Untethering Shame
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Shame is the fear of not being good enough or worthy of connection and belonging. This silent plague keeps us tethered to the performance, focused on external validation and approval versus internal rooting. It can disrupt every relationship, thought, and experience if left unchecked. And it's time we say enough. Join licensed mental health therapist, Kyira Wackett, in the quest to build insight and take meaningful and intentional actions as we untether ourselves from shame.
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- Shame & Overperforming: What Happens When You Finally Stop Proving Yourself with Sam Tetzlaff · 1 t 6 minMost of us know what it feels like to constantly prove we're enough. To perform, achieve, and stay "acceptable," often at the expense of our energy, self-trust, and connection to…
- Your Adult Child's Boundaries Aren't Rejection (Here's What They Really Mean) · 5 minWe cannot come for the holidays this year. Please call before you stop by. We do not parent that way. If your adult child has said something like this, maybe your first reaction…
- Shame & Dissociation: Reclaiming Wholeness After Complex Trauma with Kristin Windsor · 58 minWhat happens when your suffering is real, but nobody around you can see it? In this episode, Kyira sits down with Kristin Windsor, who lived for years with dissociative identity…
- Why Waiting on Your Adult Kids Is Hurting Your Relationship · 6 minYour kids do not call. They do not visit. They do not show up the way you hoped they would. So you wait. You hope. And sometimes, without meaning to, you guilt. Here is the…
- Shame & Anxious Attachment: Learning to Feel Safe in Love with Valerie Rubin · 59 minWhy do so many people feel trapped in cycles of overthinking, people-pleasing, reassurance-seeking, and fear of abandonment, even when they logically know better? In this…
- Shame & Overcontrol: When Control Feels Like Safety with Dr. Samantha Turetsky (Part 1) · 1 t 1 minIs wanting control actually a problem, or is it the rigidity around it? In Part 1 of this two-part conversation, licensed clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha "Sami" Turetsky joins…
- Why Being Your Kid's Best Friend Is a Mistake · 6 minShould parents be best friends with their kids? Can my kid be my best friend? My answer is no, and here is why. Being close to your kids is beautiful. But when you try to be…
- Shame & Anxiety: Why We'd Rather Worry Than Feel with Chelsea Horton · 57 minWhat if your anxiety isn't the real problem? In this episode, somatic coach and Healing Embodied founder Chelsea Horton joins Kyira to unpack anxiety as a secondary emotion: the…
- Why Your Kids Can't Make You Happy (And Shouldn't) · 6 min"I would be so happy if you called more." "You are the only thing that makes my life worth it." These comments sound loving, but underneath they send a message: my happiness…
- Shame and Forbidden Curiosity: What It Really Means to Be Fully Seen with Mistress Mia · 51 minMistress Mia is back, and this conversation goes somewhere the first one didn't. Mia is a Transformative Life Coach, Certified Therapeutic BDSM Practitioner, and Sacred Kink &…
- Scared of Growing Old Alone? Don't Put It on Your Kids · 5 minMany of us hate to admit it, but aging brings real fears. The worry that you are becoming irrelevant, that your kids do not need you anymore, that you are slowly being left…
- Shame and the Lost-Worth Story: Understanding Why We Deny Our Own Worth with Dawna Daigneault · 54 minWhat if the heaviness you carry, the quiet sense that you are somehow not enough, was never about a flaw in you at all? In this episode I sit down with Dawna Daigneault, a…
- Why Don't My Kids Call Me? (What's Really Going On) · 4 minWhy Don't My Kids Call Me? If you have ever sat by the phone waiting for it to ring, or felt that sting when you realize it has been weeks since you heard from your child, you…
- Shame & AI: The Hidden Cost of Communicating Better with Salvatore Manzi · 46 minWe all have two versions of ourselves now. The one who sends the perfect, AI polished email, and the one who stumbles through the meeting five minutes later. In this episode I…
- You Don't OWE Your Parents Access to Your Kids · 6 minOnce you have kids of your own, a hard expectation can show up: that your parents are automatically owed unlimited access to your children, and that everything painful between…
- Shame & Loss: What Grief Taught Julie Lucas About Receiving Love · 59 min"I thought I knew what grief felt like." A year and a half ago, Julie Lucas' husband Tommie left for a work trip and never came home. What she found on the other side of that…
