The Positivity Xperience
de Lori Wheeler
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You're Not Just Angry: What's Really Happening Beneath Your Anger
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À propos de ce podcast
**The Positivity Xperience** is a psychology-based personal growth podcast for people who are ready to stop surviving and start understanding themselves on a deeper level.
Each week, Lori Wheeler combines psychology, human behavior, emotional resilience, and real-life experience to help you break free from the patterns that keep you stuck. From anxiety, overthinking, and people-pleasing to manipulation, boundaries, self-worth, relationships, and emotional healing, every episode is designed to help you understand not just "what" you're doing—but "why".
If you're looking for sugar-coated motivation, this probably isn't the podcast for you. Lori believes that lasting change comes from honest conversations, personal accountability, and a willingness to challenge the beliefs and behaviors that no longer serve you. The approach is compassionate, but direct—because growth isn't always comfortable.
Whether you're trying to heal from your past, navigate difficult relationships, quiet the constant overthinking, or simply become a healthier version of yourself, you'll leave each episode with practical tools, deeper insight, and a new perspective you can apply to your everyday life.
Because healing isn't about becoming someone else—it's about finally becoming yourself.
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- You're Not Just Angry: What's Really Happening Beneath Your Anger · 39 min · Saison 1 Épisode 312Anger is one of the easiest emotions to recognize—and one of the most misunderstood. We know what it looks like when someone explodes, shuts down, becomes defensive, or starts…
- You Can't Love Someone Into Loving You More · 44 min · Saison 1 Épisode 311You can't love someone into loving you more. You can give them more attention, more affection, more patience, more understanding, and more chances. You can become everything you…
- Why Covert Narcissists Are So Hard to Recognize · 37 min · Saison 1 Épisode 310Not every person with narcissistic traits looks arrogant, loud, controlling, or obsessed with being the center of attention. Some appear quiet, insecure, misunderstood, unusually…
- Why Some People Need You to Feel Guilty Before They Can Feel Better · 31 min · Saison 1 Épisode 309Sometimes an apology isn't enough. Not because the person hasn't taken responsibility. Not because nothing has changed. But because you still need them to feel bad. In this…
- Why do you keep explaining yourself long after the other person clearly understands what you're saying? · 30 min · Saison 1 Épisode 308Sometimes we assume that if we could just find the right words, give one more example, or explain our reasoning a little better, the other person would finally get it. But they…
- You Don't Actually Want Closure — You Want a Different Ending · 42 min · Saison 1 Épisode 307Sometimes what you call closure is really your refusal to let reality have the final word. We tell ourselves we need one more conversation, one more explanation, one more…
- You're Not Lost. Maybe You're Between Versions of Yourself. · 30 min · Saison 1 Épisode 306There are seasons when you don't recognize your own life anymore. The things that used to motivate you don't. The roles you've played for years start feeling wrong. You know you…
- You Don't Have Forever: Stop Living Someone Else's Life · 30 min · Saison 1 Épisode 305We talk about "someday" like it's an unlimited resource. Someday I'll do it. Someday I'll change. Someday I'll travel. Someday I'll stop caring what everyone thinks. Someday I'll…
- Why Some People Need You to Stay the Same · 46 min · Saison 1 Épisode 304Sometimes people aren't resisting your growth. They're resisting the loss of the version of you that worked for them. When you change a long-standing role—fixer, rescuer…
- Why Some People Expect You to Heal Their Wounds · 43 min · Saison 1 Épisode 303Have you ever found yourself constantly reassuring someone, changing your behavior to prevent their insecurity, tolerating harmful behavior because you understand their trauma…
- Why Empaths Stay Too Long, Feel Too Much, and Take On Everyone's Emotions · 44 min · Saison 1 Épisode 302Can empathy actually become unhealthy? We often treat empathy as an unquestionable strength—but when caring turns into emotional over-responsibility, projection, rescuing, guilt…
- The Real Reason You're Not Happy (It's Not What You Think) · 54 min · Saison 1 Épisode 303Why do we remain stuck in situations we already know are making us unhappy? Why do we stay longer than we should, continue expecting people to change, cling to potential, and…
- When to End a Relationship (Even If You Still Love Them) · 50 min · Saison 1 Épisode 302How do you know when a relationship is going through a difficult season—and when it has genuinely run its course? This question does not apply only to romantic relationships…
