Self Centered™ with Katie and Allie
by Katie Kurtz and Allie West
71. Why We're Taking a Break from the Pod (Building a Life We Can…
About this podcast
If you’re done living for approval and everyone else’s needs, you’re exactly where you’re meant to be.
Self Centered is about reclaiming your relationship with yourself as your home base, so your thoughts, choices, and relationships flow from clarity, self-trust, and alignment instead of guilt, fear, or external validation.
Our mission is simple: to help you return to yourself and challenge the culture that taught you to abandon who you are. Together, we uncover what pulls you away from your center, so you can live in alignment with your values and co-create a world where being well and centered isn’t seen as selfish.
Hosts Allie and Katie have lived the burnout, the guilt, and the people-pleasing. Now, they share real stories and practical insights to model how to come home to yourself, reclaim your power, and build relationships rooted in interdependence, not codependence.
This isn’t therapy. It’s real conversation and lived experience that reveal the patterns shaping how you show up, set boundaries, and connect, both with yourself and with others.
Welcome to the movement! Let’s find your center and stay there, together.
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Episodes
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- 71. Why We're Taking a Break from the Pod (Building a Life We Can Hold) · 1 h 1 min · Season 1 Episode 71What happens when you finally start feeling momentum toward the life you’ve wanted, and realize you need to nurture it instead of overextending yourself? In this deeply personal…
- 70. Love is Blind Part 7 (Final Episode): Why Chemistry isn't Enough for a Healthy Relationship · 1 h 17 min · Season 1 Episode 70What happens when you want love so badly that you stop listening to yourself? In this episode, we unpack some of the biggest relationship dynamics from Love Is Blind, including…
- 69. Love is Blind Part 6: Avoidant Attachment, “Fixing” Partners, and When Love Isn’t Enough · 42 min · Season 1 Episode 69What happens when someone seems emotionally available one minute… and completely shuts down the next? In this Love Is Blind recap of Emma and Mike, Bree and Connor, and Chris and…
- 68. Love is Blind Part 5: Confused, Avoidant, and Still Engaged · 37 min · Season 1 Episode 68This week, we continue our Love Is Blind breakdown by looking at the difference between relationships that feel grounded and relationships that leave you confused, disconnected…
- 67. Love is Blind Part 4: Couples Retreat Chaos · 1 h 8 min · Season 1 Episode 67This week, we pick back up on episodes 4-6 of Love is Blind Season 10 as the newly engaged couples head into the couples retreat in Cabo. As we react in real time, we talk about…
- 66. Love is Blind Part 3: Coupling Up and Closing the Pods · 47 min · Season 1 Episode 66This week, we finish out the pod phase of Love Is Blind and reflect on the final pairings before the couples retreat. As we watch the last connections unfold, we talk about the…
- 65. Love Is Blind Part 2: A Codependency Triangle · 1 h 9 min · Season 1 Episode 65This week, we’re back in Love Is Blind and continuing the conversation with more dynamics, decisions, and relationship patterns starting to unfold as couples pair up and leave…
- 64. Love is Blind - The Self Centered Way Part 1 · 1 h 16 min · Season 1 Episode 64This week, we’re diving into the first three episodes of Netflix's newest season of Love Is Blind and using the chaos, chemistry, and confusion as a mirror. As we share our…
- 63. Tools to Cope, Part 2: Minneapolis, ICE, Renée Good & Alex Pretti · 33 min · Season 1 Episode 63After last episode’s heavy reflection on current events in the United States, Katie and Allie shift toward coping with the emotional weight of living in a divided country. They…
- 62. Naming What We're Feeling Part 1: Minneapolis, ICE, Renée Good & Alex Pretti · 1 h 20 min · Season 1 Episode 62In this episode, Katie and Allie sit with what it feels like to watch the country fracture in real time. We speak openly about grief, anger, confusion, and the exhaustion of…
- 61. Centered or Not: Before He Cheats vs Flowers - What Breakup Anthems Teach Us About Reclaiming Power · 48 min · Season 1 Episode 61In this episode, we kick off a new ongoing series, Centered or Not, which reflects on the narratives we absorb through pop culture and how those messages shape our understanding…
- 60. You Are Not Your Mistakes: How to Let Go of the Guilt and Move On · 42 min · Season 1 Episode 60Have you ever looked back at a past version of yourself and thought, “I should have known better”? In this episode, we explore why we so often judge our past choices through the…
- 59. "Why do I feel guilty when I’m not productive?": The Belief Shifts That Offered Me Peace · 51 min · Season 1 Episode 59Have you ever slowed down, felt more settled, and somehow started feeling… guilty? In this episode, Katie explores why contentment can feel uncomfortable, why rest can trigger…
- 58. Why Estrangement Reconciliation Fails Without Emotional Maturity · 1 h 0 min · Season 1 Episode 58Family estrangement is often framed as a mystery or a failure, especially by the people who feel left behind. In this final episode of our estrangement series, we explore why…
- 57. Why Adult Children Go No Contact: They Do Care, They Just Can’t Keep Getting Hurt · 1 h 5 min · Season 1 Episode 57Family estrangement is often described as selfish, impulsive, or cruel. In this episode, we slow the conversation down and examine why those narratives miss what actually leads…
- 56. A Trauma-Informed Response to the NYT and Mel Robbins on Family Estrangement and No Contact · 49 min · Season 1 Episode 56If you read the New York Times article on family estrangement and no contact and felt unsettled, this episode is for you. We respond directly to the NYT opinion piece “Life Is…
- 55. Oprah’s “Rising Trend of Going No Contact”: Why It’s Not a Trend, It’s a Cultural Shift · 1 h 31 min · Season 1 Episode 55Oprah’s podcast framed estrangement as a rising "trend.” But is it really? Allie and Katie take a closer look at how mainstream media covers “no contact” relationships…
- 54. Centering Myself Brought Me the Right People: Healing Self-Abandonment and Finding Belonging · 48 min · Season 1 Episode 54After years of survival mode, loneliness, and self-abandonment disguised as “being good,” Allie shares how centering herself finally led to genuine connection. This episode is an…
- 53. One Year In: Our Mission is Bigger than Mental Health · 32 min · Season 1 Episode 53Is being “self centered” the key to healing both ourselves and our culture? In this one-year anniversary episode, Allie and Katie reflect on the evolution of Self Centered, what…
- 52. What My First Date in Months Showed Me About Beliefs I Didn’t Know I Still Had · 1 h 8 min · Season 1 Episode 52This week, Katie tells the story of her very first date after her breakup… and all the chaotic, conflicting, surprisingly insightful feelings that came with it. Think of this…







