Single (not spiraling)
by Lauren Samantha
Latest episode
Protect Your Peace: Why You Should Block Him Sooner | EP. 130
Protect Your Peace: Why You Should Block Him Sooner | EP. 130
About this podcast
Welcome to Single Not Spiraling with Lauren—the podcast for women who are done waiting, done performing, and done pretending they’re not whole on their own.
This is your space for honest conversations about decentering men, ditching the shame spiral, and building a life that turns you on—with or without a partner.
We’re talking nervous system healing, unlearning the bullshit, dating without self-abandoning, and becoming the partner you’ve always wanted. It’s not about fixing you—it’s about finally accepting exactly who you are. So if you’ve ever felt behind, too much, or not enough—put your headphones in. You’re exactly where you’re meant to be!
Episodes
The newest 20 of 133 episodes
- Protect Your Peace: Why You Should Block Him Sooner | EP. 130 · 18 min · Episode 130Blocking him might be the most loving thing you can do for yourself, so why do so many of us wait so long to hit the button? In this episode of Single Not Spiraling, I’m talking…
- Beyond the Rage: Black and White Thinking About Men and How to See the Gray | EP. 129 · 29 min · Episode 129Black and white thinking about men can feel like the safest way to protect yourself, especially when the news has you furious and every headline makes it feel like you can't…
- How to Stop Obsessing Over Someone You Just Started Dating | EP. 128 · 25 min · Episode 128You meet someone, it's going well, and somehow two weeks in you're checking your phone every ten minutes, replaying the last text, and low-key already spiraling and Obessesing…
- Shrekking Dating Trend: Why Dating Less Attractive Guys Isn't the Fix | EP. 127 · 20 min · Episode 127There's a new dating trend everywhere right now, and on the surface it sounds like solid advice: date the guy who's less conventionally hot, because he'll treat you better…
- What Season Are You In? Celibacy, Hoe Phase, Community, and How to Actually Know | EP. 126 · 19 min · Episode 126Not every season calls for celibacy. Some call for community. Some call for a hoe phase. This one's about figuring out which season you're actually in, and why the advice going…
- Staying Off the Apps When You Want Attention | EP. 125 · 20 min · Episode 125Why is it so hard to just sit with yourself for one Tuesday night? This week I'm getting into what's actually happening when you reach for the dating apps — because half the time…
- How to Get Out of Your Single Girl Slump Era | EP. 124 · 15 min · Episode 124Okay, real talk — you think you're not a creative person. You're wrong, and this episode is me proving it. Not another "get back out there and date" ep — this one's about getting…
- How to Make Friends as an Adult While You're Single and Decentering Men | EP. 123 · 17 min · Episode 123You're doing the work of decentering men, but who's actually in your corner while you do it? This week Lauren gets into the friendship gap nobody talks about — why it happens…
- The Sunk Cost Fallacy: Why You Stay Long After You Know | EP.122 · 18 min · Episode 122Why is it so hard to walk away from something once you've put time into it — even when you already know it's not right? This week we're getting into the sunk cost fallacy, the…
- The Fear of Aging Is a Lie. Here's What Getting Older Actually Gives You | EP.121 · 25 min · Episode 121You've been told your whole life that getting older is something to fight off. That your value has a shelf life. That younger is better, more desirable, more worth something. And…
- The Relationship You're Already In (Whether You Notice It or Not) | EP. 120 · 9 min · Episode 120You're already in a relationship, whether you've clocked it or not — the one with yourself. This episode is about what happens when you start treating that relationship with the…
- Information Overload and the Single Woman: When Self-Help Stops Helping | EP. 119 · 20 min · Episode 119We are consuming more than ever. More content, more frameworks, more steps, more systems. And a lot of it is genuinely useful — but at some point the volume of it stops helping…
- Putting Yourself First: Codependency, Conditioning, and Learning to Make Yourself the Priority | EP.118 · 17 min · Episode 118Putting yourself first sounds simple until you actually try to do it. If you've ever said yes when you meant no, shrunk your own needs down before anyone even asked you to, or…
- Why You Keep Spiraling Over Men And How the Empowerment Dynamic Finally Stops It | EP. 117 · 21 min · Episode 117You've been spiraling and you know it — the overanalyzing, the waiting, the feeling like you have zero control over how your own life feels. This episode hands you the framework…
- Why a Secure Man Won't Be Threatened By You Being a Man Hater | EP: 116 · 20 min · Episode 116If you've been holding back from fully doing this work, this episode is for you. Today Lauren is getting into why a capable, secure man is not going to be threatened by you being…
- Your Relationship Just Ended. Here's Exactly What to Do. | EP. 115 · 25 min · Episode 115Something Lauren keeps noticing: when women go through a breakup, they find themselves again. They go back to the things they'd stopped doing — the hobby, the book, the version…
- Single in Your 30s and 40s: What It Really Takes to Stop Spiraling and Come Home to Yourself | EP: 114 · 31 min · Episode 114In this episode Lauren gets real about what the work actually looks like — not the highlight reel version, not the "I healed and now everything is great" version, but the real…
- Decentering Men Q&A: Your Biggest Questions, Answered | EP. 113 · 18 min · Episode 113You've been asking Lauren questions about decentering men — how to talk about it, what actually changed first, whether your relationships survive it — and today she's answering…
- Now That You've Decentered Men, Whimsy The F*ck Out Of Your Life | EP. 112 · 25 min · Episode 112You've been doing the work. Decentering men, healing, growing, showing up for yourself. But when's the last time your life actually felt magical? In this episode we're talking…
- Dating a Woman Who Has Decentered Men: A Man's Perspective | EP. 111 · 1 h 14 min · Episode 111What does it actually look like to date a woman who is decentering men? My boyfriend Joey joins me to answer that — from his side. He's confident, he's not threatened, and he has…
