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by Charlotte Cummings
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How To Feel Differently About Anything
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Helping people build lives that feel good
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- How To Feel Differently About Anything · 30 minWhat would you like to be true about the hard thing you’re facing? You can’t always change what’s happening. You can change how you think and feel about it, and that changes how…
- Hate Your Job, Now What? · 43 minHate your job but can’t work out what to do next? This one’s for you. This episode came from a listener request, plus a handful of DMs this week about the very same dilemma. When…
- Top NZ Sleep Dr Shares His Routine · 51 minWhat does a sleep expert do before bed? I sat down with Dr Sumit, ENT and sleep surgeon and co-founder of Auckland Sleep, to talk about why so many of us are exhausted and still…
- When One Of You Changes · 34 minWhen one person changes, the relationship can feel like it’s suddenly playing by new rules. If you’re growing in a different direction from your partner, Charlotte Cummings…
- Dress Like You Trust Yourself - with Deb Caldwell · 31 minWhat would change if you stopped dressing for other people? Deb Caldwell has built STORM on trusting her gut for 20 years, and I think her approach works just as well for your…
- Showing Up Before You Feel Ready - Toni Street · 53 minBroadcaster Toni Street on public speaking nerves, confident communication, burnout and starting counselling for the first time in her life. Toni is one of New Zealand's most…
- Your Worth Isn't Up For Debate · 35 minWhere do you get your sense of worth from? Most of us default to two answers: what we achieve, or what other people think of us. Neither holds up long term. In this episode I…
- When Your Relationship Has ADHD · 34 minI don't think ADHD belongs to one person in a relationship. I think the relationship has ADHD. This week I'm unpacking what happens when ADHD (diagnosed early, diagnosed late, or…
- The Truth About Decluttering · 53 minI suddenly kept seeing my friends posting photos of their drawers and pantries, tagging The Home Edit and Mel Robbins. So I sat down and listened to the episode that started this…
- Beyond Another Trauma: Naomi's Story · 43 minWhat if the hardest thing that's ever happened to you didn't have to be another trauma? In this episode I'm joined by one of my own clients, Naomi, who shares her deeply personal…
- The Therapy Concept I've Never Shared · 25 minThere's a concept I use with many of my clients, and I've never actually spoken about it on this podcast until now. It's called preferred futures, a concept from narrative…
- Communicate Confidently At Work · 24 minDo you ever know exactly what you want to say at work - but find yourself second-guessing it, softening it, or waiting for the “right” moment to speak? Communicating confidently…
- Stanley Henry: Don't Limp In · 1 h 8 minFor many of us, we have to tolerate more attention than we'd naturally like, and it's scary as heck. Our jobs require it. Our goals require it. And the freedom we actually want…
- Petra Bagust: Why Mid-life Is The Good Bit · 1 h 12 minI sat down with Petra Bagust - honestly, she is the best ad for midlife. Through this chat, Petra gives us all the wonderful reasons why midlife is the good bit. We talk about…
- Grief, Surrender and Getting On With It, with Janelle Brunton-Rennie · 1 h 1 minJanelle Brunton-Rennie became a widow within a year of her husband Kurt first finding a lump. She had a newborn baby at home, and no warning that losing her spouse to cancer was…
- She Kept Going Until She Couldn't · 46 minAmy Luttrell lost her Dad suddenly at 32, with a newborn at home and a thriving wellness business to run. Eleven months later, her Stepfather died and her Mum nearly did too. She…
- When Church Hurts: Spiritual Abuse Explained · 38 minSpiritual abuse is one of the most misunderstood forms of harm there is. And it might be exactly what you've been trying to name. In this episode, I'm getting into a topic I know…
- Have Fun Together Again · 18 minIs your relationship feeling a little flat? Like you used to laugh more, go on proper dates, and actually enjoy each other's company, but somewhere along the way life just got in…
- Parenting When You're Over It - With Zazi · 53 minSome days you just hit the wall. The noise, the need, the relentlessness of it. You love your kids and you are completely done. This episode is for you. I'm joined by Zazi, a…
- Feeling Off? Here's What To Do Next · 11 minDo you feel off but can't explain why? Flat, disengaged, not quite yourself but you don't know where to start? In this episode of Ask Charlotte, I'm responding to a listener…
- Close Your Confidence Gap · 21 minDo you look capable on the outside but feel held back by self-doubt on the inside? You're not alone, and you're not failing. You might just be living with a confidence gap. In…
- BONUS EPISODE: A Self-Hypnosis Exercise To Re-set Your Nervous System · 13 minIn this bonus episode, clinical hypnotherapist Bec Marshall guides a short self-hypnosis exercise to help you reduce stress, ease anxiety, and settle into a calm, resourceful…
- Wisdom From A Hypnotherapist · 56 minWhat if the heaviness you're carrying isn't a personality trait — it's your nervous system asking for something different? Clinical hypnotherapist Bec Marshall joins Charlotte to…
- How To Talk To Kids About War · 25 minIf you’ve been wondering how to talk to your kids about war… you’re not alone. With global conflict dominating headlines, many parents are finding themselves having conversations…
- You Hate Routine. Now What? · 13 minYou want to look after yourself better… but you hate routine. So every time you try to “get your life together,” it lasts about five days. Then you’re back to square one, telling…