- When Your Parent Gives You the Silent Treatment (It's Not Your Fault) · 5 minWhen your parent goes silent... — if a parent has ever shut you out, given you the cold shoulder, or gone quiet to punish you, this episode is for you. We break down why the…
- Shame, Meltdowns and Tantrums: Managing Emotions in Our Children & Ourselves with Dr. Bethany Bilodeau · 58 minIs it defiance, or is it fear? I sit down with Dr. Bethany Bilodeau (Dr. B), an expert in human behavior, to talk about why school refusal, meltdowns, and "non-compliance" are…
- Shame & Being Single: The Stories We Inherit About Being Alone with Amanda Quinby · 52 minYou are not behind. That feeling has a source, and it is older than you are. Being single is not just a relationship status. For a lot of people, it carries a verdict built out…
- 🎙️ Ask Me Anything – E61: You Already Know What You Need. So Why Aren't You Doing It? · 12 min · Episode 61Knowing is not the same as changing. And the personal growth industry has blurred that line for a long time. In this AMA episode, I answer an anonymous listener who has…
- Shame, Failing & Regret: When Mistakes Feel Like Proof with Telana Simpson · 51 minWhat does it really cost us to play it safe? And what do we do with the weight of regret when we realize, too late, how much of our life we spent protecting ourselves instead of…
- 🎙️ Ask Me Anything – E60: The Perfectionism Nobody Warned You About (It Looks Nothing Like You Think) · 12 minPerfectionism Is Not About Being Perfect Perfectionism is not about being perfect. It's about avoiding the feeling of not being enough. In this episode of Untethering Shame, I…
- Shame & Nervous System Healing: Why It Still Feels Hard (Part 2) with Elizabeth Kipp · 40 minIf I understand my triggers, if I've done the work, why does it still feel so hard? In this episode of Untethering Shame, I sit down with Elizabeth Kipp, Stress Management and…
- 🎙️ Ask Me Anything – E59: The 2am Rehearsal (Why You Know Exactly What to Say and Still Can't Say It) · 12 minIn this episode of Untethering Shame, I answer an anonymous listener who asks: "I have a list of conversations I've been avoiding. With my partner, with a friend, with my boss…
- Shame & Masculinity: Learning Presence Instead of Performance with Alex · 52 minWhy He Says This Is A Waste Of Time "It's not a character flaw, it's a chemical state." In this episode of Untethering Shame, I sit down with Alexander Pujol, a former physician…
- 🎙️ Ask Me Anything – E58: Having Needs Doesn't Make You Needy (And Why You Were Taught Otherwise) · 12 minHaving a need is not the same as being needy. Those two got conflated so early that for a lot of us they feel identical. They're not. This week's anonymous question: "Every time…
- Shame & Your Symptoms: Why Nothing Is Wrong with You with David Bedrick · 1 t 3 min"The shame is it usually means curing yourself of yourself." In this episode of Untethering Shame, I sit down with David Bedrick, psychotherapist, teacher, and author with more…
- 🎙️ Ask Me Anything – E57: Too Much and Not Enough at the Same Time (Understanding the Core Belief That's Been Running Your Life) · 13 min · Sesong 1 Episode 57Do you carry a quiet, persistent feeling that you are somehow too much for some people and not enough for others, no matter how much work you've done? You are not alone. In this…
- Shame & Developmental Trauma: How Childhood Wounds Shape Our Worth with Jane I-Chen Liu · 58 minAt 42, Jane went home to Taiwan for Chinese New Year and stayed in a hotel instead of her parents' house. It took four decades of healing work to get there. In this episode of…
- 🎙️ Ask Me Anything – E56: Why You Can't Say No to Your Boss (And What Your Worth Has to Do With It) · 13 min · Sesong 1 Episode 56Do you say no with confidence to friends and family, then fold the second your boss sends a "do you have a few minutes?" message? You are not alone. In this episode, we get…
- Shame & the Inner Critic: Understanding the Triangle Driving Your Escape with Jessica Fern & David Cooley · 53 minWhy do we escape, what are we really running from, and what does it actually take to stop? In this episode of Untethering Shame, I sit down with psychotherapist Jessica Fern and…
- 🎙️Ask Me Anything – E55: Why Is It So Hard to Admit We’re Wrong? · 7 min · Sesong 1 Episode 57Do you know you should apologize, but feel your whole body resist the moment it's time to say the words? You are not alone. In this episode, we get honest about why…
- Shame & Division: Finding Connection Across Difference with Marcia Earhart · 52 minGrief doesn't only come from death. Sometimes it comes from the slow loss of a relationship, an identity, a place you used to belong. In this episode of Untethering Shame, I sit…
- Shame & OCPD: When Your Brain Never Stops and Society Calls It a Feature with Janice Russell · 1 t 0 minWhat if the traits you've been praised for your whole life, the perfectionism, the rule following, the relentless work ethic, were actually symptoms of a diagnosis most people…
