The ENM DNM
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Dear ENM DNM: Your fear is not illogical
Dear ENM DNM: Your fear is not illogical
About this podcast
Welcome to The ENM DNM, the podcast where we have deep and meaningful (DNM) conversations about ethical non-monogamy (ENM).
Whether you're curious, practising, or deep in the trenches of polyamorous life, this show holds space for all the messy, joyful, complex realities of ENM.Each episode dives into different themes, from getting started, to communication struggles, identity, dating stories, and how ENM intersects with the wider (often mononormative) world.
You’ll hear honest stories, personal experiences, and the occasional bit of swearing, laughter, or tea-spilling.This isn’t a how-to guide. It’s not prescriptive. It’s a space to reflect, connect, and hear how others are navigating ENM in all its forms.
We're queer-run, community-focused, and proud of the diversity of voices we platform.
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Episodes
The newest 20 of 24 episodes
- Dear ENM DNM: Your fear is not illogical · 57 min · Season 1 Episode 23Adam and Leonie are back with another Dear ENM DNM, and this one is a big one. A listener wrote in. They're a queer guy dating two people, one of whom is immunocompromised…
- ENM Rules, Agreements or Just Vibes? · 60 min · Season 1 Episode 22Adam and Leonie are back on their phones, scrolling through non-monogamy Reels and giving their honest (and sometimes very strong) opinions on what they find. It kicks off a…
- Running Events Safely: What Organisers Need to Do · 60 min · Season 1 Episode 21Adam and Leonie kick off by talking about Wet on Wellington, the gay sauna in Melbourne they've visited as a space to hang out, relax and chat with mates. But this episode…
- Kink Corner: Barefoot Juliette and Shibari · 1 h 20 min · Season 1 Episode 20In this Kink Corner episode, Adam and Leonie sit down with Barefoot Juliette to talk all things Shibari, the Japanese rope art that's part performance, part intimacy practice…
- The ENM Glossary: What Do These Words Even Mean? · 1 h 18 min · Season 1 Episode 19In this episode, Adam and Leonie are joined by Ari to attempt something brave, foolish and probably impossible: making sense of some of the terms people use in ENM and…
- Dear ENM DNM: The calendar is the metamour · 1 h 11 min · Season 1 Episode 18In this episode, Adam and Leonie open up the Dear ENM DNM inbox after someone writes in about a very familiar ENM problem: the calendar. They talk through a situation involving…
- The Manifesting Canine: Love, Ghosting and the Relationship Escalator · 1 h 4 min · Season 1 Episode 17In this episode, Adam and Leonie move from canine chaos and accidental innuendo into a bigger conversation about dating, ghosting and what happens when connection does not quite…
- What It’s Like to Date Adam and Leonie · 1 h 15 min · Season 1 Episode 16In this episode, Adam and Leonie turn the mic on themselves and unpack what it’s actually like to date them. From communication styles and emotional needs to attraction…
- Adam: Vulnerability, Masculinity and ENM · 1 h 19 min · Season 1 Episode 15In this episode, Leonie turns the mic on Adam. They talk about how he first found his way into ethical non-monogamy, what opening up a relationship actually looked like in…
- Raw-Dogging Leonie: Is Ne-Yo’s Take So Sick? · 1 h 5 min · Season 1 Episode 14In this episode, we try something a little different. Adam brings in a social media clip of Ne-Yo talking about polyamory, and Leonie reacts to it in real time, with no prep, no…
- The return of Ari · 1 h 42 min · Season 1 Episode 13In this episode, Ari returns to the podcast for a much deeper check-in. What starts as a catch-up quickly opens into a conversation about what has changed since the first…
- Hierarchy in ENM · 54 min · Season 1 Episode 12In this episode, we take on one of the most loaded and misunderstood topics in ethical non-monogamy: hierarchy. Rather than treating hierarchy as something simple or…
- Skirt Club and the Grey Areas of ENM · 47 min · Season 1 Episode 11In this episode, we step into one of the more complicated spaces sitting alongside ethical non-monogamy. We’re joined by Genevieve, founder of Skirt Club, to talk about what the…
- Lily Allen's West End Girl: A Raw ENM Reaction · 1 h 41 min · Season 1 Episode 10In this episode, we do something a little different. We listen to Lily Allen’s West End Girl track by track and react to it in real time, using our own experiences in ethical…
- From Conservative Faith to Non-Monogamy: Leonie’s story Part 2 · 1 h 16 min · Season 1 Episode 9In Part 2 of Leonie’s story, the conversation moves from background into becoming. We explore what happened after the rules started to loosen: the slow unfurling of sexuality…
- From Conservative Faith to Non-Monogamy: Leonie’s story Part 1 · 1 h 9 min · Season 1 Episode 8From Conservative Faith to Non-Monogamy: Leonie’s Story Part 1 In Part 1 of Leonie’s story, we go right back to the beginning. Leonie reflects on her childhood, her deep sense…
- We are back!!! · 38 min · Season 1 Episode 7It’s been a while, but WE ARE BACK!! The ENM DNM looks a little different now. It’s just the two of us, Adam and Leonie, which brings a new format, a new energy, and a bit more…
- Episode 6: ENM: The Good, The Bad, and The Fugly · 40 min · Season 1 Episode 6Episode 6: The Good, The Bad, and The Fugly From cute friend dates to chaotic sex parties, we’re ending Season 1 with our wildest, weirdest, and most heartfelt dating stories…
- Episode 5: Communication, Boundaries & Agreements in ENM · 1 h 18 min · Season 1 Episode 5Episode 5: Communication and Boundaries What does “good communication” really mean in ethical non-monogamy — and how do you know if you’re setting a boundary or just trying to…
- Episode 4: Coming Out… or Not: ENM and the People We Love · 1 h 21 min · Season 1 Episode 4Episode 4: Families, Friends, and the (Mono) World World What happens when you’re living ethically non-monogamous — but your friends, family, or workplace aren’t? In this…
