Pillow Talks
de Vanessa & Xander Marin
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Meet Vanessa and Xander Marin, your new BFF couple friends! She’s a sex therapist with 20 years of experience and he’s a regular dude. Together they’re the shockingly open, slightly nerdy, and seriously funny couple you want to grab sushi with. They share the ups and downs in their relationship while giving you step-by-step techniques for improving yours. Subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally do-able sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors, and so much more. It’s the sex education you WISH you’d had!
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- E285: Ask a Sex Therapist: Sore Jaws, Awkward Eye Contact & Aging Down There · 57 minIt's time for another round of Ask A Sex Therapist, where we answer your most personal, awkward, and downright fascinating questions about sex and relationships! In this…
- E284: Your Wildest Kink & Fantasy Questions… Answered! · 1 h 0 minEver wondered why you have a certain kink? Or if it’s OK to fantasize about someone else during sex? Or maybe you’ve been curious about cuckolding, breeding kinks, or pegging……
- E283: Reverse Cowgirl: Tips, Tricks, and Techniques for Maximum Pleasure · 54 minReady to turn things around in the bedroom? We're talking reverse cowgirl, and trust us, there's a LOT more to this position than simply facing the other direction. Where do…
- E282: Is This Normal? He Made AI Sex Videos of Us, and I Have Questions · 54 minYour husband creates AI videos of the two of you having sex. You're only having sex four times a year. Or you tried a new position once, hated it, and have absolutely no interest…
- E281: Am I the Asshole? Kissing After Oral, Weight Gain, and Bad Sex · 1 h 0 minWould you kiss your partner after they went down on you? What would you do if your partner wasn't enjoying the sex you were having? And how would you handle it if weight gain…
- E280: The Initiation Mistakes You Don’t Even Realize You’re Making · 47 minInitiating sex in your relationship should feel exciting, not frustrating. But for most couples, it’s anything but smooth. Whether you're feeling stuck, rejected, or just plain…
- E279: Ask a Sex Therapist: Kink Icks, Spicy Pics, and Vanilla Sex · 1 h 1 minWould you tell your partner if their kink gave you the ick? What if their foreplay technique wasn't quite doing it for you? And is it normal for sex to be just okay most of the…
- E278: How to Get Out of a Relationship Rut: Your 4-Week Plan · 52 minYour conversations have turned into a running list of who's handling what, and your quality time is two people on one couch looking at two different screens. 44% of the couples…
- E277: How to Take Your Orgasm to the Next Level with the Four Orgasm Amplifiers · 52 minEvery once in a while an orgasm hits you like a freight train, and you lie there afterward wondering what on earth that was and why you can't do it again. What if that wasn't…
- E276: How Do You Turn Your Partner On? (When You've Been Together For Years) · 50 minAt the start of a relationship, turning your partner on felt like it took basically no effort. So what do you do a decade in, when you've watched each other fart and floss, and…
- E275: Reasonable or Ridiculous? Sex Quotas, Oral Every Time, and Dirty Talk Dealbreakers · 50 minIt's time for another round of Reasonable or Ridiculous, where we take real life couple disagreements our community members just can't settle and play referee. In this episode…
- E274: Is it Normal to Not Orgasm During Sex? We Got Attacked for Talking About This · 1 h 6 minWe recently shared a reel answering a question from a woman who didn’t orgasm during sex. The comments section turned into something we've never experienced in over ten years of…
- E273: How to Try New Sex Positions Without Killing the Mood · 1 h 0 minThis week we're answering all your questions about trying new positions, from how to introduce something new when you've been together forever, to why switching things up can…
- E272: What Do Men Really Think About….? (Part 5) Rough Sex, Vibrators, and What Turns Them Off · 57 minIt’s time for another episode of What Do Men Really Think About… and Xander’s back in the hot seat to answer your burning questions about preferences, fantasies, the death grip…
- E271: The Real Reason You Can't "Let Go" in Bed · 51 minYou're finally in bed together, but you can’t stop thinking about tomorrow's to-do list. We've all heard the advice to “just let go”. Stop thinking, stop controlling, lose…
