napkins, Squatting in Strangers' Kitchens, Slurping Smelly Foods, and More · 40 min · Episode 306Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle receiving black napkins in restaurants, squatting in strangers' kitchens, slurping smelly foods on…
- Outrunning Your Friends, Bragging About Possum Sweaters, Renaming Your Coworkers, and More · 28 min · Episode 305Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about outrunning your friends, bragging about possum sweaters, renaming your coworkers…
- Earning Girl Scout Badges, Washing Strawberries in Soda Fountains, Whisking Away Cake Plates, and More · 43 min · Episode 304Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle earning Girl Scout badges, washing strawberries in soda fountains, whisking away cake plates, and much more.
- Outing AI Videos, Evicting Lingering Guests, Reserving Paper Towels, and More · 19 min · Episode 303Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about outing AI videos, evicting lingering guests, reserving paper towels, and much more.
- Decoding Different Cultures, Pursuing Dry Cleaners, Blasting Techno Music, and More · 47 min · Episode 302Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle decoding different cultures, pursuing dry cleaners, blasting techno music, and much more. Please follow us!…
- Second Helpings: Removing Shoes on Airplanes, Exiting Weddings Early, Welcoming Guests In, and More · 23 minEtiquette, manners, and beyond! This week, Nick and Leah are enjoying a well-deserved break, but they'll be back next week with an all-new episode. In the meantime, here's one of…
- Second Helpings: Eating Baguettes in France, Spitting Wine at Tastings, Returning Gifts to Guests, and More · 40 minEtiquette, manners, and beyond! This week, Nick and Leah are enjoying a well-deserved break, but they'll be back soon with an all-new episode. In the meantime, here's one of…
- Leaking Phone Numbers, Venting About Registries, Requesting the 'Man of the House,' and More · 30 min · Episode 301Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about leaking phone numbers to strangers, venting about baby registries, requesting the…
- Very Special 300th Episode Extravaganza · 1 h 26 min · Episode 300Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this very special 300th episode extravaganza, Nick and Leah count down their top ten favorite etiquette questions and much more.
- Getting Married on Fridays, Putting In-Laws to Work, Singing Foreign National Anthems, and More · 26 min · Episode 299Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about getting married on Fridays, putting in-laws to work, singing foreign national…
- Closing Letters Properly, Feeding Finicky Visitors, Blinding Fellow Drivers, and More · 45 min · Episode 298Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle closing letters and cards properly, feeding finicky out-of-town visitors, blinding fellow drivers, and much…
- Dropping State Names, Double-Thanking for Gifts, Arriving at Funerals Early, and More · 26 min · Episode 297Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about dropping state names, double-thanking for gifts, arriving early for funerals, and…
- Second Helpings: Faking Wedding Start Times, Asking for Gifts Back, Clipping Nails in Church, and More · 24 minEtiquette, manners, and beyond! This week, Nick and Leah are enjoying a well-deserved break, but they'll be back next week with an all-new episode. In the meantime, here's one of…
- Herding Sheep in Iceland, Watching Hockey Respectfully, Hailing Cabs in Winter, and More · 34 min · Episode 296Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle herding sheep in Iceland, watching hockey games respectfully, hailing cabs in winter, and much more.
- Waiting on Forgotten Gifts, Noticing New Wigs, Gossiping About Monarchs, and More · 26 min · Episode 295Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about handling forgotten Secret Santa gifts, noticing a coworker's new wig, gossiping…
- Jumping Over Babies, Asking Callers to Announce Themselves, Giving Plants Without Pots, and More · 41 min · Episode 294Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle El Colacho, asking callers to announce themselves, giving plants without pots, and much more.
- Dressing for Vague Galas, Pushing In Dining Chairs, Taking Cookies Prematurely, and More · 35 min · Episode 293Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about dressing for galas when the invitation is vague, pushing in chairs after dining…
- Apologizing in Mongolia, Speaking for Other People, Lying to Waiters, and More · 42 min · Episode 292Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle apologizing in Mongolia, speaking for other people, lying to waiters, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd…
- Enduring Dishes You Dislike, Managing Ungrateful Gift Recipients, Acknowledging Victories Without Praise, and More · 26 min · Episode 291Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about enduring holiday dishes you dislike, managing ungrateful gift recipients…
- Second Helpings: Ordering Espresso in Italy, Asking for a Raise, Deflecting Rude Questions, and More · 43 minEtiquette, manners, and beyond! This week, Nick and Leah are enjoying a well-deserved break, but they'll be back next week with an all-new episode. In the meantime, here's one of…
- Second Helpings: Watching Kalle Anka, Receiving Compliments, Bringing Empty Containers to Restaurants, and More · 41 minEtiquette, manners, and beyond! This week, Nick and Leah are enjoying a well-deserved break, but they'll be back soon with an all-new episode. In the meantime, here's one of…
- Setting Dessert Cutlery Correctly, Attending New Year’s Eve Parties, Deflecting Donation Requests, and More · 45 min · Episode 290Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle setting dessert cutlery correctly, attending New Year's Eve parties, deflecting donation requests, and much…
- Curbing Phones at Dinner, Inviting Near-Strangers to Baby Showers, "Participating" in Hot Air Balloon Trips, and More · 27 min · Episode 289Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about curbing phones at dinner, inviting near-strangers to baby showers, "participating"…
- Pluralizing Names on Cards, Tipping Mariachi Bands, Wrapping Other People's Gifts, and More · 36 min · Episode 288Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle pluralizing names on holiday cards, tipping Mariachi bands, wrapping other people's gifts, and much more…







