The Pretender
by Jay Siwiti
Latest episode
"Why do you still love me?" (A father's home school journey.)
"Why do you still love me?" (A father's home school journey.)
About this podcast
The Pretender is a podcast hosted by Jay and addresses real life experiences by real people for real people.
In a world that is filled with masked struggles, failures and mental battles, people are suffering silently and social media is pushing the boundaries. Most don't know where to start to break free; Jay breaks the ice by talking about and calling out his own struggles to show you there's a way to be free of the expectations of society. There's no super human, and there's no need for us to be pretending to be one. If you wanna know its ok to be a normal human being, come listen to me tell you all about my own personal struggles - who knows? Maybe we could cry and laugh about it together.
Episodes
The newest 20 of 42 episodes
- "Why do you still love me?" (A father's home school journey.) · 14 minJay shares his experience as a home school Dad and how one very difficult question from his son allowed him to appreciate God’s love for humanity. Jay also shares the great…
- "What's on your Playlist?" - Talking life through music with Confidence (Part 1) · 1 h 41 minJay and his guest take the approach to discussing the different phases of life through the music we tend to play during the experience. We pick only the top 10 songs on the…
- How to say goodbye - Ginger a life story · 22 minJay shares his recent experience of losing his beloved dog Ginger. In doing so he explains how much saying goodbye to the dog was more about letting go of a part of his life that…
- It's time for healing · 23 minJay talks about healing from personal life events from both a physical, emotional and spiritual sense. During times of difficulty, tragedy, failure, illness or any valleys of…
- We're still suffering · 16 minIn this episode, Jay recounts a conversation he had with a late friend about suffering and draws perspective from it today. Dedicated to M.N.M. - Still sadly missed. Resources…
- The game hasn't loved me back · 17 minJay recounts his love for basketball and the pain from it. He talks about why he is ready to quit – a true depiction of the impact the recent injury and process of recovery has…
- Where is your faith, Jay? · 17 minIn November of 2016, Jay underwent a surgical procedure to repair his left Achilles tendon after it completely ruptured. He made full recovery in a record 6-7 months and went…
- I'm sorry that I let you down · 17 minIn this episode Jay pens a letter of apology to all the people in his life that he let down by choosing his own path. He gets a little personal in saying sorry for the unrealized…
- You only get one shot at this life (with JK) · 1 h 52 minJay talks to Joseph Kayaya about being yourself, living your life to the fullest, his love for running and we delve deep into his experience with dealing with the death of his…
- Going back · 25 minIn this episode Jay talks about how life is taking him back to parts of his life that he left behind. He goes in circles talking about going back to old relationships including…
- Talk to the hand (The untimely end of friendship) · 17 minIn this episode Jay talks about the challenges and 'weirdness' of adult friendship. He shares his experience being blacked out by a long-time close friend, how he came to terms…
- Doodling to survive · 14 minIn this episode Jay reflects on his recent depression and health issues, as well as how he lost his creative ability and enthusiasm for writing. He talks about an interesting…
- The secret life of twins with Ralf · 1 h 54 minJay talks to his identical twin brother Ralf about the experience of leaving Africa to settle in Europe, his experience with the difficulty of childbearing and the the challenges…
- No excuses, life happened. · 13 minIn this episode Jay reflects on his recent unplanned hiatus and life as he shares his strange illness, tragic death of a friend and gratitude through it all. Safe to say he is…
- I am without a face (with Alice) · 1 h 35 minJay talks to Alice-Mulo about her art, advocacy work in mental health and about her adult therapy coloring book (Free your mind, free yourself) - a first in Zambia. Resources &…
- There are victims here too (Part 2 with Tabo) · 52 minJay continues the conversation with Tabo about her journey of life; they talk about how she copes with life's various challenges, they talk about her career and the power of a…
- There are victims here too (Part 1 with Tabo) · 1 h 16 minJay talks to Tabo about her journey of life; the challenges she has faced as woman in her aviation career, her time living in Western Australia, returning home to Africa and the…
- There are victims here (with Serah) · 1 h 21 minJay talks to Mrs. Pretender herself, his wife Serah about how she has walked with him through this journey and she airs out how she has borne the brunt of the pain as well as…
- Season 2 Trailer · 5 minThe Pretender podcast is back for a new season. Here's a Preview of what's to come in season 2.
- Just come in the open and be real (Nuggets from season 1) · 8 minIn this excerpt from episode 16, Jonathan talks about how at one point in his journey he was really down and fighting for survival, how he almost gave up. Then he also challenges…