- E270: The 5 Silent Relationship Killers That Turn Partners Into Roommates · 57 minWe ran a poll and 67% of couples told us they feel more like roommates than partners. This week we're walking through our D.R.I.F.T. Framework: the 5 silent relationship killers…
- E269: Tie-Breakers: We Referee Your Realest Relationship Standoffs · 1 h 1 minEvery couple has that one thing they’ll argue about until the end of time. TV in the bedroom. How to load the dishwasher. Can men and women just be friends? 👀 We asked our…
- E268: Ask Us Anything: Only Fans, The Ick, & Creeps In The Comments · 1 h 6 minIt’s Xander’s birthday! And this week for our Ask Us Anything episode, we decided to answer some of your personal questions! This one really pulls back the curtain on us as a…
- E267: The Hygiene Episode · 55 minShould I shower first? Is this normal? Why does it smell like that? This week we're going there with zero judgment, answering your real hygiene and sex questions one by one…
- E266: Ask a Sex Therapist (Part 3) Sex Pillows, Squirting, and Standing-Up Sex · 1 h 0 minYou send us your most "I can't believe I'm actually asking this" questions, and we live for it. So we're back with the third edition of Ask a Sex Therapist, going rapid-fire…
- E265: Is This Cheating? (Part 3) Emotional Affairs, Secret Texts, and Sneaky DMs · 57 minHave you and your partner ever actually sat down and defined what counts as cheating? Most of us never do, which is exactly why the gray areas get so complicated. We're back…
- E264: What Women Really Think About... Part 3 · 1 h 5 minSo we're back with Part 3 of What Do Women Really Think About…?, giving you the honest answers women don't always say out loud. From the mental load to mirror selfies, nothing’s…
- E263: How to Have More Fun in Your Relationship · 57 minWhen was the last time you and your partner did something purely for fun? Not productive, not logistical, not about the kids, just fun. If you had to think about it for a beat…
- E262: The Sex Personality Quiz Every Couple Needs (And What Your Type Says About You) · 1 h 7 minEver feel like you and your partner are speaking totally different languages when it comes to sex? One of you wants spontaneity, the other needs to feel emotionally close first…
- E261: ED, PE & Everything In Between: Your Performance Problems Solved (Part 2) · 59 minThe response to our first episode on penis performance problems was so big that we knew we had to come back for round two. In this episode, we're getting into the practical…
- E260: How To Orgasm Like A Man: Breaking The Blocks That Keep Women Stuck · 1 h 5 minFor a lot of women, orgasm feels like this mysterious thing that either happens or it doesn't. Nobody taught you how. And somewhere along the way, you picked up the idea that…
- E259: Sex and Intimacy After Kids: What Actually Works (From Parents Who've Figured It Out) · 1 h 3 minThis one's for the sleep-deprived, the time-starved, the diaper-changing, homework-helping parents who still want to feel like a couple. We see you. And we asked our community…
- E258: Weed, Alcohol, and Sex: What's Actually Happening to Your Body and Desire · 1 h 4 minWhether it's a glass of wine to take the edge off or a gummy to get out of your head, a lot of people use substances to feel more relaxed, more connected, or more in the mood…
- E257: Am I The Asshole? Oversharing, Snoring, and Body Shaming · 1 h 3 minOne of our favorite series is back. You sent us your wildest, messiest, most "wait… am I the problem here?" relationship stories. And we have opinions. We're talking about a…
- E256: Doggy Style: Tips, Tricks, and Techniques for Maximum Pleasure · 1 h 1 minLet's talk about doggy style. It's one of the most popular positions out there. It can feel intense, wild, and incredibly hot. But it also comes with a lot of questions. Is it…
- E255: The Sexiest Thing You're Not Doing in Bed…Mutual Masturbation · 43 minOnly 36% of our audience says they've tried mutual masturbation. Which means most of you are missing out on one of the most erotic, intimate, and surprisingly easy things you…
- E254: Couples Coaching: Why Resentment Is Killing Your Sex Life · 54 minWe're back with another real-life couples coaching session. Have you ever gotten to a point where sex doesn't just feel uninteresting… it feels like something you actively…