- Shame & the Pill-Popping Culture: What Parents Don't Know and What That Silence Is Costing Our Kids with Michelle Kullman · 55 minPlease note: this episode covers substance use, fentanyl poisoning, child loss, and grief. Take care while listening. If you're struggling, you can call or text 988 (Suicide and…
- 🎙️ Ask Me Anything – E54: How to Teach Your Kids to Sit with Discomfort When You Haven't Learned It Yourself · 12 min · Sesong 1 Episode 54Do you know you should teach your kids that discomfort isn't an emergency, but freeze because you have never figured out how to sit with it yourself? You are not alone. In this…
- Shame & Boundaries: Reclaiming Hope, Choice, and the Courage to Stop Tolerating What Drains You with Elizabeth Webb · 54 minWhat happens when you have done all the things, read the books, attended the webinars, and still feel disconnected from yourself? In this episode I sit down with Elizabeth Webb…
- 🎙️ Ask Me Anything – E53: The Three Buckets That Will Change Every Relationship You Have (Needs, Wants, and What You've Been Quietly Accepting) · 12 min · Sesong 1 Episode 53Do you keep accepting things in your relationships that you never actually agreed to? You are not alone. In this episode, we get clear on the difference between what you…
- Shame & Lying: From People-Pleasing to Telling the Truth with Mary Beth Thomsen · 53 minYou lie one to two times a day. So do I. And most of those lies have nothing to do with being a bad person. In this episode I sit down with Mary Beth Thomsen, intuitive and…
- 🎙️ Ask Me Anything – E52: When You've Both Changed (How to Renegotiate a Relationship Without Blowing It Up) · 10 min · Sesong 1 Episode 52Are you feeling disconnected from your partner even though you rarely fight? You are not alone. In this episode, we address the silent distance, outdated relationship contracts…
- Shame & Childhood Trauma: How Early Wounds Become Core Beliefs in Adulthood with Sabrina Trobek · 1 t 1 minIt's not what happened to you, it's the emotion you were never allowed to feel. Therapist and author Sabrina Trobak returns to Untethered Shame to explain why "the past is the…
- 🎙️ Ask Me Anything – E51: When Family Calls You Selfish for Choosing Yourself (And How to Hold Your Ground Without Losing Yourself) · 10 min · Sesong 1 Episode 51Have you ever made a decision you knew in your gut was right — then had someone you love tell you it was wrong, until you started doubting everything? Not because new information…
- Shame & Attraction: Why Your Brain Falls for the Wrong People with Leah Mitchell · 52 minWhy do I keep choosing the people, relationships, and dynamics that confirm my deepest insecurities? That question sits at the heart of this episode. I'm joined by…
- 🎙️ Ask Me Anything – E50: Why You Keep Snapping (And What Your Reactions Are Actually Trying to Tell You) · 9 min · Sesong 1 Episode 50Are you feeling overwhelmed and constantly snapping at your loved ones? You are not alone. In this episode, we address the exhaustion, chronic stress, and burnout that lead to…
- Shame, Power, and Desire: A Trauma-Informed Look at Dominance & Submission · 49 minStop treating your burnout with toxic habits. Explore the unexpected safety of letting go of control. In this episode, we sit down with Mistress Mia, a therapeutic dominatrix who…
- Ask Me Anything – E49: I Don't Know Who I Am Anymore (How to Find Your Way Back When Burnout Took Everything) · 9 min · Sesong 1 Episode 49★ Join the Energy Audit: A free seven day email challenge starting May 24th to help you identify what is draining you and what is restoring you…
- Shame & Silence: Lessons on Listening and Love from a Child of Deaf Adults with Maria Gallucci · 42 min · Sesong 1In this episode, I sit down with Maria Gallucci, a multi-award-winning real estate agent, author, and a proud Child of Deaf Adults (CODA), to uncover the hidden realities of…
- Ask Me Anything – E48: Why Choosing Yourself Feels Like Losing Everyone (And What to Do When It Does) · 9 min · Sesong 1 Episode 48★ Join the Energy Audit: A free seven day email challenge starting May 24th to help you identify what is draining you and what is restoring you…
- Shame & Abandonment: Rescuing Your Inner Child with Bronwyn Schweigerdt · 58 minListen in on another vulnerable conversation between Bronwyn and Kyira, both therapists, as they share their own challenges and insights on engaging with their parents. This…
- 🎙️ Ask Me Anything – E47: Why Rest Isn't Restoring You (And What an Energy Audit Actually Reveals) · 8 min · Sesong 1 Episode 46★ Join the Energy Audit: A free seven day email challenge starting May 24th to help you identify what is draining you and what is restoring you…
