Am I The Problem?
von Helen Villiers MA
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4. She Hurt Me. Why Do I Still Want Her In My Life?
4. She Hurt Me. Why Do I Still Want Her In My Life?
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Answering listener's questions about dealing with narcissistic or toxic people, managing or parenting ADHD and autism. If you have a question for Helen submit it here: https://liberationacademy.co.uk/podcast/
Helen Villiers is a psychotherapist with ADHD and co-author of You're Not The Problem.
Is This A Thing? is the paid for companion episode and goes deeper into concepts mentioned in the main episode.
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- 4. She Hurt Me. Why Do I Still Want Her In My Life? · 21 Min. · Staffel 3 Folge 4A listener writes in about growing up with a parent who was controlling, critical and sometimes physically abusive, and who scrutinised her weight from childhood. She has built a…
- 3. My Dad Never Stood Up For Me. How Do I Stop Being So Angry? · 32 Min. · Staffel 3 Folge 2A listener writes in about her dad, who she used to think was the good parent. Her mum stonewalled, gaslit and shamed her and her siblings from the time they were tiny, and her…
- 2. She Says It’s Her Right To Be At The Birth. Am I Being Mean? · 29 Min. · Staffel 3 Folge 2A listener who is pregnant with her first baby writes in about her mother. At her wedding, her mum chose the colour scheme, the caterers, the venue and even the dress, and the…
- 1. He Didn’t Sign Up For A Fat Wife. Am I Being Oversensitive? · 24 Min. · Staffel 3 Folge 1A listener overhears her husband telling a room full of men he wishes she would lose weight, because he “didn’t sign up for a fat wife”. She says nothing until they get home. He…
- 12. A Work In Progress · 8 Min.You’ve spent the last 12 weeks learning how your patterns formed, how they show up, and how they affect your relationships. And if you’re anything like the brains I work with…
- 11. Conflict Or Control? · 39 Min.Someone says, “Can we talk about something?” Before they’ve even finished the sentence, your stomach drops. You’re already apologising, defending yourself, or preparing for the…
- 10. When Green Flags Feel Red · 43 Min.You meet someone who’s kind, consistent, and genuinely interested in you. They reply when they say they will. They don’t play games. They don’t leave you guessing. And somehow…
- 9. The Fear Of Becoming Your Parent · 41 Min.You promised yourself you would never be like them. You would never make your child feel the way you felt. So you do the opposite. You soften every hard edge, struggle to say no…
- 8. Is This ADHD or Shame? · 18 Min.You have a cupboard full of abandoned hobbies. A project you still can’t bring yourself to throw away. Every unfinished task feels like evidence that you’re lazy, flaky, or…
- 7. Why You Trust Too Fast Or Not At All · 24 Min.You meet someone and tell them your life story within a week. Or you’ve known someone for years and still don’t think they really know you. It can feel like you’re either all in…
- 6. Am I Protecting Myself Or Punishing Them? · 29 Min.You leave a conversation because you’re overwhelmed. You stop replying because you need space. You take a break from someone who’s hurting you. And then the guilt arrives. Not…
- 5. Why You Can't Say No · 26 Min.Someone asks for a favour. A colleague wants help. A friend needs something. Before you’ve even decided what you want to say, your body has already started preparing the yes. Not…
- 4. What Do You Actually Want? · 24 Min.You stand in the ready meal aisle for ten minutes. You change your coffee order every time. Someone asks what you fancy doing at the weekend and your mind goes oddly blank. Not…
- 3. The Apology Reflex · 27 Min.Season 2, Episode 3: “You Apologise For Existing” You apologise before you ask a question. You apologise when someone bumps into you. You apologise for taking too long, talking…
- 2. Am I Overreacting? · 30 Min.You replay conversations for hours. You ask other people if your feelings make sense. You know your reaction feels too big, except sometimes it turns out it wasn’t big enough at…
- 1. You Don't Know What You Actually Feel · 29 Min.Someone asks how you feel and you deliver a flawless twelve-minute analysis of everyone else’s motivations. Or you say “fine.” Or you get nothing at all, just a blank where the…
- 40. Is It Autism or Trauma? (Replay) · 1 Std. 22 Min.This week we're replaying one of our listeners' favourite episodes in which Patrick asks, is it autism or trauma? When we’ve grown up in chaos, it can be hard to untangle our…
- 39. Leaving With No Resources · 54 Min.In this solo episode, Helen responds to a listener who feels at breaking point in a relationship shaped by chronic stress, emotional withdrawal and fear. With two young children…
- 38. Why Does My Body Still Feel Like a Battleground? · 1 Std. 35 Min.This week Helen is joined by Lucy, and together they explore the lasting impact of growing up with criticism, shaming and emotional chaos. Despite years of therapy and increased…
- 37. Is it Still Abuse if She's Autistic? · 1 Std. 32 Min.In this episode, Helen speaks with Kate about the kind of guilt that forms when a child learns to survive by explaining away harm. Growing up in an emotionally unsafe home taught…