- Your Relationship Isn't Broken. Your Pattern Is · 13 minYou don’t have a relationship problem. You have a pattern problem. And until you see it, nothing changes. In this Ask Charlotte episode, we’re unpacking the uncomfortable truth…
- You’re Playing Small. You Know It · 46 minYou’re playing small. And if you’re honest… you already know it. In this episode of The Feel Better Podcast, I sit down with Georgia from George Design to talk about what it…
- Your Hyper-Independence Is Costing You · 30 minYou’re the one who gets it done. The capable one. The reliable one. The strong one. But what if that version of youis quietly costing you more than you realise? In this episode…
- Lost Yourself in Motherhood? Start Here · 49 minYou can love your kids deeply… and still feel like you’ve lost yourself. HannaH Findlay is a Mum who has inspired many others with the beauty she has found in pulling herself…
- You Want More. They Don't · 12 minYou want more connection. They don’t. And now you’re stuck in that quiet, painful in-between… where you’re in a relationship, but still feeling alone. In this Ask Charlotte…
- You Can't Hate Yourself Into Change · 29 minMany of us believe that being tough on ourselves is the way to change. We think that if we criticise ourselves enough, push harder, or feel bad enough about our behaviour, we’ll…
- The Women's Health Chat You Need · 58 minI'm kind of sick of the doom and gloom chat's about perimenopause, so I decided I'd find someone I could ask this question of: "What is good about perimenopause?" Enter Amelia…
- How to Stop Overthinking · 27 minIf you struggle with overthinking, this episode is for you. Maybe your brain replays conversations on a loop. Maybe you catastrophise about the future. Maybe decision-making…
- How to Set Better Work Boundaries · 13 minIf you’re someone who keeps saying “I’m just bad at boundaries” or “I’m the kind of person who overworks” this episode is for you. In this Ask Charlotte episode, I’m answering a…
- How to Have Hard Conversations Faster (Without Damaging Your Relationship) | Ep 114 · 30 minHard conversations don’t ruin relationships. Avoiding them does. If you keep putting things off because you don’t want to rock the boat, this episode is for you. In How to Have…
- Self-Care That Actually Holds Up When Life Gets Busy | Ask Charlotte Ep 113 · 11 minSelf-care is one of your goals this year. But when life gets busy, it’s the first thing you drop. In this episode, I answer a listener question about how to plan self-care in a…
- Why Identity Shifts Are the Key to Real Change | Cara Calvin · 55 minHigh-performing people don’t need more motivation. They need safety. In this episode, I’m joined by coach Cara Calvin to talk identity shifts, nervous system patterns, and why…
- How to Build Your Child’s Resilience as School Goes Back | Ask Charlotte · 13 minSchool goes back soon across New Zealand. And for many parents, that brings a mix of relief and worry. Will this year be easier socially? Will old struggles show up again? Will…
- How to Share More Deeply With Your Partner: Simple Ways to Build Emotional Intimacy - Ep 110 · 29 minSo many couples tell me there’s nothing wrong in their relationship… but it feels flat, distant, or like they’re just co-managing life. The love is there — but the deep…
- Separation Anxiety, Kid's Grief, and Helping Kids Relax - Ep 109: Ask Charlotte · 26 minAs parents, we’re only ever as settled as our least settled child – and kids’ mental health can feel like a minefield to navigate. In this Ask Charlotte episode of the Feel…
- How to Decide What to Let Go Of When Your Plate Is Too Full (Ep: 108) · 26 minIn this episode of the Feel Better Podcast, I’m talking about one of the trickiest parts of modern life: how to decide what to let go of when your plate is just too full. If…
- How to Protect Your Relationship from Affairs (Ep 107: Ask Charlotte) · 23 minAffairs don’t always start with attraction — they often begin with emotional closeness that slowly crosses a boundary. In this Ask Charlotte episode, I'm answering listener…
- Ep 106: How to Rest When You Absolutely Suck at It · 30 minIf you struggle to slow down, switch off, or stop feeling guilty when you rest — this episode is for you. So many of us are caught up in productivity culture, running on empty…
- Ep 105: Ask Charlotte - When Faith Gets Messy · 31 minIn this Ask Charlotte episode, I’m answering three listener questions that so many people wrestle with when it comes to faith, spirituality and church — and each one opens up an…
- Ep 104: How to Forgive Someone Who Hurt You — Without Losing Yourself · 28 minWe’re told to “just forgive” — by our families, by religion, by self-help books — but almost nobody tells us how. In this episode, I share a different way to think about…
- Ep 103: Ask Charlotte - Is a Sexless Relationship Doomed? · 26 minSo many couples find themselves in a sexless relationship — often without ever talking about it. It's estimated that this is reality for as many as 20-30% of couples. And…
- Ep 102: Comparison - How to do it Differently · 22 minComparison is something we all do — often without even realising it. Whether it’s about looks, parenting, achievements, or lifestyle, we constantly measure ourselves against…
- Ep 101: Ask Charlotte - Parenting Neurodivergent Kids · 20 minIn this Ask Charlotte episode of the Feel Better Podcast, we’re diving into some questions I've been asked by listeners about parenting neurodivergent kids. ✨ I explore:1) What…
- Ep 100: Navigating Family Estrangement · 17 minFamily estrangement is far more common than most people realise — and it’s one of the toughest things to navigate. In this episode, I talk about:Why estrangement is so complex…
- Ep 99: Ask Charlotte - Your Mental Health Questions · 25 minIn this episode of Ask Charlotte, I'm diving into your questions about mental health. I answer: 1) What is PMDD? 2) How do I parent while struggling with my mental health?…
