She Is Here™
by Charlotte Bailey
Starting Again in Your 40s: It Can Be More Colourful Than You Think
About this podcast
Formerly titled 'Let's Talk People-Pleasing! with Charlotte Bailey' - She Is Here™ is a podcast for women who feel they're 'too much' too sensitive, too emotional, too dramatic....and never quite enough.
Maybe you’ve read the self-help books, listened to the personal development podcasts, or previously had therapy. You understand your patterns — but something still hasn’t shifted. You get it… but you don’t always feel it.
That’s because insight alone isn’t always enough.
Patterns like people-pleasing, overthinking, perfectionism, masking, anxiety, and self-doubt aren’t mindset failures. They’re intelligent survival responses shaped by trauma, attachment, conditioning, relationships, and the environments we’ve had to navigate.
I’m Charlotte Bailey, an accredited trauma-informed psychotherapist, speaker, and spoken-word poet. Through psychology, neuroscience, lived experience, and poetry, She Is Here™ explores the missing piece mainstream self-help often skips: safety - in your nervous system and in your world.
This isn’t about forcing confidence or becoming someone new. It’s about reconnecting with the parts of yourself that learned to shrink, hide or adapt, remembering who you were before you were taught to be less - and learning how to feel safe enough to be seen.
Come join me on instagram and feel free to DM me with any questions or subjects you'd like me to cover : https://www.instagram.com/charlotte_bailey_therapies/
Access free resources (People-Pleasing Quiz-Based Webinar & Video Visibility Confidence Toolkit) & find out more about me via my website: https://www.charlotte-bailey.com/
Episodes
The newest 20 of 64 episodes
- Starting Again in Your 40s: It Can Be More Colourful Than You Think · 32 min · Season 2 Episode 9If you’ve been struggling with the path you’re currently on, or worrying that it’s too late to change careers or create a different kind of life, I encourage you to listen to…
- Lonely in a Room Full of People: Why You Feel Alone Even When You’re Not · 14 min · Season 2 Episode 8Have you ever felt lonely in a room full of people, even when you’re surrounded, included, and socially “fine”? In this episode, I talk about my time working with ITV on their…
- Why People Call You ‘Too Sensitive’ (and why they're wrong) - a spoken word poem · 1 min · Season 2 Episode 7If you’ve ever wondered “why do people call me too sensitive?” or questioned whether your feelings are “too much”, this spoken word piece is for you. I explore how sensitivity…
- Why You Overthink Messages (and What It Says About Safety) · 12 min · Season 2 Episode 6Ever received a message that made your stomach drop… and your brain instantly filled in the blanks with “They’re annoyed” or “I’ve done something wrong”? In today’s episode I…
- What I Actually Mean by ‘Safe Enough to Be Seen’ (and Why It’s Not About Confidence) · 25 min · Season 2 Episode 5In this episode, I’m breaking down what I actually mean when I say “safe” and “safe enough to be seen” because it’s not about confidence, mindset tricks, or forcing yourself to…
- Why Insight Isn’t Enough: Why You Still Feel Anxious Even When You Understand It · 14 min · Season 2 Episode 4You can understand your anxiety and know where it comes from. And still feel anxious. If you’ve ever thought “I get it… so why does this still feel so hard?”, this episode is for…
- Why January and New Year’s Resolutions Make You Feel Like You’re Failing · 28 min · Season 2 Episode 3January and New Year’s resolutions leave many women feeling like they’re failing -even when they’re trying their best. In this trauma-informed episode, we explore why January so…
- The Christmas You Carry · 3 min · Season 2 Episode 2A few spoken words for Mums at Christmas. Join me over on Instagram for regular updates, posts and relatable content and feel free to DM me any subjects you'd like me to cover…
- She Is Here: Remembering Who You Were Before You Were Taught to Be Less · 13 min · Season 2 Episode 1This opening episode of She Is Here™, marks the beginning of a new chapter - not a reinvention from Let's talk People-Pleasing , but a continuation of a remembering…
- When Your Body Makes You Stop And listen To What It Has To Say - It Might Just Surprise You | Ep 53 · 19 min · Episode 53Have you ever told yourself you’re fine, only to find your body proving otherwise? In this short, honest episode, I reflect on how ignoring my own body’s signals turned a simple…
- It’s Not a Rebrand — It’s a Remembering | Ep 52 · 11 min · Episode 52I wanted to sit down and share honestly where my head and heart are at as I reflect on where this podcast and my message are heading. I've noticed that when I started the podcast…
- How To Stop Feeling Guilty For Saying No | Ep 51 · 14 min · Episode 51Last episode focused on identifying the real reason you feel guilty when you say no or put yourself first - in this episode we are exploring those internalised rules like “if I…
- Why Do I Feel So Guilty for Saying No? (And What It Really Means) | Ep 50 · 15 min · Episode 50If you’re a people-pleaser then chances are that on the rare occasion you do say “no” to someone, cancel plans, or set a boundary — you find yourself feeling guilty. In this…
- As An Anxious People-Pleaser I Used To Think I Wasn’t Confident Enough — But It Was Never About Confidence | Ep 49 · 19 min · Episode 49For years, I told myself the reason I couldn’t speak up, share my thoughts, or truly let myself be seen was because I wasn’t confident enough. Maybe you’ve told yourself the same…
- Why Shame Fuels People-Pleasing - and How to Break the Cycle | Ep 48 · 28 min · Episode 48Do you often put everyone else’s needs before your own - and feel bad if you don’t? In this episode, I’m joined by Kay from Place to Talk Therapy Practice to explore the deep…
- The People-Pleasing Path That Leads You Away From Yourself | Ep 47 · 8 min · Episode 47I share what it’s really like to walk the well-worn path of people-pleasing - the one that promises peace, acceptance, and connection, but actually leaves you feeling lost and…
- From Overthinking People-Pleaser to Solo Festival Raver | Ep 47 · 18 min · Episode 47Past me would NEVER have done this. This weekend I went to Creamfields on my own, volunteered with Blink Mental Health, gave therapy sessions in the middle of the thumping bass…
- Does My Writing Still Sound Like Me? On AI, Sameness, and Finding Our Human Voice | Ep 46 · 8 min · Episode 46Have you noticed that so much content online sounds the same? Lately, I’ve found myself scrolling and thinking, “this looks like AI wrote it.” And then the worry hits: what if…
- People-Pleasing in the Bedroom: Let’s Talk About Sex | Ep 45 · 33 min · Episode 45A lot of people hadn’t realised I’m trained in Psychosexual Therapy and Sex and Porn ‘Addiction’ Counselling, and when I recently shared a post talking about my credentials, I…
- I Thought I Was Being 'Professional'... But I Was Actually Avoiding Being Visible | Ep 44 · 12 minIn this episode I reflect on 8 years ago, when I started my business, my private practice. At that time I had a Facebook Page... and no other way to market myself. I rarely…







