The Kink Perspective
by The Kink Perspective
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Season 5 Episode 42 - My conversation with BuiltThroughHeat...
Season 5 Episode 42 - My conversation with BuiltThroughHeat...
About this podcast
The Kink Perspective looks at BDSM through psychology, not performance. It’s an honest examination of power, connection, and what really shapes relationships inside kink, without romanticizing dysfunction or avoiding hard truths.
Hosted by Chris, trauma-specific consultant and psychotherapist with more than two decades of lifestyle experience.
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Episodes
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- Season 5 Episode 42 - My conversation with BuiltThroughHeat... · 1 h 33 min · Season 5 Episode 42On today's show, I'm joined by BuiltThroughHeat as we continue last week's discussion about men speaking up and holding other men accountable. We explore how individuals…
- Season 5 Episode 41 - Punished for Speaking Up... · 1 h 20 min · Season 5 Episode 41On today's show, I'm discussing what happens when men speak up about problematic behavior from other men, only to find themselves criticized, dismissed, or attacked for doing so…
- Season 5 Episode 40 - Is It Drop, or Are They Pulling Away?... · 34 min · Season 5 Episode 40On today’s show, I’m discussing what happens when drop, attachment, and real changes in someone else’s behavior start feeling almost impossible to separate. We’ll look at why…
- Season 5 Episode 39 - The Difference Between a Safeguard and a Wall... · 49 min · Season 5 Episode 39On today's show, I'm discussing the difference between a safeguard and a wall, and how the things we build to protect ourselves can sometimes begin keeping connection out. I look…
- Season 5 Episode 38 - When Your Body Learns the Cue... · 39 min · Season 5 Episode 38On today's show, I'm talking about classical conditioning and how we learn to respond to certain cues. I look at how those associations develop in kink and relationships, and…
- Season 5 Episode 37 - When Fear Starts Running the Dynamic... · 41 min · Season 5 Episode 37On today's show, I'm talking about what happens when fear starts influencing the power inside a D/s dynamic. I look at how obedience, control, service, and responsibility can…
- Season 5 Episode 36 - A Life Shaped by Shame... · 48 min · Season 5 Episode 36On today's show, I'm talking about chronic shame and what happens when it stops being about something we did and starts shaping how we see ourselves. I get into how those…
- Season 5 Episode 35 - Still Kinky, Just Seasoned... · 39 min · Season 5 Episode 35On today's show, I'm talking about how kink changes as we age, and what happens when the roles, desires, or identities that once fit us start to shift. I’m also looking at the…
- Season 5 Episode 34 - Race, Power, and Consent... · 42 min · Season 5 Episode 34On today’s show, I’m talking about race play and what it actually is. I’ll look at its history, why some people are drawn to it, and how consent changes the discussion. I also…
- Season 5 Episode 33 - When Politics Enters the Playroom... · 45 min · Season 5 Episode 33On today's show, I'm talking about politics and kink, and why those two worlds seem increasingly difficult to separate. I explore what happens when political beliefs begin…
- Season 5 Episode 32 - Religion, Identity, and Belonging... · 53 min · Season 5 Episode 32On today's show, I'm talking about what happens when criticism of religion crosses the line into contempt for the people who hold those beliefs. Together, we'll explore how that…
- Season 5 Episode 31 - When Desire Turns to Contempt... · 39 min · Season 5 Episode 31On today’s show, I’m talking about what happens when attraction to someone because of their race turns into fetishizing them, and what can happen when that fantasy meets…
- Season 5 Episode 30 - When Context Disappears... · 48 min · Season 5 Episode 30On today’s show, I’m talking about what happens when context disappears and people start responding to what they think someone represents instead of what was actually said or…
- Season 5 Episode 29 - When Consent Language Becomes Social Control... · 49 min · Season 5 Episode 29On today’s show, I’m discussing what happens when the language of consent, safety, trauma, and boundaries stops protecting people and starts controlling the room. I explore how…
- Season 5 Episode 28 - Wanting to Own Your Past... · 38 min · Season 5 Episode 28On today's show, I'm talking about the difference between wanting to understand someone's past and wanting that past to have belonged to you. We explore why our minds can become…
- Season 5 Episode 27 - When Pain Becomes a Sword... · 39 min · Season 5 Episode 27On today's show, I'm talking about the moment pain stops being something we carry and starts becoming something we use against the people trying to love us. We explore how…
- Season 5 Episode 26 - Duty or Obligation? · 38 min · Season 5 Episode 26On today's show, I'm talking about the psychological difference between responsibility and obligation, and why they aren't always the same thing. We'll explore how people…
- Season 5 Episode 25 - Punishment... · 41 min · Season 5 Episode 25On today's show, I'm discussing the psychology of punishment and why stopping a behavior isn't always the same as creating lasting change. We explore operant conditioning, what…
- Season 5 Episode 24 - The Relationship Worked Because One Person Paid The Cost ... · 31 min · Season 5 Episode 24Some relationships don't stay together because they're healthy. They stay together because one person is constantly managing tension, solving problems, and carrying…
- Season 5 Episode 23 - My Interview with Toke-n-Tease... · 1 h 14 min · Season 5 Episode 23On today's show, I sat down with Toke-n-Tease to discuss her fourteen-year journey through the swinger lifestyle, non-monogamy, and personal growth. What began with a…