- Why You Keep Looking for Someone to Fill the Void : The Psychology of Loneliness and Emotional Dependency · 51 min · Saison 1 Épisode 301Have you ever caught yourself believing that if the right person came into your life, you wouldn't feel so lonely? Maybe you've thought that a partner, a friend, your children…
- Why They Expect You to Live Like They Do · 41 min · Saison 1 Épisode 300Have you ever had someone tell you what you "should" do with your life? Maybe they told you they would never leave a relationship, cut off a family member, quit a job, spend…
- Your Healing Forces Other People to Face Their Own Pain · 43 min · Saison 1 Épisode 299Have you ever noticed that the healthier you become, the more uncomfortable certain people seem? Maybe you've started setting boundaries, leaving toxic relationships, questioning…
- When Being Understood Becomes an Obsession (And Why You'll Never Find Peace There) · 46 min · Saison 1 Épisode 298Have you ever spent hours replaying a conversation, wishing you had explained yourself differently? Do you feel frustrated when people misunderstand your intentions? Do you find…
- If They Can't Let Go of Your Past, It May Be Time to Let Go of Them · 44 min · Saison 1 Épisode 297Have you ever apologized, changed your behavior, taken responsibility… yet someone still refuses to let go of your past? Maybe every disagreement somehow circles back to the same…
- The Hidden Addiction to Being Needed (And Why Letting Go Feels So Hard) · 47 min · Saison 1 Épisode 296Have you ever felt guilty for saying no? Do you immediately jump into problem-solving when someone is struggling? Do you secretly feel uncomfortable when people no longer need…
- Weaponized Generosity. When kindness becomes debt · 47 min · Saison 1 Épisode 295Generosity is beautiful when it is freely given. But what happens when someone uses their kindness, help, gifts, or support as leverage? In this episode, we break down the…
- Arguing With Reality Is Destroying Your Peace · 41 min · Saison 1 Épisode 294Most people think their suffering comes from difficult circumstances, painful relationships, mistakes, rejection, or uncertainty. But what if the real suffering comes from…
- 5 Ways People Manipulate You Without Looking Manipulative · 42 min · Saison 1 Épisode 294Most manipulation doesn't look manipulative. It doesn't usually show up as obvious control, aggression, or intimidation. Instead, it often hides behind guilt, concern, humor…
- Feigning Helplessness: When "I Can't" Becomes Manipulation · 44 min · Saison 1 Épisode 293Not all helplessness is genuine. Sometimes "I can't" becomes a strategy that shifts responsibility, creates guilt, and trains other people to over-function. In this episode, we…
- Why You Replay Conversations (And Can't Turn Your Brain Off) · 44 min · Saison 1 Épisode 292Why You Replay Conversations (And Can't Turn Your Brain Off) Episode Description Do you replay conversations in your head for hours… sometimes days… wondering if you said the…
- "Stop Trying to Understand Them—You'll Never Get the Answer You Want" · 44 min · Saison 1 Épisode 291Why do you keep replaying what happened, trying to figure it out, and searching for answers that never seem to feel like enough? In this episode, we break down the psychology…
- Emotional Control: 5 Phrases That Are Secretly Manipulative · 45 min · Saison 1 Épisode 290Some of the most manipulative behavior doesn't sound aggressive at all — it sounds emotional, hurt, misunderstood, or even vulnerable. In this episode, we break down 5 common…
- "If You Keep Chasing Validation, This Is Why It Never Feels Like Enough" · 45 min · Saison 1 Épisode 289Why do you need people to agree with you? Why does someone's response—or lack of response—affect how you feel about yourself? In this episode, we break down the psychology of…
- Abandonment and Rejection: Why It Hurts (and Why It Doesn't Define You) · 47 min · Saison 1 Épisode 288Why does rejection hurt so much? Why can a breakup, someone pulling away, or the fear of being left feel so overwhelming — even when you know you should "move on"? In this…
- Healthy Communication: Why It Breaks Down (And When to Stop Trying) · 46 min · Saison 1 Épisode 287Communication isn't just about talking more—it's about clarity, regulation, accountability, and mutual participation. In this episode, we break down what healthy communication…
- Growing Past People Who Don't Want You to Grow · 45 min · Saison 1 Épisode 286Growth doesn't just change you—it changes your relationships. In this episode, we break down the psychology behind why people resist your growth and why becoming more self-aware…
- Autonomy: Why It's So Hard to Have (And Why People Resist It) · 47 min · Saison 1 Épisode 285Autonomy isn't just independence—it's the ability to think, choose, and act without being driven by guilt, fear, or the need for approval. In this episode, we break down the…
