Avoidance and Control
by Monique Gomez
Latest episode
Beyond The Diagnosis: Understanding Bipolar with Jeremy Davis
Beyond The Diagnosis: Understanding Bipolar with Jeremy Davis
About this podcast
Are you avoiding places and people to feel more comfortable?
Welcome to the Avoidance and Control Podcast, together we will uncover these common reactions of our nervous system and learn to use them to our advantage to get our voices heard and needs met. Join me as we step out of society's view of health and focus on skills over symptoms. Host Monique Gomez former mental health clinician turned Trauma and Resilience Life Coach, will simplify the science to help you navigate being a human with reactions, tools to support, and how her coaching to reach compassion beyond your imagination.
Episodes
The newest 20 of 80 episodes
- Beyond The Diagnosis: Understanding Bipolar with Jeremy Davis · 38 min · Season 5 Episode 12What if understanding your mental health starts with recognizing how you think? Author Jeremy Davis joins us to explore bipolar, internal personas, trauma, and tools for…
- Why You Can't Just Calm Down · 19 min · Season 5 Episode 11What if the reason you keep spiraling isn't simply that you're feeling too much? What if your body is responding to a perceived threat, your mind is trying to make sense of it…
- The Necessary Work of Rage & Grief with Jana Bryant · 38 min · Season 5 Episode 10You cannot come to calm when your body is raging or trying to grief. Peace doesn’t come from escaping the messiness of being human. It comes from learning to stay present with…
- Why Chaos Feels Familiar with Kristen Constantino · 38 min · Season 5 Episode 9You weren’t born believing you had to earn love. Somewhere along the way, you learned it. You learned to mistake chaos for chemistry, overgiving for love, and emotional pain for…
- Just What You Do:The Life You're Supposed To Want · 36 min · Season 5 Episode 8What if some of the things you think you want were never actually your desires—they were expectations you learned so early that they started to feel like your identity? In this…
- 3 Reasons I Won't Go Back to Mental Health Therapy · 25 min · Season 5 Episode 7This episode is brought to you by my reminders of therapeutic burnout after visiting a therapist community gathering. Iam no longer burnt out, even when I went back this year as…
- They Told Me I Needed This Medication for the Rest of My Life... · 48 min · Season 5 Episode 6What happens when you’re given a diagnosis, told what your future will look like, and expected to trust the system without questioning it? Her hyperthyroidism story takes us…
- I Kept Sabotaging My Money-Until I Stopped Blaming Myself · 12 min · Season 5 Episode 5"You never self-sabotage," my partner said, right before I fell back into an old story. Even after 3-4 years of consistently working on my money story; in calm of my weeks I…
- Two Tools to Help You Process Emotions · 9 min · Season 5 Episode 4That feeling in your body that something is wrong, "I don't feel like myself," is often something that can be solved with these tools. In this episode: • personal story of…
- What If You're Answers Aren't In Fixing Yourself? - but in Learning How to Live? · 39 min · Season 5 Episode 3In 38 minutes, we go way beyond the Inner Critic. We talk about getting regulated, discovering what you actually want, creating passion and joy, and learning to “fight for peace”…
- What is The Empowerment Timeline & Why I Use It? · 10 min · Season 5 Episode 2If you've never seen strength and growth in your history, you want to try this therapy in a group setting. The Empowerment Timeline is a group experience that is Salutogenic…
- The Terrible Thing That Almost Killed Me Was a Positive: Timeline Demonstration with Kristen Searcy · 53 min · Season 5 Episode 1What if you’ve spent years trying to change your body, earn approval, or become the version of yourself you think other people will accept? In This Coaching Experience: • we…
- Freeing The Good Girl: A SAFNET Demonstration with Amanda Clark · 48 min · Season 4 Episode 18After years of emotional distance, avoided conversations, and fragile boundaries, one final timeline reveals what happens when truth is spoken—not to repair the past, but to…
- The Perimenopause Power Shift: Advocacy & Empowerment t · 43 min · Season 4 Episode 17What happens when millions of women are experiencing a major biological transition, yet many medical professionals receive little training on how to recognize or treat it? Today…
- Patterns Part2: When You Don't Know Patterns Are Destroying You · 20 min · Season 4 Episode 16Sometimes the biggest problem isn’t the conflict, the breakup, the burnout, or the dissatisfaction with your life. The biggest problem is not realizing that your patterns are…
- Perfectionism Is Protection: Where It Comes From & 3 Tools to Finally Let Go · 15 min · Season 4 Episode 15I didn't know I was a perfectionist until I began feeling safe in my body and stopped trying to control the uncontrollable. Introducing the biggest failure of my life and how I…
- From Reactivity to Regulation: Rewriting Co-Parenting with Sol Kennedy · 28 min · Season 4 Episode 14From high-conflict divorce to healing—how one founder built an AI tool to help parents regulate, reconnect, and co-parent with clarity. In this episode, we sit down with Sol…
- The Parenting Program That Actually Changes Behavior · 3 min · Season 4 Episode 13Burnout. Behavior issues. Stress. These are challenges so many families face—and there’s a powerful, evidence-based solution that helps. 8-week evidence-based curriculum that…
- Somatic Healing Through Divorce with Madisen Rose · 34 min · Season 4 Episode 12Explore somatic healing through divorce with Madisen Rose—nervous system tools for grief, rupture, anger, and rebuilding self-trust from within. Madisen Rose is a somatic…
- Resentment is Draining You: The Healing Power of Forgiveness with Stephen Tolfree · 34 min · Season 4 Episode 11What happens when resentment from workplace conflict follows you long after the situation ends? Many people carry anger, betrayal, or injustice from toxic work environments, and…