- E253: Ask A Sex Therapist: dry spells, sex pillows, and morning sex · 1 h 7 minWe do weekly “ask us anything” boxes over on Instagram… and let’s just say… you all really show up with the questions 😏 Today, we’re bringing your q’s to the podcast and diving…
- E252: Don’t Give Your Kids “The Talk” (do this instead) · 52 minMost parents dread “the talk.” How much are you supposed to say? When do you start? What if you say the wrong thing? If you’ve ever felt awkward, unprepared, or secretly hoped…
- E251: What’s Your Desire Type? Our NEW Framework for Understanding What You and Your Partner Really Want · 1 h 5 minWe’re talking about something that explains so much of the tension couples feel around sex and desire. And no — it’s not about having a “high” or “low” libido. Desire isn’t as…
- E250: What Do Men Really Think About…? Part 4 (Heated Rivalry, mental load + areolas) · 1 h 3 minEver wish you could get a straight answer about what’s actually going on in his head? 🧠 We’re back with Part 4 of our “What Do Men Really Think About…?” series — and this time…
- E249: Help! I can’t orgasm with my partner. What do I do? · 48 minNot orgasming with your partner is way more common than most people realize. And for a lot of women, it turns into one of three coping strategies. Faking. Doing nothing. Or…
- E248: How to Talk About Sex With Your Partner (Without Making It Weird) · 56 minLife has been a lot lately. So today, we’re digging into the archives and bringing back one of the most important episodes we’ve ever recorded: how to talk about sex. Because…
- E247: Our Recent Foreplay Discoveries (and how to explore more) · 53 minWe’ve been experimenting more in our own bedroom lately, and in today’s episode, we’re pulling back the covers on what we’ve discovered. The things that surprised us. The…
- E246: How To Stay Connected When The World Feels Like It’s Burning · 1 h 2 minLately, we’ve been hearing from so many of you in our DMs. People are telling us they feel guilty wanting pleasure. Ashamed for craving closeness. Disconnected from their bodies…
- E245: What It’s Really Like to Start TRT: Xander’s Testosterone Journey · 1 h 2 minTestosterone is one of those topics that feels loaded. It’s tangled up in masculinity, aging, sex drive, energy, mood… and a whole lot of misinformation. Because of that, many…
- E244: How To Schedule Sex (our hot take) · 49 minIf the thought of scheduling sex makes you cringe a little… we get that a lot. You might be thinking.. “Ugh. That’s so unromantic.” or… “NOT hot.” or… “If we have to schedule…
- E243: Your Biggest Marriage Regrets (And How To Prevent Them) · 60 minMost marriage regrets don’t show up as explosive fights. They show up quietly. Feeling more like roommates than partners. Wondering when sex started feeling complicated… or…
- E242: Penis Performance Problems: What’s Really Going On (And What To Do About It) · 1 h 4 minPenis performance issues are way more common than most people realize… and way more misunderstood than they need to be. Today’s episode came straight from your questions — from…
- E241: Sex Fails: Car Hookups, Clap Lights, and Cowgirl Concussions · 35 minIt’s been a while since we last covered some of your funniest sex fails… and honestly, we forgot just how creative things can get when pants come off. We asked, and you…
- E240: The Body Confidence Episode - How To Feel Good In Your Skin During Sex · 1 h 11 minIt’s officially that time of year when the New Year buzz is everywhere. Your feeds are full of fitness goals, habit resets, and “new year, new me” energy. And while there’s…
- E239: Breaking Down A Real-Life Text Fight (pt. 3) · 1 h 9 minText fights hit different. There’s something about seeing the exact words—line by line, timestamped, impossible to deny—that makes communication breakdowns painfully clear. In…
- E238: Ask a Sex Therapist: Cycle Libido, Rough Sex & How to Sync Up Your O’s · 1 h 4 minEvery week on Instagram we host “Ask Us Anything” question boxes… and every week we’re hit with hundreds of incredible questions we can’t possibly get to in Stories. So today…
- E237: The Real Reason You’re Not Having More Sex · 1 h 1 minHaving more sex isn’t actually about libido. (We know — that’s what everyone thinks the issue is.) In today’s episode, we’re breaking down what really gets in the way of…
- E236: Sex with Other People…Around: Our Holiday Do’s and Don’ts · 47 minIt’s the season of gratitude, family time… and figuring out how to have sex quietly. 😅 This Thanksgiving, we’re throwing it back to one of our most iconic early episodes — all…