- Your Thoughts Are Not You: Why Your Brain Creates Them and Why You Believe Them · 47 min · Saison 1 Épisode 284If your feelings aren't facts… then what about your thoughts? In this episode, we take the next step and break down the psychology and neuroscience of thoughts — where they come…
- Your Feelings Aren't Facts: What Your Brain Is Actually Doing · 46 min · Saison 1 Épisode 283Have you ever felt something so strongly that it seemed like absolute truth? Feeling ignored. Feeling rejected. Feeling disrespected. Feeling anxious about something that hasn't…
- DARVO: The Manipulation Tactic That Makes You Defend Yourself · 44 min · Saison 1 Épisode 282Have you ever brought up an issue with someone and somehow ended up defending yourself instead? In this episode we break down the psychological tactic known as DARVO — Deny…
- The Manipulation Control Trap That Keeps You Defending · 42 min · Saison 1 Épisode 281Have you ever left a conversation feeling confused, guilty, or unsure of what actually happened? In this episode, we break down the psychology behind narrative control and how…
- Why You Feel Responsible for Other People's Crises · 40 min · Saison 1 Épisode 280Do you feel responsible for other people's emergencies — their emotional spirals, financial messes, relationship chaos, or even their mental health crises? In this episode, we…
- Why You Can't Relax Even When Nothing Is Wrong · 45 min · Saison 1 Épisode 279If you struggle to relax even when life feels calm, this episode will help you understand why. In this episode, we explore the psychology and nervous system conditioning behind…
- You Need to Know Who Gets Access to You · 40 min · Saison 1 Épisode 278Victim mindset isn't just about how you think — it's about who you allow access to you. In this episode, we explore how victim mentality is reinforced through relationships…
- You Need to Know Why You Become the Emotional Dumping Ground · 46 min · Saison 1 Épisode 277You Need to Know Why You Become the Emotional Dumping Ground If people constantly unload their emotions, problems, and frustrations onto you, this episode will help you…
- The 4 Agreements (and Why You Keep Resisting Them) · 44 min · Saison 1 Épisode 276The Four Agreements are simple — but they're not easy. And the reason most people don't practice them isn't because they don't understand them. It's because practicing them…
- Stop Taking Responsibility for Other People's Feelings · 45 min · Saison 1 Épisode 275If you feel compelled to soothe, explain, reassure, or fix whenever someone is upset, this episode is for you. In this episode, we unpack why so many people take responsibility…
- Why Intensity Isn't Connection · 44 min · Saison 1 Épisode 274Intensity often feels like depth — but it isn't the same thing as connection. In this episode, we explore why so many people confuse emotional intensity with closeness…
- The Truth About Fake Concern: When Kindness Is Used as Leverage · 43 min · Saison 1 Épisode 273Some people don't control through aggression — they control through concern. In this episode, we break down the psychology of fake concern and how kindness can quietly become a…
- You Need To Know What Happens When You Heal-- And Others Don't. · 43 min · Saison 1 Épisode 271Healing doesn't just change how you feel — it changes how you show up in relationships. And that shift can be deeply uncomfortable for the people who benefited from the old…
- If You Feel Everyone Else's Emotions, Listen to This · 1 h 27 min · Saison 1 Épisode 272If You Feel Everyone Else's Emotions, Listen to This If you constantly absorb other people's emotions, moods, or stress, this episode will challenge everything you've been told…
- The Psychology of "I'll Start Tomorrow": Why You're Stuck · 47 min · Saison 1 Épisode 265Most people don't fail because their goals are impossible — they fail because they wait for a date on a calendar to save them. In today's episode, The Science of Starting Now…
- The Truth About Religious Trauma: How Shame Becomes Control · 45 min · Saison 1 Épisode 264Religion can be a powerful source of community, comfort, and guidance — but for many, it also becomes a source of fear, guilt, and lifelong emotional distress. When faith is tied…
- When Your Nervous System Never Stands Down: Living in Survival Mode & Learning to Feel Safe Again · 44 min · Saison 1 Épisode 263If you've lived your life waiting for impact — waiting for the next crisis, the next emotional explosion, the next let-down, the next shoe to drop — this episode is for you…
- Anxious Attachment: When 'Love' Is Really Panic & Control · 44 min · Saison 1 Épisode 262Most people think anxious attachment means someone "loves harder," cares more, or is just afraid of losing you… but the truth is deeper and far more complicated. In this episode…
- How Fake Helplessness Controls You (And the Psychology Behind It) · 45 min · Saison 1 Épisode 261Some people don't manipulate through anger — they manipulate through weakness. In this episode of The Positivity Xperience, Lori Wheeler breaks down the psychology, neuroscience…
